Do you ever admit your guilt? Would you ever say you need a punishment? It is a scary prospect to some to actually come and say you deserve a spanking. Spankings are undesirable, and hard to go through. Guilt is not easy to admit. However, being able to openly admit wrongs, even going so far as to ask for a spanking, will help leadership and submission run smoothly. It can also help a woman’s growth in submission, if it is not overdone. A husband can not be everywhere at once, nor can he read his wife’s mind. Coming and asking when you need one is a good habit to learn.
The first and most obvious reason to admit wrongs is because it is honest. To intentionally hide an infraction would be wrong, and in some instances would amount to another infraction. It also offers a necessary aid in a man leading his wife, letting him know the things he does not see. If a wife is to be a man’s helper in life, she is a helper here to his correction of her, by making him aware of her wrong. She may simply come to him and say, “I’m sorry, but I broke your rules.” Or, “I’m sorry, but I didn’t do what you said. Do I need a spanking for it?” She may also just come out and say, “I think I need a spanking, sir.”
This openness makes sure discipline is successful in correcting her for her wrongs. Otherwise she could go unpunished for a variety of wrongs. It also aids her by keeping her open and honest with her husband. A woman who can come to her man without fail and admit to a wrong is learning humility, and is learning to give herself fully, in a way a wife who simply waits to be corrected would not do. Do we not confess our sins to our God? Surely, it makes sense to admit a wrong to our earthly authority as well, as a woman does to her husband. Once a woman can overcome any hesitancy, or fear, and do this, she is making great steps in becoming his most fully.
A woman may also want to admit to internal wrongs. A man may see some of her misdeeds, but he will not see internal problems she has. If those matters of the soul include inner rebellion to her husband, or wrong attitude in the heart, it is not a bad idea to confess it as well. I’m not suggesting a man needs to spank for inner wrongs. That is especially so since they can be very minor, as well as very common. It could be too rigorous trying to punish for them. However, a spanking still may help a woman remember in her heart who is boss, even before she has acted on her bad attitude. “I think I need a spanking, sir” can tell him that she’s headed in the wrong way, and he can make the judgment as to whether a spanking is needed. Often, it will help her draw closer to her man, and avoid any coming disrespect.
This leads to the subject of spankings which are not specifically punishments. I don’t write often about that subject, and I rarely give that kind of spanking as a husband, but I don’t disregard their value either. You may find that spankings simply to work on cleansing a woman’s heart are good for her in the long run. They help her attitude and behavior. They take her away from the danger zone. Some couples use preemptive spankings, which can help a woman if given before a situation when she frequently has problems, such as going out with friends, or being around drink. The spanking functions as a warning, and a reminder that her man is looking over her, and there are consequences for any coming wrongs. Sometimes just the closeness of the act helps a woman behave well. A woman who knows her problem times, and situations in which she is tempted, may ask for a spanking to avoid any problems. Sometimes she knows those weaknesses better than her man does, and can let him know it helps her. If she knows she needs that warning, it is good for her to ask for it.
A wife being submissive, does not mean she is entirely passive. She submits to and follows her man. But she remains actively engaged in her role as a helper, and in practicing growth in womanhood. If she cares about the benefits of her man’s correction, she ought to learn to admit to wrongs that her husband does not know about. There should be no secrets in this regard. She can also admit to inner failings, knowing well that not all of them are sin, or need to be punished. This openness allows a man fuller view of his wife’s growth in virtue, as well as see problem areas he might not have. On the woman’s part, it is the respectful and honest thing to do. I don’t doubt this will bring greater life and fruitfulness to your marriage.
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