Much of what a husband does in leading his beloved wife amounts to training her. He shapes her to have a right attitude, leads her growth in virtue. Corrects her with gentle words, and with punishments. He aims to make her blossom as a submissive wife and woman of God. As one of the men commenting on my site pointed out, even punishment spankings are a kind of training, working to get her into the shape that she needs to be, under his firm and careful hands. Punishment is more than mere justice. She grows as a submissive helper to her man, and he grows as her guide and her loving leader.
There are times when couples desire to lift that training to high gear, and spend time only focused on their leadership and submission. This is usually an extended time of intensive training, from a matter of half a day to several days; they focus on their roles, and practice full and rich expression of them. In the discipline world, this event is usually labeled a “boot camp” — with all the militaristic imagery that comes with clear authority structure — but there is no need for the military label. I consider such work-outs to be a form of regular training focused, and brought to high gear. Man and wife spend time alone and deepen that relationship.
The average intensive training includes regular spanking for the wife, along with full sexual submission on her part. You can find various articles on running a “boot camp” like experience, but many of the details are up to you. Some recommend writing about your role and your goals as man or wife, as well as good communication between the two. The write-ups I have seen are very detailed, and I would recommend choosing some elements, but not necessarily every one. A husband can find what he thinks will be most fruitful for his marriage, as well as invent his own activities himself. The level of intensity is up to you.
During such a long training session, a wife is commonly required to stay naked the entire time they are together. She should do work for her husband on his command. That could be anything from cleaning the floor, to cooking, to general office assistance. She should also be prepared to receive spankings from him on command, and submit sexually as he desires. She will need to drop to her knees or bend over showing her full belonging to him. Any autonomy she thought she had, or any resistance she felt towards her husband’s will is being chipped away. Any hardness toward him is learning to be soft. He is going to use his hands to shape her, and she will be the clay. She should be ready to respond to his words immediately, and to receive lessons from him while being spanked.
Since the spankings in this training session, and in shorter trainings as well, are not given as punishments, the man needs to consider how he purposes them to teach her. Part of the purpose is to help her learn to accept and receive spankings in the first place, and to do so without hesitation. She is learning her position, and the power he has over her. The husband can also choose a lesson for each spanking he gives, which may be her need to submit fully and completely, her need to serve and help him, or her need to please him sexually. It is a good time to practice their roles with words as well. The man growing better with giving commands, either firm or gentle, and the wife getting used to saying yes to her husband, asking meek questions, and calling him sir. She should ask his approval for nearly anything, to learn better to defer to him. She grows accustomed to asking, “May I?” She needs to know she is under his loving oversight at all times, and learn the goodness of having his approval.
Naturally, I should remind you that this is only an intensive version of training that the man gives his wife on a smaller scale regularly; training in receiving commands, in needing his approval, in receiving various forms of correction, in sexually serving him, and more. The real difference is that it is a focused and longer training. That’s it. If as a husband you are NOT doing any of those things regularly, on the briefer scale, you will end up letting your wife’s mind wander, and her bond to you weaken. Continue to train her. Be regular in your life in keeping your wife submitting to you, and knowing her full belonging. She is yours, body and soul, and should not forget.
It is true that many couples spend their whole marriages without such training sessions. They work well together, and their usual discipline system keeps things in order, and keeps the man leading, and the wife responding fluidly to him. I don’t consider intensive training necessary, then, but it can be very helpful in a variety of situations. The first, and most obvious, would be when one or both of the partners are new to their role as head and helper, or new to discipline. Giving and receiving spankings may seem awkward to them. A period of focused training can kick start a man and wife into action, and get them accustomed to the motions they need. A woman who has some hesitancy to submit, or hesitancy to give herself fully, will find the training leaves that resistance in the dust. It will melt away as she is naked on her knees, at her man’s desire. She quickly learns complete belonging to her husband, and learns to hold nothing back. Similarly, a couple who have drifted away from leadership and submission can be helped by what many call a boot camp. They may have drifted away from laziness and boredom, or they may have fallen out of functioning well together because of conflict between them, or other problems in their marriage. They may have been prevented by necessity from using discipline, or been separated from each other. In all of these instances, a period of focused training can help restore the right relationship and right order in marriage. It can help return the wife to softness and submission, and do so more quickly than you’d imagine. It can help restore the man to managing his wife, and keeping her under his vigilance. Intensive training breaks down barriers and demands we put our mind and soul into our job.
I can see how a confused person might ask why a simply spanking isn’t enough, and why a day or more is needed for something so simple. Isn’t that too much? I ask myself the same question as well. But you see we do much the same thing with other activities and relationships we seek to grow in. Hence the name, boot camp, which reminds us of the heavy and intense training for soldiers who will soon go to battle. Much like with boot camp, we seek a practical, deep, and intense learning experience. It is built to prepare you for action. Couples seek similar growth when they celebrate their anniversary, and spend a day or two only with each other, exploring their relationship and expressing their love. Speaking of the past and of the future they have together. People wanting to learn an activity — from book collecting to business — attend seminars and conferences, some of which they stay at for days, hear speakers, and attend a variety of meetings. With an understanding both of that appeal and that helpfulness, we can see how an extended period of training for marital discipline will seem attractive.
Many men in this culture have not learned to lead in the home. Some have been taught it is wrong for them to have clear leadership. Most of the culture has been indoctrinated to think a spanking in marriage is wrong (unless panties are involved). Many women have been conditioned literally for years and for decades to think they don’t listen to any man, and are trained to give attitude, and put-downs to men. Some have been taught to imitate men, put on their softer brand of toughness, and cuss in imitation of shallow manhood. Do you think it will be easy to ease into submission for women like this? Even if they have already learned to embrace the idea of submission, or accept it as a doctrine of their faith, practicing submission will be much harder. The flesh can resist what the mind desires it do. Men who understand in concept they need to be head of the home, or feel the instinct to lead, may have no idea where to start using their authority, and not know how to handle their wife. This is especially true if she is rebellious and proud. Intensive training can help both man and wife, even in situations less severe than I describe. It gets them into the groove and moving through the steps that will characterize their positions. Leadership and submission. It says — here are the dance steps to go through, practice them, repeat them, then bring them into your life together.
Once you are done, you maintain that pattern in daily life. The challenges become easier to face. The husband can be less likely to be negligent in leading his wife, or to be insecure in his own authority. He will never be without his wife’s affections. The wife less likely to dismiss her man’s rules, or to speak to him with disrespect. The training, like any training for a future task, has prepared the mind, body, and spirit to prove itself in action. Like any discipline, it can bring man and wife closer together, and make that bond — even when physically apart –never closer. The love, trust, and affection blossom because a marriage is healthy and a couple move together in harmony. A marriage is worth doing right, so it is worth training for.
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