The subject has come up many times about the safety of spanking while a wife is pregnant, both in the comments and in my e-mail exchanges with readers. It deserves its own article, and separate discussion. In nearly all marriages childbirth will occur, and it should. Sometimes, the closeness which comes along with spanking, leads to more intimacy, and with it the joy of new children in the home. Protecting children is a high priority, so questions of safety naturally come up. Does a couple need to avoid all spanking during this period? Are there safety measures they should take? If you haven’t faced this decision yourself, know that many traditional households have, and don’t always deal with it the same way.
I have always spanked during my wife’s pregnancies, as have most other couples I’ve spoken to. However, I don’t spank during the entire period, and I take several safety measures. I avoid spanking in the very early and late periods of the pregnancy. I also avoid heavier instruments, and more severe spankings. This is both because of the pain, and the possible stress it may put the woman under. Similarly you should give thought to the instrument you use, and the position in which you spank her. I believe a basic amount of similar precaution will work for you as well, but of course the safest thing is to avoid it entirely.
We have never had any trouble because of it, but pregnancy is a more sensitive time, and some women’s systems more sensitive than others. It’s important that you also base your judgment on any unique medical conditions your wife may have. Ask the doctor what kinds of activities are best to avoid. In general, many women do exercise, and some basic labor while pregnant. It is just safest to avoid the heaviest or riskier tasks, since a small child is with her, and he is more prone to injury. Even making love, which many couples do during pregnancy, can be fairly physical and percussive, but is still safe if done with some self control.
Pregnancy is also a time in which it may be more inconvenient to spank for other reasons. A woman is seeing a doctor more often during this period. That means, unless you tell your doctor that you are involved in spanking, you will have to schedule spankings a distance away from any doctor’s visits, so the obvious marks on the bottom are kept private. This does not make spanking impossible, but it does limit how often you can use it. Some couples simply tell their medical professionals that they use consensual spanking, so it is not a problem. However, this option still may be too embarrassing for other couples, and it is possible that you will face pressure to stop it. I consider it safest not to tell others you spank unless you know for a fact they will be understanding, and that they will also keep it private.
Couples that end spanking during pregnancy will have to rely on other methods of discipline, which may not be as successful. This is not much different from what many couples do if they travel, or have guests, but still need to use discipline. Ceasing to spank for as long as a pregnancy, or a little longer to include a recovery period, will require a period to adapt to a return of discipline when the time comes. Some wives will feel freer to step out of line if serious punishment is not on the table, but even if that is the case, it will not take too long to restore discipline once she has recovered. You should carefully consider all of your options regarding discipline during pregnancy.
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