What to Think about While Getting Spanked

The act of getting spanked is a trial in some ways, and some women are not sure what to think about when they are going through it. There is a natural instinct to steel oneself for the pain. One might try to take the mind elsewhere to mentally escape the strokes which will surely hurt, and which may not end for a while. It’s natural to have a level of fear about pain, and to prepare yourself for it, yet the mind should be fully engaged in the purpose of the punishment, and learning from the humbling and the pain. Rather than brace yourself, it is best to open yourself to it, no matter how sore it may leave you. The engagement of the mind is as important as the hardness of the strokes. 

This is true of the discipline process as a whole, and it is true in some unique ways during the spanking itself, while receiving the stripes for her bad behavior. It will benefit a lady to think about the behavior which get her in such a position as her husband delivers the spanking. If her man permits, and most husbands desire it, she should express her sorrow for her behavior. She should affirm clearly, if not repeatedly, that she knows her actions were wrong. She should also promise to her husband that she will never do that again, and tell him how her behavior will be better. These are key, and when she does them during the spanking itself, she may find she means them more deeply and zealously than without the spanking. It gives her much more reason to mean those words, and she many find it in herself to really commit to those words as she is bent over and being spanked.

She should also think about her position. That is her submission to her husband, her desire to serve him, and honor him. She should engage her mind in becoming a better submissive woman, and communicate to her man that she belongs to him. In a similar fashion, she should think about her husband being her lord. How does he deserve to be treated? How should she speak to him? If she had respected that before should probably would not be in trouble. She should place it on her mind who has power over her.

Another area to think about, which is quite different, is to focus on staying in position. Some women have more difficulty with this than others. She should make it a point not to move out of position, and certainly not to resist the strokes of her punishment. Think of remaining still as a simple act of obedience and honor to her man. She will express that obedience by cooperating fully with the discipline, and refraining from moving. She should be set on remaining in position to the point it is natural, and her body knows not to move. If he tells her to adjust her body, she should respond immediately.

Some husbands will have their wives count strokes, or repeat a phrase during the punishment. This will give a wife something else to keep on her mind. She certainly does not want to lose count of the strokes, and she should be thinking about whatever her husband instructs her to repeat. That is a core part of the lesson, and should fill her mind.  Every stroke, whether counted or not, is a payment for her wrongdoing, and she should understand that pain as washing her clean, and teaching her. It places within her valuable learning which will guide her in the future. 

A wife’s mind, like her body, is being handled during a discipline session. That’s why it is important to keep the thoughts flowing through what she needs to learn. That may be her regret for bad behavior, her commitment to serving her husband, or any area of behavior her husband instructs her on. Her thoughts may also be on matters pertaining to the session, such has staying still, and counting strokes. The response she shows during discipline shows her willingness to learn, and be shaped by her husband, even when it seems like the spanking will never be over. It allows him to better shape her, and for her future attitude to be one which will more easily learn from her husband and obey him. 


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7 responses to “What to Think about While Getting Spanked”

  1. I have always had a problem linking the punishment to the crime. Beforehand? Yes. I am sorry that I did whatever it was. I cry and repent, well before the spanking. But during the actual spanking, it’s hard to think about anything other than getting it over with. I don’t do it on purpose, and somehow I think it probably would be more effective if I was able to think about what I did wrong. There’s a short talk before, and acknowledging that I did something wrong and I deserve what is coming, but there’s no conversation during the paddling. Maybe it would be better if there was. 🤔

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      aronhusband

      Thanks for your comment, Confused. I believe talking during the spanking itself is a good thing, and helps the purpose of the spanking to get through to the wife. However, it can be done other ways.

  2. Opening your heart and mind to receive your husband’s lesson during a punishment, rather than simply steeling yourself against the pain, is very wise advice for wives, Aron. My own husband continues to work with me on this, as I have consistently struggled to focus on anything other than the next swat and often can’t answer the questions he asks of me correctly while being spanked. He often has to pause and allow me to catch my breath before I can really listen to what he’s saying and frame a proper sentence expressing my regret. It’s not that I don’t feel shame for my actions or the desire to change. It’s just always been hard for me to find the words to say so when I’m experiencing such overwhelming emotions. I’m also trying so hard to stay still and not offer my man any form of resistance. He’s never been one to tolerate squirming, and while I can usually manage to obey him in this by maintaining my position, it requires a lot of my concentration. I’m afraid that my inability to focus on more than one thing during discipline makes it last so much longer than it would otherwise. I’m sure it would be about the same number of strokes, but the pausing and waiting for me to choke out a coherent answer just drags it out for both of us. I share this just to let your readers know that even a wife who has been disciplined for several years, who gladly embraced this way of life and has never harbored resentment towards her man for being punished, still has room to grow. I’m sure I’ll read this article often as I reflect on how I might better submit to my husband and receive his lessons with my whole heart, not just afterwards, but during those moments in which he is molding me. I pray that I might continue to grow into a better woman under his care.

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    completelyhis

    This was so helpful! I tend to just focus on the spanking, getting through it, and not what I’m to learn from it or how remorseful I should be. This morning I definitely focused on my submission and staying still for him. He deserves that. I usually squirm quite a bit and complain about how hard he is paddling me and I sometimes just get up and tell him I’ve had enough. Well he does remind me it’s not up to me when I’ve had enough it’s up to him. I really appreciated this article, thank you.

    [edited by Aron for content]

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      aronhusband

      You’re welcome. I’m glad the article was helpful to you. Staying still during the spanking is an important act of submission itself. Naturally, it’s up to your husband when it’s time to end the spanking, and he will do well to be thorough and firm with you.

  4. During a spanking it is exceedingly difficult to focus on anything other than the pain in my bottom. However, my husband will use the space in between swats to give a lecture, which I am determined I should listen to seriously. After a spanking I get calm in the corner for a few minutes then we have a prayer session. I think this works well for me to be reminded in my submission – having the spanks, the lecture, the calm down time and most important of all the prayers. All Glory to God.

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      aronhusband

      Thank you for describing how discipline works in your marriage, Darcy. That sounds like a good system. The lecturing is certainly just as important as the spanking itself, and it is imperative to pay attention to it.

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