Much can be said about spanking’s punitive abilities, or its deterrent effect. In fact, those are some of the first things we think of when we think of punishment of any kind, and one of the first things that comes to mind with spanking, along with its intimacy and nudity announcing it as profound marital correction. Yet punitive and deterrent effects are wrapped up in the overall change of heart. They help and are helped by the overall betterment of the chastised woman. That change of heart and betterment happens in large part by spanking’s inner reach: it cleanses the woman and helps heal her inside.
That cleaning power is a part of why so many women desire it. New husbands will learn to see it soon as well, in the outpouring of his wife’s heart and emotions. Not only was the desire that led to her bad behavior soothed, and lessened, but much came out that she was keeping inside. It came out in her trembling. In her tears. In her words of affirmation in how she would now behave. In her sorrow. In her desire to be close soon after. A husband should know he is working with a wife’s inner being, and healing her heart. He both chastises the badly behaved wife, and reshapes her inside.
Beyond the spanking itself, the humbling of the experience begins to help her. It starts to cleanse her of pride, and vain conception of herself. That is a great weight to let go of. Simply needing to undress and kneel, and receive verbal correction begins to loosen the hold on false pride. It helps her take a step down. She returns to her natural self, responding to her husband gently as one beneath him. She lets go of being in control, perhaps something she had been striving for, or craving with a selfish hunger. She is pointedly OUT of control now, and learns to accept it, as she will learn to accept her daily submission. Much of that irritation and aggression that comes with trying to be in control is shed, simply as she prepares to receive the coming punishment. She knows her defenses will come down. She’ll be shedding tears. Her man will see her for whom she really is. hard to face, but relieving in the moment. She is more in touch with her womanhood as she loses the pride and steps down.
Needing to learn acceptance also heals the wife during her discipline. Much like dropping the heavy weight of trying to be in control, she drops the weight of trying to figure everything out herself. She learns acceptance both of the punishment, and of her man’s strength caring for her and protecting her. In the moment it will be a hard correction, but daily it will be his love and support. She learns reliance, and dependence upon his strength, not on her mind or her independent ideas. It takes her to a more peaceful state. Over time she learns to accept his lead in an ongoing way, and feels deeply feminine to rely on his power and his decisions. Now she has been humbled, but soon she will be fill full of his strength and lifted up.
Her tears cleanse her in way only something so personal can. They come from within her, and as they flow out, other salty things flow out too. She pours out her sorrow. Her feelings. She pours out not only negative feelings such as stress and resentment, but also starts communicating good ones, that she has kept stuck inside her. She can more devotedly express her desire to be a good wife. She can express more sincerely her commitment to do good, and her hatred of her wrong act. She can show her remorse in tears often better than any other way. A woman who has been spanked, after she briefly comes to herself again, is more at peace, and is relieved of inner ailments, beyond her desire to do wrong. Impurity, tension, anger, resentment has been spanked out of her, coming side by side with those sweet promises to be good. She felt ashamed before, soon she will be feeling adored and holy again.
Perhaps the greatest thing a thorough spanking cleanses a woman of is her guilt. She knows instinctively that it cleanses her of actual guilt of her deed by bearing the punishment of her deed. It also cleanses her of that dirty feeling of guilt. Of walking around feeling marked by it, or thinking she could be exposed at any moment, or need to have it pointed out at any moment. That feeling of wrongdoing goes away through the whole discipline session. Most importantly, she is able to express that she knows it is wrong, cry out to her man that she is sorry, and express what was hidden previously on her heart. She expresses it in the boldest way, that usually would not be forthcoming without a spanking. While she fears the stroke of her husband’s belt, she almost wants it to come, because she knows she needs it. She knows it is her best chance to hear the words of correction, and say her own words that heal her. Between the humble experience of being spanked, her man’s words, and her own words, she knows the guilt is in the past, and her deed will be forgotten. She feels clean. She knows inside that she is.
The spanking cleanses a wife by ending that tension and poor connection that her attitude has led to. Restoring her to peace is coupled with restoring man and wife to closeness, and her acceptance as a submissive partner to her husband, and simple part of his very being. She has been bared to him. Her innermost feelings have been exposed. She has been lowered down. Now she and her husband come close to each other. Her barriers are down. He holds her. She wants his comfort. She wants to be restored fully to him. They often finish her session with making love. Her restoration to intimacy, feeling her man’s warmth, strength, tender affections bring healing. Where before there was coldness, or polite communication, there is a real union of hearts, and she feels that in her innermost being. Healing of the separation cleanses her, and helps make them one.
It is an emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual process. I believe cleansing the guilt, especially, is spiritual, among other things. Somehow even that simple start, having to lay flat over her man’s lap, or bent over at the waist, bare bottom up, kick starts the change. Opens her up for further improvement. It prepares her mind to opening up to him, to being freed of what is hidden within. The words and the strike of her man’s hand, or his instrument, get the tears flowing, and she finds greater ease in saying — I’m sorry, I won’t do it again, I’m yours, Please, I’ll be good, I’m sorry — and gets all of those hard, dead things out of her, bringing her back to a submissive love towards her man. That slight fear of his power, and of what is coming next, help her to throw herself proverbially at her man’s feet, to give up any resistance, to profess her desire to be good and mean it. Each element of the session plays a role. It lifts her heart from a dark place and brings it to one where she will find comfort, and feel her man smile on her. A spanking should not be brief for this reason. It should not be too mild. It needs to be thorough, and as a thorough correction helps her open up, cry, be cleansed of guilt, and know that the past is the past. It helps her come to that soft place herself to feel more clearly her man’s power. All of this brings peace, despite her stripes and crying.
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