Men and women involved in wife spanking sometimes get the idea that it’s wrong for them to enjoy spanking at all. If there were any level of enjoyment, it is no longer discipline, the logic suggests. They likewise might think that finding some satisfaction in this intimate act of chastisement means they are doing it only for selfish reasons, and not the right one. While it’s right to be careful of our motives, and while a spanking ought to hurt, there is no need to paint any form of enjoyment as a devil, and flee from it. The woman who finds her husband’s power attractive, and gravitates to it, or who melts at the sound of him slipping off his belt to correct her, is easy to find in wife spanking, and that’s alright. The man who loves the sight of his wife’s body as he disciplines her, and who stands erect the whole time, is normal, and doesn’t harm discipline in the least. When understood rightly, some amount of satisfaction comes along with marital correction.
While we mostly think of the man who enjoys swatting a lady’s bottom, in discipline or elsewhere, it’s true that ladies also long in large numbers to be spanked. They know they need to be taken down a peg sometimes, and the calm power of their man attracts them. It’s natural for a wife to desire this from her husband. Where pleasure would become wrong, at least in punishment spankings, is if the spanking itself were enjoyable and a delight to her. Perhaps that’s alright if we speak of spanking erotically, but a punishment needs to hurt, a punishment needs to deter bad behavior, and a punishment needs to humble. For this reason it WOULD be wrong if pleasure lay in the spanking itself. It would cease to be a punishment. However, if the pleasure lies for the woman in knowing her man’s command of her daily, and experiencing his strength at the time, then the pleasure is rightly there. Drink of it all you want. She may also find the calm it gives her afterward pleasurable, and look forward to the reuniting process, once the correction is over. She may, despite the pain, like the warm touch of her man as she is corrected, or the feel of him against her belly as she lies over his knee. There is much for her to rightly find satisfying in getting spanked, but the spanking itself should not feel good.
The man also would be wrongly motivated if he were purely enjoying giving pain, or even severe pain to his wife. It would be wrong to be so interested in spanking he would nearly leap at any excuse to correct her that way. However, a man can rightly find satisfaction in giving a spanking. There’s nothing wrong in finding the sight of his wife’s body attractive. or her position alluring. It would seem strange if he did not. Sexual energy during a spanking is normal, especially for the man who is in the lead. He might also find humbling his wife satisfying, both sexually and emotionally. Simply giving a firm verbal correction of bad behavior can do this, and a spanking does it much more. The satisfaction in humbling a badly behaving woman comes from ending that wrong, and from seeing back in her right position, on her knees. Consider for yourself if there is no rightful enjoyment to have the neighborhood prowler caught, or even a vulgar prank caller unveiled. In a movie I once saw two men were in the process of beginning a rape on the street, and the hero approached, with a gun, and shot at them. Tell me you would not leap for joy at that. That doesn’t mean you desire people shot, but that you desire wrongs to be made right. Humbling a lady, while not as severe as that example, comes with some of the same enjoyment, and a very deep form, as she is your wife and you enjoy her most intimate parts. You like setting matters back in order. You find satisfaction in putting away threats. You rightfully find an inner warmth in watching a puffed up lady return to serving her man.
There are people who enjoy the pursuit of pain itself. This would be a wrong way entirely to approach marital discipline. That’s not to say that pain necessarily feels like pleasure, but that giving or receiving pain becomes nearly an obsession, and a personal challenge. Women who long for pain are not only disrupting the rightful discipline process, in which pain is not longed for, but are sometimes motivated by a desire for control, to see how much they can do or take. Just as there are anorexics motivated by control, there are submissive women so motivated. It can be hard to leave behind that desire, since it is so much connected to a desire for order and accomplishment. If anything, I would recommend putting a pause on discipline if seeking out high levels of pain is what she finds in it. Similarly, men may be attached to giving discipline not for natural reasons as I’ve described, but because of a similar fascination with pain, and nearly compulsive desire to control.
I would view finding a demeaning kind of pleasure in the spanking as the wrong kind to pursue as well. It may be subjective how we view what is merely humbling, versus demeaning, but discipline will include the corrected lady being humbled. Teaching her her rightful place, and setting her back on the path are the goals. It becomes demeaning when there is no basic respect there, no limits, and the goal essentially is to tear down and destroy. Some men lust to destroy others, and some women go well beyond ordinary meekness, to self-effacement and self-destruction. If we remember that the goal is to help a human being, one we especially love, and to restore them soon after the correction, we can find a spanking rightly humbling. If there is a lust to annihilate or be annihilated, make someone feel like garbage, or made to feel that way, we take a kind of perverse pleasure. This is not the kind of think that should be enjoyed.
To conclude, there’s nothing wrong with you if you enjoy a spanking. That includes the discipline kind, which is the subject of this website. Spanking for a woman is rightfully alluring in how it displays her man’s rule, and lets her experience his power, and come to a deeper peace and calm afterward. For a man, the attraction is in his woman’s body, and seeing her yield to his strength, lose her ego, and be humbled. These forms of pleasure are natural and not to be avoided. We should avoid taking pleasure in heightened states of pain, or in degradation, but the intimate act of marital spanking can be justly enjoyed for what it is. That enjoyment, and often deep satisfaction, is the natural fruit of the enjoyment of man and wife together in marriage. We are built for each other in more ways than one, including in leadership and submission. Enjoy the beautiful fruit.
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