Spank Your Wife

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  • The Options for Single Women Wanting Discipline

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    A woman soon to be married has a life of following her loving husband coming up, and will receive his guidance and his correction. However, for a woman who has been unable to find a husband, or who finds herself widowed, that kind of leadership is usually lacking in our society, and many women crave…

  • An Obedience App

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    A reader recently mentioned to me that he uses an app to manage discipline with his wife. The app helps remind her of her responsibilities, and it also tells what the punishment is for each infraction. He has had a positive experience with the app, and thinks it could help couples with their marriage system.…

  • What to Think about While Getting Spanked

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    The act of getting spanked is a trial in some ways, and some women are not sure what to think about when they are going through it. There is a natural instinct to steel oneself for the pain. One might try to take the mind elsewhere to mentally escape the strokes which will surely hurt,…

  • When the Response to Discipline is Anger

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    The period immediately after a spanking is important, especially in that it will set the tone for later on. Usually, a wife’s response is in becoming peaceful, and in being quick to show her submissiveness. Some couples grow closer for a time after a spanking. However, even a wife who knows she needs to be…

  • Managing Your Wife: Rules for Apparel

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    This is Part 4 of a series on Managing Your Wife. This series already includes sections on handling finances, emotional outbursts, and eating and health. I have written briefly before about setting standards for a wife’s apparel in the context of good rules to start with early in marriage. It is imperative to establish a…

  • When to End a Spanking

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    One of the most common questions about giving a spanking is when to end it. Even men who are experienced in giving a spanking often simply make a judgment call. Those who are new beginners have less of an idea, and will benefit from sound advice. They naturally do not want to give one which…

  • The Art of Bent Over

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    I’ve written about possibly the most loved spanking position — that of over the knee — and I want to discuss what may be the most common position, and also beloved by many. That is the position of bent over, in all of its many wondrous varieties. Spanking positions do not change anything substantial about…

  • Why Can’t I Cry?

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    While a spanking is an intense and humbling experience, which will produce flows of tears from most women, there are some women who find they cannot cry during a spanking. This is naturally frustrating for them. They may be envious of other women who can cry during a spanking, and frequently do not feel fully…

  • Problems You Have without Discipline

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    Casual readers who hear about wife spanking are often quick to jump on potential problems with it. Even if they are generally accepting, they seem sure that someone’s going to do something wrong, and the practice is fraught with physical or emotional peril. This is a great exaggeration of course. But it also stems from…

  • What is Spank Your Wife?

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    I’ve been surprised and very gracious at the number of visitors I’ve had at Spank Your Wife, including those who sincerely want to learn, and improve their marriages. I’ve also been greatly blessed to correspond at length with some of you. For first-time visitors though, it still may be unclear the overall purpose of the…

  • Instrument Ratings

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    There is only so much to say about the instruments used in spanking. I have given a general overview of instruments before, and written a number of different instrument highlights, including on the belt, the paddle, the loopy, and the cane. I’ve written on hand spanking before as well. I write this piece as a…

  • Do You Have Time to Give Discipline?

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    One of several challenges of having discipline in your marriage is making sure that you have the time. This could be planning the time to give a spanking, or another form of correction. The time it takes to give a spanking is not great, usually, so do not think the average marriage will be too busy…

  • She Did a Very Very Bad Bad Thing

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    Is there a special way to deal with the worst of infractions? How should a husband respond to a wife’s truly terrible behavior? It makes couples wonder, even if they both hope they never need to face such a situation, or are confident that they never will. Does a husband need to reinvent punishment? Does…

  • Attitude: An Offense Without a Rule

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    Most spankings in marital discipline are for clear offenses, or at times for training, if training is necessary. Perhaps the clearest are for direct disobedience, or for breaking a household rule. There are, however, some bad behaviors that really can’t be qualified clearly, but need correction anyway. One of the most common is simply having…

  • Spanking and Pregnancy

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    The subject has come up many times about the safety of spanking while a wife is pregnant, both in the comments and in my e-mail exchanges with readers. It deserves its own article, and separate discussion. In nearly all marriages childbirth will occur, and it should. Sometimes, the closeness which comes along with spanking, leads…

  • How Not to be Too Soft

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    Men who lead their homes and discipline their wives tend to have two potential pitfalls before them. One is being overly legalistic and harsh, and the other is lacking oversight, and being soft with punishment. I have included a few articles warning against the former, and would like to focus on avoiding the latter pitfall.…

  • Why Men Like to Spank

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    I’ve written before on reasons women love getting spanked, and I’d like to similarly discuss why men like spanking their wives. I felt more compelled to write the first article, because to many people it’s counterintuitive that women love to be spanked, and it’s assumed they would never want their husbands to tell them what…

  • Punished on Her Back

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    The average use punishment seems to include positions which face a wife down, and place her bottom up, making an easy presentation of it to her husband. She goes over his lap, or bends over. She is facing away, or downward. Only her back and the soft target of her bottom are before his eyes.…

  • Silence of the Madames

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    In an aim to keep silent during a spanking, couples are willing to go to some lengths. We have looked at silent instruments before. Those include the loopy, the curtain rod, and of course the formidable cane. However, the lady being spanked may be making noise from the other end, leading many couples to try…

  • Bad Behavior in Public

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    Husbands who have been leading their wives for a while generally know well how to handle any bad behavior by her in the home. They have an array of weapons, from instruction, to warning, to immediate discipline if the moment warrants it. For many couples this has become routine, and much is known and expected.…

  • OTK and You

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    I have written about common spanking positions before. In my discipline descriptions I also mention several positions I have my wife in when I correct her. I don’t think any of the positions stand on their own in the way that OTK (over the knee) does, and it remains an attractive position for both husband…

  • Wives Learn Respectful Speech

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    One of the first challenges to the wife learning to be submissive towards her husband is learning respectful speech. Her respect for her husband needs to be clear in her words, as well as the loving and gentle tone in which she communicates. Overcome stumbling with the tongue, and you will likely overcome stumbling in…

  • Taste of the Cane

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    Let me introduce another guest article by Mark, who is writing today about use of the cane in discipline. As with other guest articles, I’ve asked him to write on subjects I do not have hands-on experience with. I have never used the cane for discipline and he has. By all accounts of spanked wives,…

  • YOU

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    There is someone who has been inspiring and encouraging me about the state of marriages. That someone is my dear readers on this site. That’s you. I have been regularly pleased to hear positive changes coming to marriage, as well as men and women who become open-minded and even passionate about applying headship to their…

  • There’s That Maintenance Thing

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    I regularly hear from readers, and likewise from married men and women about maintenance spanking, with opinions both for and against. I’ve put out an article uniquely on this topic before, and I want to address a few related points. Maintenance rubs a lot of people the wrong way, but is also a common practice,…

  • Managing Your Discipline Session

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    Spanking is not the only thing that needs to be firm when guiding your wife. Spanking is the first thing people think of, and it is the act that mostly makes up the punishment, but a husband’s guidance, both during a punishment and in daily instruction, needs to be both firm and clear. A weak…

  • Continuing Discipline when Children are in the Home

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    Most couples enjoy the early period of their marriage, when they have all their time to themselves, and go out whenever they wish. All time is alone time with your beloved. All activities center on you two. As it applies to discipline, that solitude means that you can take care of a correction very quickly.…

  • A Beginner’s Guide

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    I want to make things as easy as possible for visitors to this discipline guide to get the best help possible. We do have many visitors who are new to wife spanking, or who just are curious and want to learn, and I often wonder if it’s hard for them to find the articles which…

  • Trust

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    Besides faith, trust is perhaps most core to a traditional marriage. To practice headship, submission, and the discipline that comes along with it requires trust in God and in your spouse. Both man and wife have an easy ability to do wrong, to cause harm, to intentionally slight the other, and even to dynamite the…

  • Spanking is Not a Lifestyle

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    It is easy for the new married couple to take time to adapt to having discipline in their marriage. In fact, to apply it to your life, for a husband to lead and correct his wife, and for a wife to follow him fully and with her whole heart, takes understanding and is aided by…

  • Repeat Spankings

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    The idea of a husband spanking his wife several times in short succession seems on the surface a bit extreme. Often our first thought is that one punishment only deserves one spanking, or that having two in a row could be dangerous. With those limited ideas it seems superficially radical to be giving a spanking…

  • Fear in Spanking

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    The aspect of fear is present to some degree in any discipline system. Facing a spanking can be a trial, both because of the coming pain, and because of the ego being taken a step down. It’s one reason disciplined wives try to avoid a spanking, and one reason it is a deterrent. A hard…

  • Does Spanking Interfere with our Laughter and Fun?

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    Taking the shift from modern western values to traditional ones, which respect the spanking of wives, will require adjusting much in your lifestyle, your attitudes, and your language. There are things from the past which will carry over well. There are practices which will naturally have to end, or simply become more subdued. If your…

  • I Think I Need a Spanking, Sir

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    Do you ever admit your guilt? Would you ever say you need a punishment? It is a scary prospect to some to actually come and say you deserve a spanking. Spankings are undesirable, and hard to go through. Guilt is not easy to admit. However, being able to openly admit wrongs, even going so far…

  • Making it Past Early Resistance

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    I’ve made it no secret in this discipline guide that much of the motivation for marital discipline comes from the ladies themselves, who desire to be disciplined. It is no stretch to say that most who suggest the wife’s submission, or firm correction, are the wives themselves. Yet despite this encouraging fact, women will find…

  • A Proper Thrashing

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    There comes a time when a wife needs to face not only a spanking, but what is sometimes called a hide tanning, barn burner, or a proper thrashing. In most spanking homes, a woman knows she can face one if she acts up enough. She knows it is different territory as well. No wife wants…

  • Is It Wrong if I Enjoy Spanking?

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    Men and women involved in wife spanking sometimes get the idea that it’s wrong for them to enjoy spanking at all. If there were any level of enjoyment, it is no longer discipline, the logic suggests. They likewise might think that finding some satisfaction in this intimate act of chastisement means they are doing it…

  • A Note on the Warm-Up Spanking

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    While the idea had never occurred to me in many years of spanking, the tool of the warm-up spanking is used by some husbands to ease a corrected wife into her spanking, or more specifically to help her bear the harder end of the ordeal. I can’t speak from experience, but a lighter spanking, either…

  • When to Pause or End Spanking

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    Perhaps one of the hardest decisions to make is deciding if spanking needs to be done away with. It’s a big marriage decision to start it, and just as big a decision to step back from. I obviously think spanking is excellent, and helpful for couples in most instances. However, spanking can also carry unique…

  • The Crop: It’s for the Horses

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    Smile! That’s right, we keep it with our other gear, our boots, spurs, and riding caps. You’ve got to have one . . . if you ride. A couple that kept stables, or that even rode horses as a hobby could get away with a brazen statement like that with a smile. If you’re not…

  • Mr. Light Hand

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    Some people refer to marital discipline with the term — taken in hand — which is an expression I like, because it connotes the leadership as well as protection a wife has in being in her husband’s hands. That hand of protection, and correction, doesn’t always need to be hard though. While I believe that…

  • Kneeling in Marriage

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    Kneeling is used in many marriages with discipline to communicate what is close to the core of marriage. It is often used in correction as well, and to sexually train a wife. While westerners balk at kneeling before an authority, often for cultural reasons, kneeling has been a form of reverence for thousands of years,…

  • That Group Thing

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    I have a healthy respect for the variety that exists in marital discipline. However, I want to warn about one aberrant practice that you find in some spanking homes. This is the use of onlookers during a spanking, or even of having others come in and perform the spanking. I make mention of this in…

  • How Spanking Cleanses a Woman

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    Much can be said about spanking’s punitive abilities, or its deterrent effect. In fact, those are some of the first things we think of when we think of punishment of any kind, and one of the first things that comes to mind with spanking, along with its intimacy and nudity announcing it as profound marital…

  • Bad Habits Spanking Puts in the Past

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    I could not begin to tell you all of the improvement I have heard from couples in how spanking changed a wife’s behavior. From small to major problems have been put solidly in the past. They might make an occasional reappearance, but their habit, and the mindset that it’s okay to do, have been taken…

  • Too Good to be Spanked

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    Many couples bring spanking into their marriage to deal with bad behavior, and seriously rotten attitude when it occurs. Many find it useful as overall training in submission as well, building and maintaining a wife’s soft attitude. The subject often comes up, however, of wives who are naturally submissive and have a heart to serve…

  • Wives Teaching Wives

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    I’ve only recently used these pages to invite singles to meet here for marriage with a like-minded partner. I want to use this article as a chance for newer wives to meet with more experienced ones. Discipline is a topic that many are private about, and tell few if any people they practice. For this…

  • The Use of Restraints

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    The field of wife spanking comes with some common rituals that occur in the large majority of households. When it comes time for a punishment, it is typical for the wife to place herself over her husband’s lap (after undressing of course), or to bend herself over the bed, or a sofa. She remains in…

  • Humbling a Rebellious Woman

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    Spanking functions well to correct a wife who slips out of her submission, or who chooses to do something harmful. It is a simple guide for her in accomplishing her goal. Spanking becomes more challenging, and discipline needs to be done more thoughtfully when training a rebellious woman to live in peace. Most of the…

  • What a Woman Needs After She is Spanked

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    I’ve discussed the period of restoration that comes after a spanking before, but I’d like to give an overview of what women need during this sensitive ending to the session. What benefits a woman to receive after the hard time of a spanking is over, but the overall correction is not? She longs to be…

  • The Answer to Fears

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    A lot of women going into being a spanked wife still have worries, even if they have decided this is right and good for them. While everyone has fears, and we learn to overcome them, we don’t want them interfering with submission, or making a wife miserable. Fears can’t be an insurmountable obstacle. What’s most…

  • No . . . Not the Cane!

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    The cane has been an instrument of civic punishment for millennia, and similarly in schools nearly as long. We can see uses of a literal rod for punishment in ancient Greek and Roman schools, as well as in early China and India. Small, primitive tribes in Africa have been known to use various kinds of…

  • What Can a Man Do?

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    I want to answer some of the common questions that men have when they are faced with the possibility of learning to discipline their wives. This might come up because their wives ask them for a spanking, or it might come up because he learned about spanking online and is considering its use. While many…

  • Consent in a Spanking Marriage

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    The subject of consent comes up immediately for nearly anyone if the subject is disciplining wives. We understand intuitively from our sense of fairness that consent in some form must be given. A spanking is something that most people do not desire. In the moment, they may in fact absolutely not want to experience it.…

  • DD Practices I Do Not Use [PART 2]

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    Part 1 of this topic covers: Counting Strokes, Journaling, Pleasure Denial and Control, Back Door Training, and Safe Words The Cane: While it’s not the most common instrument, more than a few husbands discipline their wives with a cane. For some it is an instrument kept only for the worst of offenses. The rest of…

  • The Mighty Consistency

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    Perhaps the advice you will hear the most in learning to discipline your wife is the need to be consistent. The dedication that you show by making sure to punish when it is deserved, and not put it off too long, is the backbone of your discipline. You do not go halfway with your leadership…

  • Loving the Variety

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    The lovely playing field of Wife Spanking cannot easily be defined. I have my own personal borders for my discipline manual here, but in practice it can include even more practices than I describe, use, or show appreciation for. The wide array of methods in wife spanking is something to be aware of if you…

  • Steps in Turning a Marriage Around

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    One of the biggest encouragements in teaching discipline is hearing the stories of marriages that turned around because of spanking. I did not go through that myself, having led my marriage in discipline from the start, but I have had good back and forths with men or women who have had their home life go…

  • I Hate that Thing: The Loop!

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    There is a silent, unassuming tool in the wardrobe of the spanking husband. It’s not as threatening (by appearance) as the paddle, or personal as the belt, and even a poor builder could construct one at home. It whips without making noise, and delivers much more fire to her bottom than appearances would suggest. It…

  • Do You Have a Written Contract?

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    It is almost commonplace in depictions of discipline relationships to depict an arrangement with a formal, written contract, one between the master and his servant. It may lay out the rules, the nature of the relationship, and the things which warrant punishment. The contract may even get into the nature of the punishment itself. These…

  • Men Afraid to Give a Spanking that Hurts

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    One of the difficulties many men face in beginning to discipline their wives is their own fear of giving a spanking that hurts. Just as they often have discomfort in stepping into a clear authority role, they also have discomfort with the idea of “hurting” their wives, even for their own good. IF this is…

  • The Hairbrush

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    The hairbrush is among the least conspicuous instruments in wife spanking, and many wives who are spanked this way look askance at the sight of the brush lying out in their room. They hope that it’s presence does not signify anything to come. It may or it may not. If it’s not in front of…

  • Preparing to Give a Spanking

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    Don’t go into giving a spanking as a spontaneous affair. On nearly every occasion a man should have a clear idea of how he will perform the discipline of his wife when he needs to spank her. It may be possible that a man could take care of discipline well spontaneously, if he finds she…

  • Experiencing Real Remorse

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    It’s not always easy to feel truly remorseful for a wrong. Sometimes we still wish privately we had gotten away with it, or we simply want to get a punishment over and done with. There is no deep connection with our soul or deep change. Our heart is still semi-hard. Yet that is what every…

  • The Joy of Hand Spanking

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    Most men who give spankings will admit they have a fondness for the hand spanking. Or you could call it, the good old traditional hand spanking. They enjoy the intimacy of using their hand, and the overall closeness it creates. I feel the same way, and would list it among my favorites. Wives also suggest…

  • Spankings Happen Here Part 2: On the Road Again

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    I wrote an article at the start of this discipline manual on the rooms that spankings usually take place. It’s not a major matter when it comes to discipline, but it’s interesting to see what people choose, and why they prefer one room for discipline rather than another. The bedroom is most common. Others may…

  • High Gear and Intensive Training

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    Much of what a husband does in leading his beloved wife amounts to training her. He shapes her to have a right attitude, leads her growth in virtue. Corrects her with gentle words, and with punishments. He aims to make her blossom as a submissive wife and woman of God. As one of the men…

  • The Enforcer: Keeping an Instrument of Fear

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    Marital discipline is meant to keep a wife in line, and a spanking should be undesirable, and a thing to be feared. Often this is the case. Other times a woman does not want to get the message, and the attraction of disobedience, or personal pleasure convince her to do wrong is worth it, and…

  • It was Worth the Wait

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    One common denominator around most spankings is that there is a wait involved. The wait may be out of necessity, as it is inconvenient or impossible to give the spanking at the moment. The wait may also be intentional, so as to give the wife more time to think about her situation, and to regret…

  • Discipline Practices I Do NOT Use, and Ones I Discourage

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    Husbands who have been leading in discipline for even a short while learn that you are making decisions from early on in building your discipline system, and in how you spank. You learn from trial and error, from imagination, from hearing from other couples and their unique practices. Over time you develop your accepted standards,…

  • The Paddle

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    The paddle has an already established reputation as a tool of punishment in schools, and brings to mind immediately crime and punishment, and the authority figure who will wield it.  The paddle is also a common instrument in marital spanking, and one of the ones you’d least like to meet. There are husbands who use…

  • I’m Counting on You!

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    It’s almost a stereotype in spanking to imagine the person being spanked counting out the strokes, one at a time. Perhaps repeating — I will not [fill in the blank] ever again, sir. This fits in with the notion that every crime receives a certain number of strokes, the unfortunate receiver would find out the…

  • The Belt

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    The belt as an instrument of discipline holds a special place in the hearts of many who use it, and even those who receive it. Punishment with a belt carries a unique aura that even those who don’t prefer this instrument will admit exists. Some husbands find it their preferred method of discipline, and find…

  • Calling Him Sir

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    Having a wife speak to her husband with a term of honor during discipline is nearly universal in wife spanking. I will have my wife use “sir,” but you will find it is a personalized choice, and other husbands have their wives use other terms. The use of honorific language, terms that clearly state his…

  • When She Wants to Get Punished

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    A phenomenon many men are familiar with is the wife that does something just so she can get into trouble and be spanked. Usually, it’s something minor, but enough to get her husband’s attention and some time over his knee. This is usually referred to in domestic discipline as bratting, but just think of it…

  • On Standing Her in the Corner

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    When I began spanking in marriage, I did not have much use for the tradition of giving a punished wife time in the corner when she is spanked. I appreciated the need for her to think about her deeds, and to await punishment simply by having her wait for her punishment, usually kneeling before the…

  • Reinforcing Love During Discipline

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    Authority and submission are what are naturally reinforced during a spanking session, and many husbands have rituals that help to firmly establish them in the mind — the wife’s kneeling posture. Her calling him sir, or a similar term of authority. Her needing to be bare. I’ve written on various ways that sessions commonly emphasize…

  • Wife Spanking vs. BDSM

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    When discussing wife spanking in its various forms, someone always asks whether this is the same kind of thing as BDSM, which most people recognize as the whips n’ chains thing. How is this differentiated from the well-known persona of the leather world, or dungeons, or people who sign slave contracts? To tell you the…

  • Reinforcing Authority During Discipline

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    Most husbands make sure that a discipline session reinforces their authority, and their wife’s submission in more ways that just the lecture and spanking. Each husband may have his own practices, or rituals, but nearly all make sure that reinforcement besides the spanking is there. The way he speaks to her, the way she needs…

  • What Damage to Expect

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    For those starting out on their discipline journey, there is some hesitation, or fear about the physical damage it might cause. Neither husband nor wife want a spanking to result in serious injury, and they also will be seeing the bright, and sometimes colorful results of spankings very soon. It would be wrong not to…

  • Thank You for the Spanking, Sir

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    It is natural and common after a spanking for husbands to expect their wives to thank them for the correction they’ve just received. This is a simple verbal — thank you, sir — that she can express her gratitude with. You will find that this is the norm in many homes, but also that some…

  • Better to be Safe and Sorry

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    It is extremely difficult to cause any serious injury during an ordinary spanking, but the matter of safety in discipline still should be discussed. Since a man is delivering punishment on his wife’s bare flesh, he needs to be aware of what he is doing, and be concerned he causes no lasting harm. Ordinary marks…

  • Keep Her Mouth Clean

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    One tool of discipline in many marriages is mouth-soaping. This is the required punishment for various kinds of filthy talk from the wife, to give her a lesson on being clean. In my own home, I have never had a problem with my wife using bad language, cuss words, lewd talk or anything like that,…

  • Safe Words and Marital Spanking

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    I believe in basic safety when practicing discipline. However I am not a big supporter of the use of the “safe word.” The safe word, which is ubiquitous in the bdsm world, and which can be found less commonly in marital spanking, is a word a wife can say if a spanking is getting too…

  • Signs You Are Not Doing Discipline Right

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    I do my best here to give you a picture of what marital discipline looks like, providing you some of the essentials of the practice, as well as a perspective and advice on the non-essentials. In this piece I’d like to examine some problems that come up, that often reflect that you are doing things…

  • In Favor of a Sore Backside

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    There are legitimately many varieties of spanking a husband can give as head of the home. One element of spanking that I try to always include, is that my wife will be feeling it the next day. It will be a thorough enough punishment that she will have some soreness, and aching on the backside.…

  • The Silent Treatment

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    The need to keep activities quiet during a spanking is common to most households. Spanking itself is a noisy affair, between the swatting a bare backside and the cries of the lady’s mouth. Families with children, or couples in the flimsier kind of apartments find they need some way to lessen the sounds, those coming…

  • Woman Uncovered

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    Nearly anyone can figure out that a spanking in marriage involves a bare bottom. I imagine there are a few exceptional homes where clothing is included, but it would be hard to find. There are more than a few wives who wish they could keep that thing covered during discipline when they are anxiously awaiting…

  • That Really Hits the Spot

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    A spanking is given on a woman’s bottom. It is not for anywhere else. Corporal punishment can conjure up images of civic punishments such as flogging, or as medieval experiences like you can see in the leather crowd, but marital spanking just uses the bottom as the place of punishment. If you get very far…

  • Varying the Heat

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    Spankings need not be exactly the same severity each time. In fact it can be detrimental if they are. Just as it can be helpful to vary certain parts of the spanking — such as the location, or her state of undress — it’s helpful to vary the harshness of the spanking. That’s not just…

  • Resistance During a Spanking

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    Talk to nearly anyone in domestic discipline, from the newer to most experienced, and they will tell you they sometimes have to deal with resistance while they are giving a spanking. It is not easy to receive the pain of swats on the bottom, or deal with the fear of the punishment, especially if trust…

  • What’s the Frequency

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    It is very common to be asked by those interested in spanking how often I spank. Others ask this too, but it provides the new beginner a picture of what seems normal in the practice, and he can work our what he does better when he’s got an idea in his head. What you’ll find…

  • Hard and Long

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    When I discipline my wife with a spanking, she knows that it is going to be hard and it is going to hurt. I do not give light spankings. I believe that’s common for other husbands who spank. I vary the intensity for the offense, but none are mild. Occasionally I have heard a husband…

  • Spanking as Training

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    While we mostly think of spanking in marriage as being for punishing an offense, in many marriage is also gets used as a form of training the wife in discipline and submission. Some couples have sessions only so she can become accustomed to receiving spankings, or so she can grow into submission better. This is…

  • Well Positioned

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    One common question I get when discussing marital discipline is what position I will have my wife in to spank her. There are plenty of good articles about this online, or at least which touch on it. The position you spank your wife in mostly is a matter of preference, but it can also be…

  • Tears During a Spanking

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    If you are preparing to use discipline in your marriage, or a just curious, you can easily imagine that you will be seeing some tears and crying as you punish her. This is the case for most couples, and it is the case in my marriage as well. But it is one thing to expect…

  • Restoring Her After a Spanking

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    That period immediately after giving your wife a spanking is especially sensitive. You still have some talking to do with her, but it won’t be too easy for her. A freshly spanked wife is usually a bit more than flustered. She could still have tears, many thoughts could be going through her mind, and her…

  • When She Tries to Get Out of a Spanking

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    It is a natural human reaction to try and make excuses for our behavior. It is an uncomfortable thing for the cold light of day to shine on our wrongs. Just think of your own reaction when you’ve been guilty in the past. It is universal. We see how mankind tries to twist the truth,…

  • The Mindset to Give Discipline

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    It is best to spank your wife with love and firmness. There are cultural stereotypes about men who beat their wives out of losing their temper, or getting drunk, but this has nothing to do with real discipline. No one I’ve spoken to in domestic discipline accepts that kind of behavior. A good corrective discipline…

  • Spankings Happen Here

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    Most people who use marital discipline are creatures of habit. For the most part I am too. We like to give discipline in the same place, or same few places. There may be a few who always like to be creative, or search for exciting places, but for me it is not about that. The…