I regularly hear from readers, and likewise from married men and women about maintenance spanking, with opinions both for and against. I’ve put out an article uniquely on this topic before, and I want to address a few related points. Maintenance rubs a lot of people the wrong way, but is also a common practice, and both husband and wife attest often to its usefulness. The idea of bending over to be spanked simply to be trained is a challenging one indeed. It impresses some couples as unfair. I’d like to review a few of its positive points, as well as its dangers.
Spanking for the sake of keeping a wife on point often comes with good results. Whether it is to impress on her the submissive mind she needs, or to remind her of her needed upcoming behavior, it can be productive. No law of nature proves that spankings can only be for punishment. A spanked wife is often newly impressed with her man’s authority, and easily moves into a submissive and peaceful frame of mind. She has a warmth about her, and an ease at following her man’s instructions. It’s not hard to see why couples start to use spanking simply to maintain that positive attitude in a woman. It helps keep it going from week to week. Likewise, women who have repeated problems, or give into temptation too often, benefit from a reminder from time to time, even if there’s been no infraction. A regular burning bottom, and a regular lecture, keeps her more aware in the future of her problem areas. Little red flags go up when temptation approaches. She possesses prescience to veer out of the way of that oncoming error. She feels more consciously that her man is there with her, and his authority follows her where she goes. His seal is upon her.
For couples who do not wish to use maintenance, I find a regular time of verbal instruction and correction is useful. As I have mentioned before, I find if my wife is slipping in some areas, a verbal session helps keep her conscious of her need to behave, to be watchful of her own errors, and to be attentive to what I say. It helps keep her accustomed to receiving my correction with humility and grace, instead of resisting it. It helps corrode any pride that may in the future bristle at discipline. I’ve found a corrective talk helps shore up problem areas my wife has, a talk that naturally comes with elements of a discipline session, including her needing to strip and receive instruction on her knees. The physical and mental act of putting herself in the right place before her husband, and needing to answer meekly to him, carries over into her behavior. There are times when a spanking is superior, and will have stronger effects, but for those who reject maintenance, I’d recommend weekly verbal sessions to accomplish some of the same goals.
One danger with maintenance spankings is the frequency. For some women, a high frequency of spanking would cause them to worry too much about getting in trouble and being punished again. It may also cause her to lose sight of what behavior really is seriously wrong, if she receives the same basic consequences without bad behavior. That’s why training spankings are better kept lighter and less harsh than punishment ones. A husband has to gauge the usefulness of regular spankings, and keep from going overboard when it comes to frequency. I’ve heard about men who give daily spankings, and if this is anything other than fairly light ones, I would view this as a misuse of discipline. Weekly frequency is most common, and I have used that before, both with maintenance and with verbal sessions. At the minimum, I would keep an open mind about the occasional use of spanking purely to train her, because it has had proven results in many marriages. Husbands point to their wife’s better ongoing performance, and wives testify that they slip up less often, and are less likely to get spanked for punishment in the future.
There is a mode and an attitude that comes with the marital relationship. I comes with the clear loving authority of the man, and the gentle, silent obedience of his wife. That sometimes conflicts with our personal desires and our contrary attitudes, even our bad habits. Just as good diet, stretching, exercise, and training can prepare an athlete for a sport, practice and training can also get man and wife into the flow of their marital relationship. The regular spanking, done apart from punishment, is the somewhat difficult practice that helps immensely. It leaves a wife temporarily sore, but stronger at submitting in the near future, as well as the distant. Her soul is more prepared to walk in its place, and to hold silence when it needs to. She is less likely to react against her man’s words. Many women testify it keeps them out of trouble. If maintenance helps get you there, then use it. Marriage is until the end, and it’s not odd to need some reminders about our work.
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