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Serving Him:
One of the simplest and well known ways to help a woman grow in submission and in yielding to her man is to have her regularly give oral sex. She should be comfortable kneeling before him, pleasuring him, opening up for him when he desires. She should learn to satisfy him as he desires. Spending time regularly on her knees helps a woman in her sense of belonging to him, and in her sense of submission to him. It is appropriate in a wife learning all these things. The position itself teaches submission to her man over her, the act teaches her to be open to her man’s desire and command, and gives her a chance to feel his power intimately. It teaches her to focus herself on his pleasure and fulfilling his desire.
Naturally, the husband should be in the lead when he’s having his wife give head. Some women view giving head as the opposite; as a means to control their man. The husband should be sure to be in the lead. He tells her when to pleasure him. He instructs her on how to give pleasure — how to use her lips, her tongue, her throat, her hands. He tells her when to take his cock deep. He shows when he is pleased with her work, and what he likes, but he does not lose control.
A man also instructs his wife in her womanhood while she fellates him. He tells her she belongs to him, her mouth belongs to him, her lips belong to him, her body belongs to him. She needs to give everything up to her man. She is under his power, and is completely his. Your words help a woman to learn her place when she is on her knees. Teach her the way to please her man.
You should also make sure that she works hard when you send her on her knees to pleasure you. Don’t let her get away with only working on your cock. Make sure she spends much time pleasuring your balls, and is thorough about it. She should learn to take care of you completely. Take your time in training her in what you like. Be prepared to be patient, as it can take time for her to learn, be it the acts themselves, or your personal tastes. A woman may need ample time to learn to take you into her throat, for example. Keep working on it with her and she will learn. If there are techniques you want from her, give her explicit instructions. She will pick up naturally on many things that excite you, but your tastes may change over time, so there is always some adapting to do. Most importantly, is that she is focused on giving herself to you completely, and serving you on her knees.
Naturally, a man aids his wife in her submission when he physically takes charge of the act: he takes her calmly and with control, and guides her face down on his member. She can feel his hands grasping her hair and around her cheeks. He moves her down and up as he desires. He may take her mouth as he takes her in bed, stuffing her wide open face with his cock, thrusting into her until she knows she is a receptacle for his desire. In this way most boldly, he takes control and she loses it.
The man may be enjoying her mouth to his great pleasure, but he can also take the time to stimulate her body as well, with his hands, as he opens her up and tells her what to do. He should enjoy the sight of her body, and she should know how much he desires her by the casual movement of his hands on her flesh. By his words when she does well. He is calm and firm and in control while he takes his wife’s mouth.
There is nothing like giving regular oral pleasure to her man to aid a woman in her softness. She needs to go down on her knees for him. It becomes her normal position. She learns to be passionate about giving him pleasure and excited by losing control. Her devoted sexual service helps her blossom in her daily submission. I’m not going to tell you how often your wife ought to be giving you head, but it should be common. Between giving it while making love, as a form of training, or as a sign of graciousness after she is disciplined, she will spend much time on her knees, open wide, and pleasuring her man.
It bears mentioning again, that in speaking about sex in submission, I am not trying to suggest that intimacy between man and wife is simply a one-way experience. With a wife giving all the pleasure, and the man getting it. I am speaking uniquely of having her give head to enhance her submission. I describe a method of training. That does not reflect what the marriage bed looks like day to day and week to week. Naturally in the marriage bed, both partners share their bodies, and with sharing their bodies comes caring about the pleasure of their partner. A man should care deeply about the pleasure of his wife during intimacy and seek to satisfy her, bot sexually and emotionally. That is his responsibility as her husband. I speak of her oral training as a separate practice from that, to help her grow as a devoted wife.
I’m Going to be Good Now:
Sex is often used to enhance headship and submission after a discipline session has been given. Some couples use sexual activity afterward only for a reconnect, and regularly use it as a time to make love. They almost immediately go under the covers after a spanking. Others use intimacy as a means to reestablish the order that’s been broken by her misbehavior. It gets things back in their place.The man is in control. The woman is yielding to him. They are as close as they can ever be.
In many homes, a woman may need to perform orally for her man to thank him for giving her the discipline. It is her way of showing appreciation for the guidance she’s just received. He’s taken the time, thought, strength, and energy to discipline his wife. He may want a sign of her appreciation, along with a verbal “thank you, sir.” She may also need to pleasure him to show what her new and better attitude will be. It is the attitude reflected in the act. Oral sex is especially appropriate for this, as she is on her knees, manifesting her position before her man, and is working to please him. A woman giving oral after getting spanked is making things right with the one she has offended, and she is giving him a great example of her future behavior. Her softness, and her desire to please is on display in fellating him.
Her husband may encourage her, while she works down there, about her future good behavior and what he looks forward to seeing from her. He may also remind her that he is the one who looks after her, guides her, teaches her, and corrects her. She is greatly valued, but she needs to follow her man at all times. She needs to serve him. He tells her he is sure she can do it, and is confident in her growth in submission. She receives instruction while his manhood is deep within her.
Some women find it very natural to kneel and fellate their man after being spanked. They have already felt his power and want to submit to it in a form much more pleasant than a spanking. They’ve just been tenderized and yearn to show their complete submission. Other wives do not find it easy, and it grates on their ego, especially after already being humbled and corrected. With time, they will see the purpose and value of this service, and at least will do it out of obedience because their man desires.
Extra Toppings:
Like with oral, many husbands train their wives to be submissive by giving them anal sex. They see that the difficulty of the act requires greater giving and greater submission on her part. They see how it makes her more submissive. They also recognize that a wife who has been taken in her backside now has held nothing back from her man. He’s had her every way he can. It is natural for men to see this very dominant act as a simple way to top their wives. They like that some pain us often involved. Occasionally anal becomes used as a way to finish discipline, and reestablish submission, but from all the discussion I’ve seen, that’s not terribly common in domestic discipline.
While I can see why anal is popular as a powerful tool in teaching submission, I do not recommend it. As you have likely read elsewhere, this act is grossly against the body’s design, which is why it leads to both short-term and long-term injuries, as well as infections. Your wife may have to live with embarrassing and painful problems for many years. It doesn’t take long reading forums on this practice to hear what some of the results are — which only echo the medical facts and the statistics on it. I read one man who praised anal and thought it was great explain that he and his wife used to do it for years –until she finally became incontinent and they had to stop. Fantastic.
I don’t think any man who cares for his wife would want that for her, nor any man who cares for health or cleanliness, want filth and feces in the marriage bed. If you love your wife do you want her to have to wear diapers? Even couples who take precautions frequently suffer the terrible results anyway, because precautions don’t make the act a natural or a safe one. It is harmful to play around with. That includes long-term injury. There are those who recognize all this, and decide instead to replace anal sex with milder forms of anal penetration or play, and this may alleviate some of the risks, but you would still be playing around with something filthy which stinks. There are many ways to teach a woman submission, either sexually or otherwise, which do not involve violating our natural design, and leaving her severely injured. I recommend using other ways that work, and not this currently popular practice. A wise person doesn’t really want poop in their bed.
I’ve read several writers on marriage and sex who say that a wife may refuse a husband’s request for anal because it is flatly wrong. From her submissive position, she may practice disobedience while otherwise maintaining reverence for him. I respect that view. However, I don’t believe she should make avoiding anal a point of contention. I don’t think it is important enough to make a conflict over. I would just advise the wife to make her desires known to her husband, and explain why she dislikes it, and why it is harmful. A considerate husband will either hear her and stop, or at least try to make it easier for her. One husband writing on his wife’s distaste for it said he agreed to only take her there once or twice a year. that led to an end to her objections, and at least kept the peace. He was not prepared to quit his practice, but was willing to be considerate, up to a point. It is better for husband and wife to work things out in similar ways, with love, than to let it become a fight.
Summary:
A man leading his wife should never forget that leading her in marital life and leading her in the marriage bed are united and walk together. The beautiful tower of leadership and submission and the sex act between man and wife interpenetrate each other. They unite through your shared life. They aid one another, and express one another. A man who is leading his wife in her growth in virtue and submission will find he has similar control in bed. A man who shows her his power and his care in bed, will find the same loving control needed every day. Use the marriage bed to deepen your headship and submission just as it deepens you love.
You may do this every time you take her in bed, showing her that you hold and posses her. Teaching with your hands, lips, and organ the power you have, along with your intimate knowledge you have of her, and skill at bringing her slowly to satisfaction. You may do this by keeping your wife regularly open to you sexually, and naked before you. Teach her to learn to respond to your commands, so that she knows her body is yours on your command: you master her body as you master her soul. Lead her in giving up all resistance to you. She should know to strip, get on her knees, or bend over upon your words.
You can also aid her in submissiveness, and softness to you, by keeping her serving you sexually until she is accustomed to it; until kneeling before you is easy, and the norm. Teach her that her sexual response to you reflects her attitude and submission to you, so she can deeply express her belonging and femininity through her body. As she serves you, instruct her, and help her learn your desires, and your desire for her. She should know you possess her. She is completely your desire. She can learn submission through giving herself after being disciplined as well, as her sexual service helps her learn the right attitude, which is her humility before you, and desire to pleasure you.
Sexual submission is far from the entire picture of submission, or helping a woman through discipline. Yet it helps deepen submission and soften her. It helps her lose some false pride and self-will. It also brings her great joy, as she learns the profound and beautiful things that her body expresses, and that what you do with her body expresses. She learns her body then is a way to practice submission and be feminine for you. Most of us know this in our mind, but it is deeper to learn it in experience, and for a woman to be well trained in it. You are in control. She is not going to train herself. Use intimacy to help lead her to be a gentle, beautiful, fulfilled wife.
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