In an aim to keep silent during a spanking, couples are willing to go to some lengths. We have looked at silent instruments before. Those include the loopy, the curtain rod, and of course the formidable cane. However, the lady being spanked may be making noise from the other end, leading many couples to try using gags if silence is truly needed. As a philosophy, I like to minimize any tools involved in spanking, but when necessary I don’t see a problem in using them. If your wife does not have the self control to manage to keep quiet while being spanked, the regular use of a gag will keep sound to a minimum.
Since I don’t like to go out and buy gear, I started using a homemade gag eagerly in our marriage. It’s worked fine in keeping her quiet. The gag is simply a pair of socks rolled up in a sarong. Once rolled up, I have my wife open her mouth wide, get the bulge with the socks pushed firmly in her mouth, and then tie the sarong being her head. Like other gags, it is not perfect, and there can still be minimal sound, but it accomplishes its purpose. In recent years, since my wife has grown accustomed to being spanked, and has learned more self control, I don’t use a gag often. She can take a spanking with only a few grunts or squeals. I will still use the gag if I need to give her a harsher spanking, or I will forgo it by having her bite down into a pillow instead.
Many couples don’t want to use homemade material, so they look for store bought gags. Of these there are many, though I’m not the expert. The ball gag is ubiquitous in bdsm circles, made of rubber, plastic, leather, or other synthetic materials. It is effective, and goes on and off easier than the homemade variety I use. If anything, some of the balls are a little small for the mouth. If you choose them, you may want to check out the size first. There are other methods of keeping the mouth silent, including various kinds of tape. I’m not the expert so do your own research. The safety concern with silencing a woman this way is that any gag which did not have holes in it, could restrict breathing if her nose were clogged. Granted, with various kinds of stuff in the mouth, it’s still possible to open her mouth a little more to get air, but regardless, it is safer to check regularly to make sure breathing is not prevented.
The boisterous noise of a spanking is part of the experience. That includes both the bottom getting struck and the lady expressing herself. If possible, I recommend finding a time to be alone, so silence is not obligatory. That’s because I find there is value in hearing the blows of a punishment. There is also value in a wife releasing her feelings fully while she’s disciplined, whether it is crying to the full extent, or crying out her words of remorse, or simply expressing her distress at the sting of the blows. If gives both the head of the home, and his lady the deepest experience of the correction, and a much deeper communication between them. A good hard punishment should make a wife sob, and cry out.
I realize there are some people who don’t mind others hearing a spanking, even finding the idea exciting. However, there is an element in discipline which is inherently private. Just as a couples’ activities in the marriage bed are private, so too is the very intimate act of spanking. Even if not seen, it communicates what only the couple need to hear, which is the punishment and the humbling of the wife. Her tears and cries, along with the harsh reality of the punishment aren’t for the public. Not only does a spanking appear sexual to many ears, but the humbling is also obvious, and it would be inappropriate for a wife to be so humbled to family or friends. In principle those are some of the reasons no one else is involved in a spanking besides the man and wife. Even if they know she gets punished, they shouldn’t be part of the experience. It is delivered by her trustworthy and loving authority.
It is only when people are around the home that silence should be treated as very important. Expressing her feelings as she’s spanked is very good for a wife, and I believe adds to the success of the correction. The husband also gets to more clearly know how firm he is chastising her, better see that her punishment is just, and that she is really sorry for her deeds. Some of that can be communicated more quietly, before, during, and after she gets spanked, but not in its fullness. That’s why, if opportunity allows it, I advise simply planning for time alone, rather than using a gag. I always do this if I need to give my wife a more severe spanking, and I appreciate its value. I would only use the gag if necessary.
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