Learn about this Site: For starters I would recommend reading the Introduction right here, which describes the purpose of the site and a brief explanation of discipline. You can also look through the articles in my Beginner’s Guide.
ACCURACY:
While this site includes an accurate general portrait of my experience and marriage, certain details have been changed for the sake of anonymity. I discuss this briefly in The Real Thing.
I am Aron, a happily married man.
I am the head of my home and have been leading my wife since the beginning of our marriage over fifteen years ago. I lead, discipline, and correct her with spankings. We have a great deal of peace and harmony in our home, and raise our five children up in faith and admonition of the Lord.
I am a regular man, and most people who meet us find we have a good example of a marriage and home. They can tell we have love, enjoy each other, and seek to glorify Christ through our family.
I started this website because I want others to benefit from discipline in marriage and from a respect for the man’s authority in general. It works. It helps to make marriage function successfully. I hope you are blessed in marriage by all the material here.
Comment on Spank Your Wife:
You are welcome to add your thoughts or questions to our comments section below the articles. I accept a variety of comments from people who are interested in wife spanking, as well as some who are involved in bdsm, although I edit the ones which are more extreme or immoral. I don’t allow anything with children being involved in adult spankings.
The comments do not necessarily reflect my views or my experience, but are the voice of the reading public. Some I strongly agree with, others I do not. A few comments certainly include some amount of fantasy. It’s the internet so we don’t know. I also ask that comments are related to the article above it, and seek to add insight, experience, or ask questions about the subject.
I do accept comments from those who disagree with the practice of wife spanking. You’ll find a few already. However, I do not want long debates over it, and the pure hater comments I usually just delete.
Keep it real, and glorify God.
Faith Statement
Since this marriage guide is a ministry, and since all the Christian does is a ministry, I thought it was right to have a simple statement of faith here. The author’s faith is within the teachings of the historical Protestant Christian faith, and I would be in a agreement with orthodox Protestants in all major theological areas, though not in every minor one. I would affirm the main early Creeds of the Church, including the Apostles’, Nicene, and Athanasian Creed. I have no connection to pseudo-Christian sects, such as the JWs, Mormons, Adventists, Oneness, Universalist, or Hebrew Roots movements. In this era it is also necessary to note I reject the notion that sexual morality has changed, or that the nature of marriage has changed. Sex is between a man and a woman in marriage, and marriage is a union of one man and one woman for life. Human life has dignity and should be protected from conception to natural death.
Articles by Subject
I decided to put up many of my articles according to their general subject on this page. I thought it would make them easier to find, since there are so many. This is a work in progress.
Website Introduction
Welcome to Spank Your Wife: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/04/08/welcomeandleearning/
What is this Discipline Guide All About?: https://www.spankingyourwife.com/2024/02/02/what-is-spank-your-wife/
Spanking Elements
What Does a Spanking Session Look Like: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/04/08/what-does-a-discipline-session-look-like/
What to Spank For: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/04/08/crime-punishment-what-to-spank-for/
Spanking Instruments: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/04/08/spanking-instruments-making-music-together/
Places to Give a Spanking: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/04/08/spankings-happen-here/
The Mindset to Give Discipline: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/04/08/the-mindset-to-give-discipline/
When She Tries to Get Out of a Spanking: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/04/08/when-she-tries-to-get-out-of-a-spanking/
Finding a Discipline Partner: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/04/08/where-can-i-find-a-discipline-partner/
Why Women Love to be Spanked: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/04/08/why-women-love-to-be-spanked/
Restoring Her after a Spanking: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/04/11/restoring-her-after-a-spanking/
Non-Spanking Discipline: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/04/15/non-spanking-discipline/
Tears During a Spanking: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/04/15/tears-during-a-spanking/
Spanking Positions: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/04/18/well-positioned/
Spanking as Training: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/04/24/spanking-as-training/
A Spanking Hurts: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/04/28/hard-and-long/
How Often to Spank: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/05/01/whats-the-frequency/
Resistance During a Spanking: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/05/06/218/
Using Appropriate Severity: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/05/07/varying-the-heat/
Spanking is for Bottoms: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/05/10/that-really-hits-the-spot/
Nudity During Discipline: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/05/10/woman-uncovered/
Silent Punishments: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/05/21/the-silent-treatment/
Leaving the Lady Sore: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/05/22/in-favor-of-a-sore-backside/
Mouth Soaping as Punishment: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/05/31/keep-her-mouth-clean/
Saying “Thank You” After Being Spanked: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/06/05/thank-you-for-the-spanking-sir/
Reinforcing Authority During Discipline: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/06/09/reinforcing-authority-during-discipline/
Reinforcing Love During Discipline: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/06/19/reinforcing-love-during-discipline/
Standing Her in the Corner: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/06/21/on-standing-her-in-the-corner/
When She Wants to Get Punished: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/06/24/when-she-wants-to-get-punished/
Calling Him Sir: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/06/26/calling-him-sir/
What Makes an Effective Spanking: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/07/15/what-makes-an-effective-spanking/
Number of Strokes: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/07/25/im-counting-on-you/
Discipline Practices I Do Not Use: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/08/12/discipline-practices-i-do-not-use-and-ones-i-discourage/
Discipline and Forgiveness: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/08/26/discipline-and-forgiveness/
The Wait Before the Spanking: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/08/29/it-was-worth-the-wait/
Intensive Training Sessions: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/09/09/high-gear-and-intensive-training/
More Spanking Locations (Travel Time): https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/09/15/spankings-happen-here-part-2-on-the-road-again/
Experiencing Real Remorse: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/09/26/experiencing-real-remorse/
Preparing to Give a Spanking: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/10/03/preparing-to-give-a-spanking/
Mouth Soaping Instructions: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/12/21/mouth-soaping/
Do You Have a Written Contract?: https://spankingyourwife.com/2021/01/02/do-you-have-a-written-contract/
How to Not Go Overboard: https://spankingyourwife.com/2021/01/08/how-to-not-go-overboard/
The Variety in Wife Spanking: https://spankingyourwife.com/2021/02/13/loving-the-variety/
The Value of Consistency: https://spankingyourwife.com/2021/02/20/the-mighty-consistency/
Keep Your Woman Bare: https://spankingyourwife.com/2021/03/05/keeping-her-bare/
Discipline Practices I do NOT Use [Part 2]: https://spankingyourwife.com/2021/03/19/dd-practices-i-do-not-use-part-2/
Consent in a Spanking Marriage: https://spankingyourwife.com/2021/04/09/consent-in-a-spanking-marriage/
Answering Men’s Questions: https://spankingyourwife.com/2021/04/23/what-can-a-man-do/
A Woman’s Fears about Spanking and Submission: https://spankingyourwife.com/2021/05/14/the-answer-to-fears/
What a Wife Needs After She is Spanked: https://spankingyourwife.com/2021/05/28/what-a-woman-needs-after-she-is-spanked/
Humbling a Rebellious Wife: https://spankingyourwife.com/2021/06/25/humbling-a-rebellious-woman/
Should you Tie Her Up?: https://spankingyourwife.com/2021/07/09/the-use-of-restraints/
Meet Women Mentors for Women: https://spankingyourwife.com/2021/07/20/wives-teaching-wives/
Can a Wife be Too Good to be Spanked? https://spankingyourwife.com/2021/07/30/too-good-to-be-spanked/
Spanking Puts Bad Habits into the Past: https://spankingyourwife.com/2021/08/13/bad-habits-spanking-puts-in-the-past/
How Spanking Cleanses a Woman: https://spankingyourwife.com/2021/09/10/how-spanking-cleanses-a-woman/
On Public Spankings: https://spankingyourwife.com/2021/10/08/that-group-thing/
Kneeling in Marriage: https://spankingyourwife.com/2021/10/22/kneeling-in-marriage/
What’s a Light Spanking Good For?: https://spankingyourwife.com/2021/11/05/mr-light-hand/
When to Pause or End Spanking: https://spankingyourwife.com/2021/11/26/when-to-pause-or-end-spanking/
The Warm-Up Spanking: https://spankingyourwife.com/2021/12/31/a-note-on-the-warm-up-spanking/
A Proper Thrashing: https://spankingyourwife.com/2022/02/10/a-proper-thrashing/
Asking for a Spanking: https://spankingyourwife.com/2022/03/17/i-think-i-need-a-spanking-sir/
Husbands Learn from Other Husbands: https://spankingyourwife.com/2022/04/29/learn-from-experienced-spanking-husbands/
Does Spanking Keep us from Being Friends?: https://spankingyourwife.com/2022/05/27/does-spanking-interfere-with-our-laughter-and-fun/
Discipline when Children are in the Home: https://spankingyourwife.com/2022/09/02/continuing-discipline-when-children-are-in-the-home/
Trust: https://spankingyourwife.com/2022/08/12/trust/
Spanking is Not a Lifestyle: https://spankingyourwife.com/2022/07/29/spanking-is-not-a-lifestyle/
Repeat Spankings: https://spankingyourwife.com/2022/07/15/repeat-spankings/
Fear in Spanking: https://spankingyourwife.com/2022/06/10/fear-in-spanking/
Training Spankings Again: https://spankingyourwife.com/2022/10/14/theres-that-maintenance-thing/
Successes from our Readers: https://spankingyourwife.com/2022/11/11/you/
OTK Position: https://spankingyourwife.com/2023/02/03/otk-and-you/
Bad Behavior in Public: https://spankingyourwife.com/2023/02/17/bad-behavior-in-public/
Keeping Her Silent During a Spanking: https://spankingyourwife.com/2023/03/16/silence-of-the-madames/
One Her Back Spanking Position: https://spankingyourwife.com/2023/05/12/punished-on-her-back/
Discipline During Pregnancy: https://spankingyourwife.com/2023/06/30/spanking-and-pregnancy/
Correcting a Wife’s Bad Attitude: https://spankingyourwife.com/2023/10/20/attitude-an-offense-without-a-rule/
Punishing the Worst Behavior: https://spankingyourwife.com/2023/11/03/she-did-a-very-very-bad-bad-thing/
Rating the Spanking Instruments: https://www.spankingyourwife.com/2024/01/19/instrument-ratings/
Problems You Have Without Discipline: https://www.spankingyourwife.com/2024/02/16/problems-you-have-without-discipline/
When Crying During a Spanking Seems Impossible: https://www.spankingyourwife.com/2024/02/29/why-cant-i-cry/
The Bent Over Position: https://www.spankingyourwife.com/2024/04/04/the-art-of-bent-over/
Leadership and Submission:
What Men Need to Learn: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/04/17/what-men-need-to-learn/
Leadership Like Christ: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/06/05/leadership-like-christ/
Realizing Your Authority: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/12/12/realizing-your-authority/
Submission of the Bride: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/10/17/submission-of-the-bride/
Practical Submission: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/11/07/practical-submission/
There is No Such Thing as a Dom: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/11/21/there-is-no-such-thing-as-a-dom/
Helping a Wife See Her Responsibility: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/12/05/helping-a-wife-see-her-responsibility/
Men Afraid to Give a Spanking that Hurts: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/12/17/men-afraid-to-give-a-spanking-that-hurts/
When Can a Woman Say No to Her Husband?: https://spankingyourwife.com/2021/06/11/when-can-a-woman-say-no-to-her-husband/
How Spanking Makes Men Better Leaders: https://spankingyourwife.com/2021/08/27/how-spanking-makes-men-better-leaders/
A Young Wife Learn to Accept Discipline: https://spankingyourwife.com/2021/12/03/a-young-wife-learns-to-accept-discipline/
Spanking and Empowerment: https://spankingyourwife.com/2021/12/17/does-spanking-empower-a-wife/
Use Speech to Respect Your Husband: https://spankingyourwife.com/2023/01/19/wives-learn-respectful-speech/
What to Do If the Man is Wrong: https://spankingyourwife.com/2023/03/03/when-the-man-gets-it-wrong/
Wives Letting Go: https://spankingyourwife.com/2023/04/14/wives-letting-go/
How to be a Meek Leader: https://spankingyourwife.com/2023/04/28/how-to-be-meek-from-a-position-of-authority/
Managing Your Wife: Finances: https://spankingyourwife.com/2023/08/04/managing-your-wife-finances/
Do You Need to Be an Alpha Male: https://spankingyourwife.com/2023/08/25/is-spanking-only-for-macho-men/
Managing Your Wife: Emotional Outbursts: https://spankingyourwife.com/2023/09/08/managing-your-wife-emotional-outbursts/
Advice from a Submissive Wife: https://spankingyourwife.com/2023/09/21/a-submissive-wifes-testimony-and-advice/
Protecting Your Wife from Negative Influences:
spankingyourwife.com/2023/11/24/keeping-wife-and-home-free-of-negative-influences/
Do You Have Time to Give Discipline?:
spankingyourwife.com/2023/12/08/do-you-have-time-to-give-discipline/
Managing Your Wife: Eating and Health:
spankingyourwife.com/2024/01/05/managing-your-wife-eating-and-health/
Women Want Men to Lead: https://www.spankingyourwife.com/2024/04/26/the-number-one-thing-i-hear-from-readers/
Verbal Instructions and Lecturing:
A Script of a Spanking Lecture: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/04/08/what-does-a-spanking-sound-like/
Words are More Effective During a Spanking: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/05/04/speak-to-her-soul/
Leading Her with Words: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/07/03/leading-her-with-words/
The Verbal Correction: https://spankingyourwife.com/2021/02/06/the-verbal-correction/
Use of the Warning: https://spankingyourwife.com/2021/04/16/use-of-the-warning/
What a Wife should Affirm during Discipline: https://spankingyourwife.com/2022/03/31/what-a-woman-should-affirm-during-discipline/
Managing Your Discipline Session: https://spankingyourwife.com/2022/09/30/managing-your-discipline-session/
Introduce Discipline to Your Marriage:
How to Introduce Spanking: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/04/08/how-to-introduce-spanking-in-your-marriage/
Asking Your Man to Spank You: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/05/16/asking-your-man-to-spank-you/
If You Want this For Your Marriage: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/05/22/if-you-want-this-for-your-marriage/
Starting Discipline in the Home: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/05/25/starting-discipline-in-the-home/
A Wife’s First Spanking: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/07/07/a-wifes-first-spanking/
Why I Chose Spanking for My Marriage: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/07/31/why-i-chose-spanking-for-my-marriage/
Facing Your First Spanking: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/08/15/facing-your-first-spanking/
Testimony about Discipline Improving a Marriage: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/11/11/discipline-turns-around-a-marriage/
Getting Started: Three Early Rules: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/11/27/getting-started-three-early-rules/
Steps in Turning a Marriage Around: https://spankingyourwife.com/2021/01/29/steps-in-turning-a-marriage-around/
A Place for Singles: https://spankingyourwife.com/2021/04/01/your-place-for-singles/
That Tender Early Period: https://spankingyourwife.com/2022/01/27/that-tender-early-period/
Getting Past Early Resistance: https://spankingyourwife.com/2022/02/18/making-it-past-early-resistance/
A Wife Gets Her First Spanking: https://spankingyourwife.com/2022/07/01/a-wife-and-the-new-world-of-spanking/
A Beginner’s Guide: https://spankingyourwife.com/2022/08/26/a-beginners-guide/
Common Difficulties in Starting Spanking: https://spankingyourwife.com/2022/12/16/common-difficulties-in-starting-spanking/
Prepare for Discipline Before Marriage: https://spankingyourwife.com/2023/07/21/why-prepare-for-discipline-before-marriage/
Descriptions of a Discipline Session:
Description of Discipline: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/05/16/description-of-a-discipline-session/
A Discipline for Arguing: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/06/13/description-of-discipline-for-arguing/
A Discipline for Lateness: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/08/19/description-of-discipline-for-lateness/
A Paddle Discipline: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/10/24/description-of-a-paddle-discipline/
A Discipline for Bad Mouth: https://spankingyourwife.com/2021/09/24/description-of-a-discipline-for-bad-mouth/
A Discipline from a Couple from India: https://spankingyourwife.com/2023/06/08/discipline-description-from-india/
Description of a Discipline with Resistance: https://www.spankingyourwife.com/2024/03/22/description-of-a-discipline-with-resistance/
Benefits of Spanking your Wife:
Why Use Discipline: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/04/08/whyusediscipline/
How it Helps You Every Day: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/04/18/how-it-helps-you-everyday/
Why Women Love to Get Spanked: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/04/08/why-women-love-to-be-spanked/
Make Her a Better Woman: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/05/01/make-her-a-better-woman/
It’s a Wonderful Life: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/05/10/its-a-wonderful-life/
Spanking vs. Pacifist Punishment: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/11/14/spanking-vs-pacifist-punishment/
How Spanking Cleanses a Woman: https://spankingyourwife.com/2021/09/10/how-spanking-cleanses-a-woman/
Bad Habits Spanking Puts in the Past: https://spankingyourwife.com/2021/08/13/bad-habits-spanking-puts-in-the-past/
Sex in Marriage and Discipline:
Sex in Submission (Part 1 of 2): https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/05/30/sex-in-submission-part-1-of-2/
Sex in Submission (Part 2 of 2): https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/05/31/sex-in-submission-part-2-of-2/
Pleasuring Her Man After the Spanking: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/06/29/pleasuring-her-man-after-the-spanking/
The Duty of the Marriage Bed: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/08/08/the-duty-of-the-marriage-bed/
Oral Training for Your Wife: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/10/09/oral-training-for-your-wife/
Commands in Sexual Submission: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/12/26/commands-in-sexual-submission/
Sex as Dominance: https://spankingyourwife.com/2022/04/15/sex-as-dominance/
Overcoming Obstacles to Sexual Submission: https://spankingyourwife.com/2023/10/06/overcoming-obstacles-to-sexual-submission/
Instrument Highlight:
The Belt: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/07/11/the-belt/
The Paddle: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/08/04/the-paddle/
The Joy of Hand Spanking: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/09/19/the-joy-of-hand-spanking/
The Hairbrush: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/10/31/the-hairbrush/
The Loop: https://spankingyourwife.com/2021/01/16/i-hate-that-thing-the-loop/
The Cane: https://spankingyourwife.com/2021/04/30/no-not-the-cane/
The Riding Crop: https://spankingyourwife.com/2021/11/19/the-crop-its-for-the-horses/
Practical Advice on the Cane: https://spankingyourwife.com/2022/11/25/taste-of-the-cane/
Managing the Wife:
Finances: https://spankingyourwife.com/2023/08/04/managing-your-wife-finances/
Emotional Outbursts: https://spankingyourwife.com/2023/09/08/managing-your-wife-emotional-outbursts/
Eating and Health:
spankingyourwife.com/2024/01/05/managing-your-wife-eating-and-health/
Polls:
Spanking Polls for Readers: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/11/25/spanking-polls-for-readers/
When do You Spank?: https://spankingyourwife.com/2021/01/13/readers-poll-when-do-you-spank/
How Does Being Spanked Affect You?: https://spankingyourwife.com/2021/04/20/readers-poll-how-does-being-spanked-affect-you/
Do You Know Someone Who Spanks?: https://spankingyourwife.com/2021/10/30/spanking-poll-who-do-you-know-who-spanks/
What’s the Most Common Infraction?: https://spankingyourwife.com/2022/05/13/poll-whats-the-most-common-infraction/
Why Did You Start Spanking?: https://spankingyourwife.com/2022/12/09/readers-poll-why-did-you-start-spanking/
Spanking Effects and Instruments: https://spankingyourwife.com/2023/04/06/readers-poll-spanking-effects-and-instruments/
How Did You Introduce Discipline to Your Marriage?: https://www.spankingyourwife.com/2024/04/19/readers-poll-how-did-you-introduce-discipline/
Spanking and Culture:
Why They Hate You: https://spankingyourwife.com/2021/01/22/why-they-hate-you/
Societal Illusions: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/04/28/your-illusion/
Tenderbutts and DD: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/09/07/tenderbutts-and-domestic-discipline/
Should I Tell Someone We Spank: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/06/15/should-i-tell-someone-we-spank/
Make Spanking Normal Again: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/05/17/make-spanking-normal-again/
Common Attacks against Spanking Answered: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/07/18/spanking-is-bad-mkay/
Does Work Outside the Home Make Submission More Difficult: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/12/10/does-work-outside-the-home-make-submission-more-difficult/
You Are a Natural Woman: https://spankingyourwife.com/2021/02/26/feel-like-a-natural-woman/
Spanking Readers Across the Globe: https://spankingyourwife.com/2021/06/22/the-swat-heard-round-the-world/
MGTOW: Should men go their own way?: https://spankingyourwife.com/2022/03/03/a-response-to-mgtow-fears/
Being a Natural Woman: https://spankingyourwife.com/2022/06/24/feel-like-a-natural-woman-part-2/
Traditional Marriage and Wife Spanking in India: https://spankingyourwife.com/2022/09/16/traditional-marriage-and-wife-spanking-in-india/
Men and Women’s Rights: https://spankingyourwife.com/2023/01/06/men-and-womens-rights/
Spanking Fakes You Meet Online: https://spankingyourwife.com/2023/03/30/online-fakes-and-secret-agents/
Where is Your Consent God Now?: https://spankingyourwife.com/2023/08/17/where-is-your-consent-god-now/
Is Spanking Abuse?:
spankingyourwife.com/2023/12/21/is-spanking-abuse/
Spanking and Faith
Advice from a Pastor: https://spankingyourwife.com/2021/03/27/the-spanking-pastor/
Common Christian Attacks Answered: https://spankingyourwife.com/2020/07/18/jesus-sat-spanking-is-bad-mkay-part-2-of-2/