Talk to nearly anyone in domestic discipline, from the newer to most experienced, and they will tell you they sometimes have to deal with resistance while they are giving a spanking. It is not easy to receive the pain of swats on the bottom, or deal with the fear of the punishment, especially if trust is not very deep. While resistance is fairly common, you can deal with it easily the large majority of the time. You need to make sure to be firm, and not give in to any resistance from your wife during her correction.
Perhaps the most common form of resistance is for a woman to reach her hand back where you are swatting, and try to protect her bottom. This is almost an automatic reaction to pain for some, so it can take time to overcome, to learn to accept the painful spanking without resistance. Even women who are truly committed to their submission will give in to the temptation to reach back and protect their bare bottom. In my own case, I deal with this very rarely. On the occasion my wife has done it, I tell her to reach her hands forward and keep them there. That is all I need to do. For husbands who find it is a real problem, they often warn her that reaching back is another infraction, and will add more swats to her punishment. Some may make the sensitive upper thigh the landing point of a few hard swats to punish her for any resistance. Others will have her come back for a second spanking after the first, if she does not comply quickly.
One thing that she has to know, clearly by your words and behavior, is that she may not get out of her correction. If she tries, you will bring her back, and if needed continue longer. She is under your command, and has to learn to accept the rightful discipline she has earned. It can take some learning for her to do this, especially if she is new to the experience, or if the spanking is especially hard. Accepting her spanking is a part of her submission to you. Resistance will never get her anywhere. If you feel it is necessary, you can also restrain her more forcefully than usual. That can help her as well in knowing not to resist, since she knows she cannot anyway.
I have dealt in many years with two occasions in which my wife jumped up during a particularly hard spanking. Either because of the pain itself, or some amount of negative feeling, she did what is surprising in our home and removed herself from my lap. In one instance, she jumped up holding her bottom and ran a few steps, saying she could not take it. My reply to that was to be patient, let her calm down, and explain a few things to her.
I told her one, that I am her husband and I love her and am committed to her every day. I also explained that I am responsible for her, and she is in good hands with me. My hands are going to correct her for her wrong, because her wrong was disrespectful to me and harmful. She needs to accept that and receive her correction. I spoke to her calmly and firmly, and spoke repeatedly about how things have to work. My devotion to her and my firm punishment of her behavior go hand in hand. I reminded her she was the one who put herself here by her behavior, behavior I’d warned her about before, and she would have to accept my correction. When she was calmed, I tapped on my knee several times, she placed herself back in position, and I finished her strapping. That could have been a failure, but it was a success because I did not back down to her resistance. I am her husband and I am in charge.
In a similar instance, she jumped off of my lap during a more difficult portion of a punishment. While I had a similar talk with her as I’ve just described, it was already late, and she took time calming down, so I was prepared to let the rest wait until the next day. Amazingly we both were free during the day, and had private time. I told her we needed to go up to the room together and she joined me. We need to set this straight, I told her. We need to set things in order. She said, I know that. You do not reject your man’s discipline. You need to listen to me and obey. I know, she said, calmly. Okay, that’s good. Get yourself prepared to receive it. She undressed and knelt down to receive a short talk from me, and then placed herself over my lap and I gave her what she had coming.
Whether you deal with such strong resistance, or only with her squirming, you will need some strategies to respond. You also need to be firm and effective in your reply. Whether it is adding extra punishment, holding her firm, or having a long talk, you overcome her resistance every time. The same is true her excuses for bad behavior. It is not her place to interfere with a punishment. Over time, especially as she grows in submission and trust in you, she will show little resistance, except perhaps in the hardest of punishments.
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