I’ve only recently used these pages to invite singles to meet here for marriage with a like-minded partner. I want to use this article as a chance for newer wives to meet with more experienced ones. Discipline is a topic that many are private about, and tell few if any people they practice. For this reason considering discipline in marriage, or beginning it as a new wife, can be a lonely calling. There are countless doubts, questions, and fears that arise, even after one has started, and many are uniquely answered by other women.
Older women have gone through the experience, faced some of their fears, learned and grown in submission already. They can offer encouragement, comfort, and counsel to the younger or newer wives. Any women who have questions or would like to invite others to speak with them can comment below. Feel free to leave your contacts. Take all the normal precautions you usually do on the internet. Since I have seen some experienced women comment here already, it is always safe to look for familiar names that have appeared, and left good thoughtful comments.
Another area of help, which I’ve heard ladies speak on, is the desire for a husband to lead, who simply will not lead. That’s a tricky situation for any wife, especially since she is submissive to her husband, and cannot tell him what to do. If there are women who’ve been through this experience, learned from it, overcome it, that would be great assistance to those newly facing it. It can feel futile asking your husband to lead, or to discipline you. Sometimes what a woman needs from you is simply a simple insight, or an encouraging light. There are difficulties and problems that continue for years. Other times they are overcome with merely a word. Either way, women walking together with other women is a natural and fulfilling way to learn.
The struggles that a woman has is not unique to her. It may feel that way because discipline in marriage is lonely in this modern world. Just know that others live through what you do. Millions do in the West alone, and many millions more have similar marriages in Asia, Africa, and Latin America. They are the experiences behind closed doors. Women also have questions about sex, and submitting to their husband in the marriage bed, that are handled well by other women who are godly and mature. A woman should know she has a trusted friend she can always turn to. That trust among women is special, and the friendship close and warm.
Naturally, the Word of God is the foundation of all things. No wise counselor could ever lead astray from God’s will for marriage. Never take any advice which goes contrary to Scripture. Be rooted in what marriage is about. Seeking advice is mostly learning to apply those teachings and be more successful with them. It is what we learn from experience and tradition, which are good but not perfect teachers.
Help one another to submit.
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