Correction within marriage, when it comes to domestic discipline, is mostly done with words, or with a spanking. If convenient, some husbands use writing lines, or differing forms of physical punishment, such as mouth soaping. In the repertoire for a few husbands however, is the quick-as-a-whit smack in the face. It may not seem like a punishment per se, but merely a call to attention. Certainly it is a correction of sorts. In the spanking community in the West there are heavy influences against smacking, and some view it as barbaric, while not viewing a paddling the same way. I occasionally get asked about the smack in the face, and how viable it is, and while I don’t use it, I want to give an overview for those who are interested.
The smack in the face is obviously an immediate reaction to a wife’s very improper conduct. A husband may use it when she clearly steps over the line using terrible language, or brazenly disrespecting him. Oftentimes its effects are immediate. After a loud hand across her face, she stops doing what she was doing. She repents. If her ego was getting inflated, it settles down. If she was being obstinate and not doing what she was told, she drops the resistance and does it. If it was loud mouth she was getting into, she is now quiet. The smack isn’t nearly as harsh as a spanking, but it sends a powerful message, and often ends a problem before it becomes bigger.
The smack used to be much more common in the West, and used to silence a wife when it was needed. A woman who was argumentative, loud, or out of control would get a sound smack or two if she would not listen to reason. If she listens to the smack she can avoid further trouble. It still is very common in other cultures, even expected, as several of our Indian readers have commented. While it does carry a few unique dangers, it seems strange that the tide is against smacking, even among couples who think nothing of smacking a wife’s bottom with a belt. There are legitimate reasons to question its value, but I can see little reason to dismiss or denigrate the formidable smack.
There are advantages and disadvantages of this quick corrective measure. The advantages are that it handles a matter immediately, and requires little time or effort. It lets a wife know with one firm gesture that she has stepped over the line, and often is successful in righting the situation. It avoids a perhaps lengthy, and more difficult punishment that might occur later. Sometimes a smack in the face is simply what gets through to her. The disadvantages, and why I do not use smacking as a correction, are two-fold. Firstly, and most importantly, it can cause danger to strike towards the head. With the eyes, the ears, and the mouth there, there’s a lot of unintended harm which could come. If much force is used, it could also rattle the brain. Secondly, the head is such a personal place, and a place we generally settle our identity, that a strike towards the face or head comes across more as an act of aggression, and less as a punishment. It seems more like a strike against the person, striking at the center of their being. To be fair, men who use the smack, if they are responsible, moderate the force they use, and use care not to cause serious harm. It is a simple smack on the cheek, and when done rightly, causes only a sting, and a very temporary reddening. If misused, of course, it would be far worse.
Similar to the smack, we could bring up the safer “swat” on the behind. In lieu of a spanking on the behind, a quick, hard swat will accomplish the same as a smack does. It turns a woman away from her immediate bad behavior, and provides a warning that there could be worse to come if she continues to misbehave. Obviously, many couples swat in a playful way all the time, so a swat used as a convenient corrective needs to be hard enough to be clear that it’s a corrective. It is meant to be a wake-up call. There is virtually no injury risk as there would be with a smack though, making this option in my mind superior.
A few people even in the spanking community would have hesitation to use a smack in the face because they have issues with consent. They may view that every act needs to come with explicit consent, and since the smack is sudden, it could not possibly meet that standard. For that reason alone, some would reject it. However, I find this a weak objection. That is because a submissive wife has broadly accepted her husband’s authority, and she has broadly accepted his right to discipline her, and otherwise guide and correct her. She would not reject a smack if that were his chosen method. This is just as she has accepted his right to her body, and would not object to a quick squeeze on the bottom, or sudden kiss. For this reason, a smack is not out of place, and falls within the marriage as she knows it. If a couple is not confidant that it does, that’s fine to discuss it, especially in a culture in which many reject it, and in which some never even see one given.
Considering that I find nothing fundamentally wrong with a simple smack, and that many people are able to use it without serious problems, I find it is a legitimate method of correction for a husband to use. It has its role to play in the moment, when other methods are impractical. Like others, it must only be done with good reason, and it must not be too severe. However, its practical benefits are not hard to see, and in some respects, it has advantages over giving a spanking, which takes longer and may leave her sore for days. Much like spanking, some husbands will smack for erotic purposes in bed. They might give their wives a few smacks across the face while making love. Not too hard of course, but enough that they feel it. Wives who know to expect a smack at times learn it is nothing to be afraid of, but it should be respected.
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