It’s almost a stereotype in spanking to imagine the person being spanked counting out the strokes, one at a time. Perhaps repeating — I will not [fill in the blank] ever again, sir. This fits in with the notion that every crime receives a certain number of strokes, the unfortunate receiver would find out the quantity, and have to count them. In marriages that use discipline, the use of strokes varies greatly. Some husbands assign a number for the crime, while others just spank until they reach the desired result.
I am not one to decide on an exact number of strikes when I spank. In fact, I never count and generally have only a vague idea of how many I have given. Since I started spanking many years before marriage, it never struck me (pun intended) to keep count. When I am disciplining my wife over my knee, I continue the punishment until it achieves a few desired goals. Usually achieving those goals involves many strokes, but the number doesn’t matter to me.
I am looking at a few things. Firstly, has the punishment been long and hard enough to fit the infraction, and its seriousness? Direct disobedience, for example, will be longer and harder than others. Mere negligence would usually not earn as severe a spanking Also, do I see in her that she is sorry for her deed, and contrite before her husband? Do I see that she is committed to good future behavior and knows she has to do that? These elements will help determine how long it lasts.
When I spank, I usually have a number of points to lecture her on while she is over my knee. So regardless of number, I will continue the correction until I make those points; spanking her during the pauses in the lecture, or sometimes while I speak. I usually impress on her the seriousness of the misdeed. She hears about the harm it causes. She needs to know it is wrong and she is fully responsible. I impress on her where her attitude failed, and what her attitude needs to be to be in serving her husband. I also go over what I expect to see in the future, and get multiple assurances from her that she will show me better behavior to come. If I think she’s in doubt about what that better behavior needs to be, I will explain it to her clearly. I may have other points as well, which are unique to the situation. So I will spank her until I have covered my verbal correction of her and everything it entails.
I could not put an exact number on the strokes during a spanking I give. I could estimate that they are usually over fifty strokes. The longer and more serious ones could be around a hundred. Some couples would regard that many strokes as high, and others see it as around their average. If you are new to giving or receiving discipline, that might sound quite frightening, but remember these are usually not close to full force. They are hard and will sting, but most are not ferocious. I will save those fiercer strikes when very serious offenses come, but even then they are not great in number.
I can see some value in assigning a number of strokes to a spanking, even though I don’t do it. There are husbands who assign numbers to make sure their wife understands that the punishment fits the crime, and may also have her count strokes to focus her mind on receiving it, and on why she is receiving it. It is also one way to help her engage her mind with the punishment, and not drift off. I am not against that, and maybe I’ll try it one day. I find the few basic principles I’ve mentioned are sufficient, and end up dictating how long, and how many strokes a spanking will be. A wife should be contrite, taking full responsibility for her offense, and be committed to her right behavior and her daily full submission. Those are my sought after goals when I spank. I never have to worry that I lose count of them.
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