Does every marriage require discipline? You sometimes hear people ask this, and even answer it themselves in the negative. However, the question itself should be examined, and answered fully with a view to what marriage is, and what normal human behavior is. I should be clear, that when I say “discipline” I include other forms of discipline besides spanking, the form which is the main topic of this website. Discipline is simply a correction system which will include punishment for bad behavior. Punishment may be a spanking, or it may be other kinds of correction, like grounding, giving household tasks, or standing in the corner. Is discipline in general necessary in marriage?
The first part of the answer needs to come from recognizing what marriage is. Marriage by its nature contains different roles, including the man’s authority, and his wife’s need to serve and obey him. That means, due to the nature of authority, any man in any marriage has the right to discipline his wife. He has the right to give authoritative commands, and also discipline his wife for bad behavior. That’s simply because he is the head of the home. So to start with, that means that any marriage is one in which the man may use discipline, and if his wife misbehaves, has a duty to use discipline. Her behavior is ultimately his responsibility, so her correction and her correction is not only his right but his responsibility. A man who does not correct his wife is not doing his job.
Does this mean that every marriage needs discipline? What about all of the virtuous women out there who behave excellently. Aren’t their bottoms safe from the strap? It should be noted that there are wives who are generally virtuous. This goes without saying. However, nearly anyone who is mostly virtuous also has failings. People who are virtuous make serious mistakes sometimes, and at times they also choose with forethought to commit sins. Wives who are generally virtuous at times get argumentative with their husbands or decide to put off important work they must do. Wives who are generally virtuous can slip into disregarding their husband’s expectations because it seems easy to do. Wives who are respectful daily can politely and gently choose to disobey. As the husband of a virtuous wife, I can personally tell you that for certain. It happens. Good women have failings that have to be addressed. My wife, who is a good wife, occasionally thinks she can dismiss my words as long as she is being sweet, but once she has to strip and go over my knee to be spanked, has to reconsider and change that way of thinking. She gets back to doing what she is told. That means that the existence of wives who are mostly very solid in their behavior does not rule out discipline as a necessity. It simply means those wives will be easier for their husbands to manage, and that they will not need discipline as often as others.
We might consider that in society, the existence of men and women who mostly obey the law does not mean that society needs no penal system. Indeed, despite a number of easy-to-manage residents, there exist laws and punishment on the books for all domains of existence. There are thousands and thousands of them. We also know that even people who mostly obey the law occasionally break the law, and they end up punished as a a result. It may be a felony or it may be merely a traffic violation, but either way that person will be punished, and justice will be done. We do not throw away laws or throw away punishment just because of some mostly-good citizens. We all know we still need it. We are all realistic enough to see that pretty decent people also break the law occasionally. For that reason, it should be easy to see the same with marriage. Good wives will at times get spanked, and a husband would be negligent to think otherwise.
Does discipline get a generally virtuous woman back on the path? Yes it does. Does a spanking on her bottom teach a generally virtuous woman to show more respect in the future? Absolutely. That means you should not rule out the use of discipline because a wife manages to maintain good behavior most of the time. Discipline is there for those times the behavior is not good, and those times will certainly happen.
That is to say nothing of the marriages in which the wife is clearly lacking in some virtue. Wives often have bad habits and bad attitudes to overcome from their past. These are problems which will arise in a short time and definitely will cause conflict and other problems in the home. Even new wives, simply as a function of learning their husband’s expectations, will need more correction than usual to learn the importance of doing their job. However, those who still need to learn some virtue may have serious problems, one which could include being perennially late, being irresponsible, using vulgar language, being unsafe on the road, or spending too much money. Some wives have a bad mouth on them and love to argue. A husband will need to address these problems, and discipline offers him the way to do this. These women desperately need the molding and shaping that consistent spanking offers. While it does not act alone, working together with his regular instruction and care, punishment provides an important deterrent and motivation. No man should be powerless in dealing with his wife’s bad behavior. Badly behaved women are not extremely rare, and a husband will need a discipline system to help manage a poorly behaved wife.
If that is the case, is spanking a wife necessary for punishment? Can’t other kinds of correction be used? While one could not prove that spanking always has to be used to correct bad behavior, I believe it is the most effective and the most practical form of discipline, so I encourage husbands to use it. As I’ve written about in several articles, spanking accomplishes things which other corrections don’t, in that it quickly instills a sense of submission in a woman, it brings her to peace, it acts well as a deterrent because it is humbling and painful, and it also creates a strong bond between husband and wife. A wife who has been spanked finds it easier to follow her husband afterward, while a wife who has simply had a privilege or two taken away does not find such easy obedience in the future. Spanking is intimate, it is humbling, it motivates a woman to cry out and to express sorrow for her wrong. There is relief and cleansing once it’s over. A spanked wife knows she belongs to her man, feeling it deeply inside. If you prefer other methods of punishment, I won’t say they’ll never work; I’ll just warn you that they are weaker, and do not reach a woman’s soul deeply.
Spanking is also convenient, since a man can give a spanking session in a few minutes to half an hour. Usually other forms of correction take longer. Grounding can be impractical for numerous reasons, especially in that a wife might have important responsibilities that require leaving the home. Removing privileges is a punishment that can stretch for days or longer, and some of those privileges may actually be important for her to use. Writing assignments can also be a lengthy task and can be mind numbing. Such disadvantages are discouraging, which is why I and many other husbands prefer to use spanking, which is over and done with very soon.
As we have seen, discipline is a function of a man’s authority, and any husband has a right to use it in marriage. Discipline will not only be needed for wives lacking in virtue, but will also be needed at times for those who mostly have good character. It provides the benefits which any discipline does, which is to punish a wrong, humble the offender, and deter future wrongs. Spanking uniquely is effective, because of its intimate and powerful nature, which affect a woman more deeply, and it does not require as much time as other forms of correction. If you happen to know the perfect woman who never needs to be spanked, that’s very good for you. I’ve never met her. At the minimum we can say that every man has a right to use discipline, and that the vast majority of women will need correction at various times in marriage. Spanking happens to be the best way.
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