Tag: authority

  • When the Man Gets it Wrong

    Being submissive to anyone presents unique challenges. It requires humility, great trust, and a unique way of doing things, since you won’t be in the driver’s seat, or making the decisions. One common fear, and a problem every wife will face, is when a husband makes a mistake, or does something wrong. He is the…

  • Why They Hate You.

    The couple that practices discipline knows that mainstream society in this culture hates them. That hatred doesn’t speak for every individual, but it speaks for the leaning of the society, and the bulk of its people. The man who leads his home and disciplines his wife is viewed as an evil abuser and worthy of…

  • Realizing Your Authority

    One of the difficulties men have in taking on headship over their wives, and also in disciplining them, is in realizing the true authority they have. This may also be a challenge for men who understand they have headship, and believe in it intellectually or spiritually, but have seen headship softened to the extent they…

  • The Paddle

    The paddle has an already established reputation as a tool of punishment in schools, and brings to mind immediately crime and punishment, and the authority figure who will wield it.  The paddle is also a common instrument in marital spanking, and one of the ones you’d least like to meet. There are husbands who use…

  • The Belt

    The belt as an instrument of discipline holds a special place in the hearts of many who use it, and even those who receive it. Punishment with a belt carries a unique aura that even those who don’t prefer this instrument will admit exists. Some husbands find it their preferred method of discipline, and find…

  • Calling Him Sir

    Having a wife speak to her husband with a term of honor during discipline is nearly universal in wife spanking. I will have my wife use “sir,” but you will find it is a personalized choice, and other husbands have their wives use other terms. The use of honorific language, terms that clearly state his…

  • On Standing Her in the Corner

    When I began spanking in marriage, I did not have much use for the tradition of giving a punished wife time in the corner when she is spanked. I appreciated the need for her to think about her deeds, and to await punishment simply by having her wait for her punishment, usually kneeling before the…

  • Wife Spanking vs. BDSM

    When discussing wife spanking in its various forms, someone always asks whether this is the same kind of thing as BDSM, which most people recognize as the whips n’ chains thing. How is this differentiated from the well-known persona of the leather world, or dungeons, or people who sign slave contracts? To tell you the…

  • Reinforcing Authority During Discipline

    Most husbands make sure that a discipline session reinforces their authority, and their wife’s submission in more ways that just the lecture and spanking. Each husband may have his own practices, or rituals, but nearly all make sure that reinforcement besides the spanking is there. The way he speaks to her, the way she needs…

  • How it Helps You Everyday

    One of the benefits of spanking your wife that I cannot emphasize enough is that it accentuates your verbal instructions to her, and gives plenty of power to your verbal warnings. It does not act in isolation, but acts together with your words. That is one way that domestic discipline will help you out every…

  • What Men Need to Learn

    This essay isn’t about what men need to learn about spanking. It’s really about what men need to learn about their leadership in the home, so they can later see how spanking falls into place. I write it especially because of the number of women who have tried to tell their husbands they need that…

  • Non-Spanking Discipline

    No one should feel limited to using spankings as the only form of discipline. You will find that some households use non-spanking discipline together with spanking, and others uniquely gear their correction around non-spanking methods. While I have used spanking from the start of my marriage, and would not go back, I have supplemented it…

  • How to Introduce Spanking in Your Marriage

    I introduced discipline into my marriage from the start. That means I explained discipline to her before marriage and while we were still going out. I wouldn’t have had it any other way. It was important for us to discuss the nature of marriage, and we were both agreed on the man’s role as the…