No one should feel limited to using spankings as the only form of discipline. You will find that some households use non-spanking discipline together with spanking, and others uniquely gear their correction around non-spanking methods. While I have used spanking from the start of my marriage, and would not go back, I have supplemented it with other forms of correction, and can see the value that it has.
To look at the choices, some husbands will choose a combination of verbal correction, along with removal of privileges, like taking away the wife’s car keys or her credit card for infractions. Some use grounding. You can also give her discipline sessions that include standing in the corner, and writing lines, and that involve a lecture as spanking does. Either way, you ought to have a discipline system in place.
The alternatives I have used, alongside corporal punishment, include having a time of weekly review. I used to do this for a number of months, before I finally stopped. I would review her behavior the past week, and touch on any points of improvement that needed to be made, as well as commend her for her hard work. She gave me her own evaluation of her performance also, and points she saw for improvement. Like other discipline sessions, she went through the review on her knees and undressed, and addressed me as sir. We ended the sessions with her commitment to good behavior and submission, and a kiss on her forehead.
I have also done more punishment-like sessions, as I mentioned, with corner time and writing lines. You can use these punishments for infractions that are not as serious, or when a spanking is impossible or inconvenient, such as if she’s had surgery. I don’t believe they carry near the usefulness of spanking, either for the infraction or for her submission, but they can still be a helpful tool. Writing lines can further focus her on how she will do things right in the future.
I make full use of verbal warnings. If there is a behavior which is getting close to being a serious offense, I let her know that she will earn a spanking if she doesn’t watch out. If she is just beginning to speak out of hand and be rude, I will give her a warning of an immediate trip upstairs to be taught a lesson. These can be very effective, and turn her behavior around right after I give them. She does not want to be punished so she listens and responds to warnings. As I explain in another article, the spankings themselves make my verbal corrections and my warnings both more effective.
It will take time to experiment with what is best for you, as well as what your wife responds to most. I am not the biggest fan of non-spanking correction, but it can clearly be used as a supplement, at the minimum, as can giving verbal warnings. No authority on earth comes without power and a correction system to back it up. You don’t either. Make full use of the tools available to you in leading and disciplining your wife.
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