One of the most common questions about giving a spanking is when to end it. Even men who are experienced in giving a spanking often simply make a judgment call. Those who are new beginners have less of an idea, and will benefit from sound advice. They naturally do not want to give one which is either an insufficient punishment, or an extreme one. The question of when to end a spanking, like the question of how hard to spank, if fairly subjective, and requires forming a decision based on a number of points. Both of those questions are wrapped up together in understanding what amounts to a fair punishment. Experience giving a spanking, and even making a few mistakes, helps any husband learn when it is best to end the spanking.
I use several indicators to decide when I will end a spanking, and they all work together. It is certain that I may make a mistake from time to time, but I believe I deliver most of my spankings as long as they need to be. The first indicator I use is a general sense, through experience, that the punishment is severe enough for the offense. No punishment I give will be mild. It ought to be long enough that it is a trial to undergo, causes her to regret her actions, and has her wishing it was over. The more serious offenses will ensure I spank for longer and spank harder. I will aim for a thorough enough punishment that her bottom will still be sore several days later.
My spankings are also long enough that I get through the lecture I plan to give, and through questioning her on her behavior. This alone assures a spanking will not be very short. I have a number of points to get through in my lecture. I impress on her how wrong her bad behavior is, that she knew better, how serious the wrong is, the harm it could cause, and then go over the better behavior I expect in the future, and her need to be submitted fully to me. I may pause a few times during the spanking and lecture, other times I simply lecture as I spank. Any number of those points I may repeat a few times. Some of the answers she needs to give me she may also have to repeat. That means since my spanking will accompany a stern verbal correction of such detail, it will never be a brief one.
The spanking I give ought to bring her to tears. Not every woman is the same, but most will cry during a firm spanking. When I bring my wife to tears, I spank well past tears, and this is generally best. Do not view tears as a time to stop, but a time when she is realizing better her predicament, and still needs to learn to regret her actions more much fervently. She will have to pour out many more tears. She will have to be more sorrowful than she is. A spanking should leave her knowing her behavior was wrong, and just how serious that is. Her bad behavior will not be tolerated. Spanking her well past tears tells her that and instills it on her soul.
I also look for other signs that the spanking is long enough. My wife may express that verbally, with cries or expressions of sorrow. I will also look for a change in color as I deliver strokes. Over time, with enough strokes, her bottom should be turning bright pink or red. I work for a change of color all over, and may leave some on the top of her thighs, although with less force. Color should be spread around from top to bottom, and on both sides of her behind. That painting will take a while to do. She needs to be aglow.
One major factor in deciding when to end a spanking is to see that she is contrite. A wife should be sorrowful for her actions and also be fully accepting of your lecture and the spanking she is receiving. She accepts she has done wrong. She is fully submissive, and not resisting your correction. I would not stop if I see she is showing me some attitude or otherwise resisting. If there is any ongoing attitude like that during a session, I would either spank longer, of give her a second spanking for showing a bad attitude. Any of that attitude needs to be spanked out of her.
Some couples use a set number of strokes during a discipline session, and the number of strokes will decide when the spanking ends. It is possible to give a thorough spanking this way, especially if you are experienced, and you know about how many will get the job done, and will be a fair punishment for the wrong. However, I do not do this, and I find it would take away from my own ability to make judgment calls in the moment. It may end up with a correction which is too short, or which leaves her not fully contrite. Sometimes using a set number of strokes is done together with counting strokes, as the wife must say the number of each stroke, and repeat each time that she is sorry for her behavior, and won’t do it again. This method is an attractive way to have a wife participle in the punishment, and learn from it, although it does not require a set number of strokes. One can decide the final length of a spanking another way, while still using this method for a part of the session, if it helps get the message to sink in.
Don’t expect to come to a perfect understanding overnight. These points are fairly subjective, and you are going to judge them based on what you see, and just make the call. Over time, experience will help you make that call, and you may bring in other methods to decide when to stop as well. If you find one of these methods not useful, you are free not to use it. For example, some wives never come to tears, and others come to tears very late. Either of these could affect when you decide to stop. Other husbands may do shorter lectures during the spanking, so the lecture cannot be such of a guide either. There is not formula, and even if you decide on a set number of strokes per punishment, where you draw that line is up to you.
It is very important to give a thorough spanking. A woman who is feeling half spanked may not feel she has been punished for her wrong, and she may still feel rebellious towards her husband. A thorough strapping will get those feelings out of her, and leave her knowing her wrong has been repaid, and that she belongs to her man. It will leave her more deeply submissive. She will find it much easier subsequently to respond immediately to her husband, and to obey without resistance. Spanking has got to be a hard experience, and she should regret the behavior that earned her getting stripped and bent over. She should be regretting it every second during the spanking, seconds which will seem to stretch on. Make sure that the discipline you give your wife continues until it has reached its goal.
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