Tag: leadership

  • What Got You Started?

    These are some things I hear from men and women who want discipline in their home, or who have already started it. I hear many of the same factors at work in starting discipline: My wife has been disrespectful to me our whole marriage, and she won’t do what I say. Maybe spanking will help…

  • Why Men Like to Spank

    I’ve written before on reasons women love getting spanked, and I’d like to similarly discuss why men like spanking their wives. I felt more compelled to write the first article, because to many people it’s counterintuitive that women love to be spanked, and it’s assumed they would never want their husbands to tell them what…

  • Realizing Your Authority

    One of the difficulties men have in taking on headship over their wives, and also in disciplining them, is in realizing the true authority they have. This may also be a challenge for men who understand they have headship, and believe in it intellectually or spiritually, but have seen headship softened to the extent they…

  • There is No Such Thing as a Dom

    Man has a natural desire and need of leadership above him. It is built into his soul. We are meant both the lead, and to be led, in different ways and to different levels of completion. This is why it’s far from rare for people to seek out personal spanking relationships outside of their natural…

  • High Gear and Intensive Training

    Much of what a husband does in leading his beloved wife amounts to training her. He shapes her to have a right attitude, leads her growth in virtue. Corrects her with gentle words, and with punishments. He aims to make her blossom as a submissive wife and woman of God. As one of the men…

  • Discipline Practices I Do NOT Use, and Ones I Discourage

    Husbands who have been leading in discipline for even a short while learn that you are making decisions from early on in building your discipline system, and in how you spank. You learn from trial and error, from imagination, from hearing from other couples and their unique practices. Over time you develop your accepted standards,…

  • When She Wants to Get Punished

    A phenomenon many men are familiar with is the wife that does something just so she can get into trouble and be spanked. Usually, it’s something minor, but enough to get her husband’s attention and some time over his knee. This is usually referred to in domestic discipline as bratting, but just think of it…

  • Is Spanking Only for Surly Women?

    It’s keen to notice that even those who are accepting of wife spanking tend to think it’s useful only for surly women, or for those who otherwise love it. A man considering spanking for his marriage may think the same way — if she’s got bad attitude I will use it, if not, forget it.…

  • Leadership Like Christ

    You will find that the man’s leadership of his wife parallels the leadership that the Lord Jesus practices toward His people. This is one of the ways marriage manifests the divine, just as it does in expressing His love and His sacrifice. Marriage is in abundant ways a picture of the Savior. We see that…

  • Thank You for the Spanking, Sir

    It is natural and common after a spanking for husbands to expect their wives to thank them for the correction they’ve just received. This is a simple verbal — thank you, sir — that she can express her gratitude with. You will find that this is the norm in many homes, but also that some…

  • Starting Discipline in the Home

    Once you have decided to correct your wife with spanking, your next step is to put this into practice in the home. Some of this may amount to establishing clear leadership and rules in the home, if you have not done that already. For others, it my simply amount to starting to enforce the rules…

  • If You Want This For Your Marriage

    For many men and women it is attractive to have spanking in their marriage, and they would like to know how to approach it with a future mate. It seems like a dream, but very counter cultural, especially as a form of discipline. They love the power exchange of a spanking. The excitement. The effective…

  • It’s a Wonderful Life

    I would like for others to have what I have. I may not have a flawlessly perfect marriage, but it is wonderful and happy and peaceful. We seek to live out what God teaches us in His Word and do it as a family. I want that for others, and I truly hate to see…

  • What Men Need to Learn

    This essay isn’t about what men need to learn about spanking. It’s really about what men need to learn about their leadership in the home, so they can later see how spanking falls into place. I write it especially because of the number of women who have tried to tell their husbands they need that…

  • Make Her a Better Woman

    It’s important to remember that the goal of the discipline you deliver, much like the goal of your loving and leading every day is to make her a better person. Discipline takes care of the harsher edge of that, but it is keeping in line with the great love you have for her, and your…

  • What Men Need to Learn

    This essay isn’t about what men need to learn about spanking. It’s really about what men need to learn about their leadership in the home, so they can later see how spanking falls into place. I write it especially because of the number of women who have tried to tell their husbands they need that…

  • Spanking in its Rightful Place

    It seems for both those who are interested in spanking and those who are disinterested in it, there are common misunderstandings about what spanking in a relationship is really about. These misunderstandings can lead one to greatly misuse spanking, or to wrongly dismiss it as a pointless practice. I want to clear some of that…