The paddle has an already established reputation as a tool of punishment in schools, and brings to mind immediately crime and punishment, and the authority figure who will wield it.  The paddle is also a common instrument in marital spanking, and one of the ones you’d least like to meet. There are husbands who use the paddle as their common instrument of discipline. Others like myself, acquire one to use only for the severe punishments, due to its severe reputation, weight, and heaviness. Unlike some tools, such as the belt or the hairbrush, the paddle is specifically designed to deliver punishment to the bottom, and does so with tremendous success. A hard paddling definitely deserves its reputation as the harsher end of punishment.

The smaller paddles, such as the one I own, are used alternately well with a wife over the knee, or bent over. It is easy to control, and aim, but carries the hardness and heaviness that makes it a fearful tool of correction. I can use it quite hard with the shorter swing of otk, or deliver a wide stroke which is well-controlled if my wife is receiving it bent over the bed. Larger paddles are more easily used of you are standing, and would be awkward if used otk. You also have to exercise more control with your swing, to avoid the possible dangers of hitting the tailbone, or anywhere else undesirable. This is not hard to avoid, and I’ve never had problems with it, but it’s good to note that being a harder tool than others, the paddle requires focus and attention to use safely.

The traditional paddle is wooden, and can be made of a variety of different woods, including bamboo. Today you’ll see a number of synthetic materials used in paddles, and even a few that are soft and flexible. I don’t have much interest in these. Maybe I am attracted to the tradition behind it, or to the classy look of the wood grain. Most paddles you see used or sold for spanking purposes are still wooden. The paddle also comes with the option of being made with holes through it, which are to increase the airflow, and allow it to move more smoothly and quickly. I don’t think you’ll find the difference between a paddle with holes and one without is great, but you may still have a preference. I think of some extra nasty marks of the one with holes in it. Whichever you choose, it is a solid piece of polished wood.

Unlike the belt, which I’ve written about for its aura and its efficiency, the paddle immediately communicates punishment to anyone who sees it. No one has to guess what that’s for. In that way, it may help prepare a wife for her correction. The sight of it lets her know formal discipline is coming, and she is under the correction process. Although it’s less popular today, the popular psyche remembers the paddle as an instrument of school punishment, and the formalities involved in going to an authority figure to be corrected. In some schools, students are still paddled, often by the principal. Remembering this spirit of correction can help a woman receive what is coming, since like other things a husband does during discipline, it helps establish authority and submission. The paddle reminds her what the setting is. It helps her get in the mood.

Along with a establishing a spirit of formal discipline, the paddle also carries a certain fear factor with it. This may help soften a wife’s resistance, and help her to be contrite in accepting her punishment. It reminds her that she is fully in her husband’s hands. He wields the paddle with her. A healthy sense of fear can be very good, as we do not speak of abject terror here. Only knowing that this instrument is powerful, and very undesirable to feel. It is harder and stronger than she is. She is going to have to answer for her wrongs now. There is no way to fight it.

When my wife sees the paddle sitting out, or when I tell her to fetch it, she knows the matter is serious. She likely already knew that, but she knows much more deeply when she knows she will receive it. Like with other instruments, I will have her hold it for me as I lecture her. She can feel its thickness, weight, and strength as she prepares herself for her coming correction. I do not use it often, as I keep it for the most serious offenses, but it is one she actively wants to avoid. Its power helps her know the seriousness of her wrong, and helps her as a deterrent, to remember to listen to her husband.

One thing that I like about the paddle — and it’s not my first choice instrument — is how it contrasts with the woman I am correcting. You might call it the antithesis. It is very different from her, and when she runs into it, she has met her match. Where a lady is soft, and curved, the paddle which corrects her is as hard as could be, and perfectly straight. Her backside gets flattened by it right away, from the first stroke onward. You might say it will straighten her out, or put her back on the straight path. It also contrasts with her character. Where a woman tries to get what she wants with making excuses, or being imaginative with words, the paddle is simple, plain, and blunt. it speaks as plainly as a man usually does, and tells her like it is. A woman might try and get attention to herself by being flashy, but the paddle is without adornment or articles of attraction. It is the blunt truth. I find the harsh contrast of the paddle and the lady a part of its success in changing her. Like with her husband, if she thinks to misbehave, she run up against her match.

I remember one of the first times I used the paddle. I was disciplining my wife for putting the children in harm’s way. That’s something that always earns the paddle, along with direct disobedience. We had sent the children to play at a family member’s house, so I had her to myself for a good, productive session. She stripped and went naked over my knee. There is always something startling in seeing the contrast between a wife’s soft, tender flesh and the paddle. In seeing the bottom you usually caress and squeeze upturned next to a hard block of oak or maple wood. There is a minor shock in knowing that her beautifully curved body that lies limp over you is going to taste a solid, square paddle. You strike to a loud thwack on her backside, and continue to apply the wood — thwack, thwack — as you lecture. It is an instrument that makes her gasp from the first stroke. It applies searing heat on her soft bottom — not only on the surface but well underneath —  and sends shockwaves up and down her body with it. She comes quickly to tears. Some instruments swing, or are soft, or bend when you swing them. This is far from the case with a wooden paddle. It does not bend to a woman. She will bend to it.


31 responses to “The Paddle”

  1. […] husbands online, I purchased an instrument to meet the hard end of the punishment spectrum — a paddle. This is one you could make at home with a few tools and some woodworking ability. The paddle is a […]

  2. […] down to him because it is his will. She is completely his when she is bent over, getting a grueling paddling until she is quivering and in tears, soft and feminine before him. She gives up her full range of […]

  3. […] but risks hitting the tail bone, which can easily have its soft tissue damaged, or in the case of a wooden instrument swung with force, be fractured. Avoid the tail bone. Like many husbands, I have given that upper […]

  4. […] never use it in that position. You would want to use a shorter instrument. That might be a small paddle, hairbrush, or the loopy, all of which you can spank her with easily and firmly. Many men spank […]

  5. One thing with children, a person would assume the paddle was for the kids I sure would. and I paddled the kids also.
    Also I gave up wooden paddles for those of Lexan. My daughters after they were out of the house reaffirmed my belief that Lexan stings worse than a wood paddle. And I know she didn’t like them one bit. but if wood is significant to you two then you should be using wood.

    1. Yes, that’s a good point. Many would assume a paddle was for the children. I’m sure the lexan is very good, but I do have a thing for the wood. Thanks for your comment.

      1. jadecavendish94528 Avatar

        [Aron: This comment came from Jade, who presented herself earlier as a woman merely concerned with husbands giving harsher punishments. She has now outed herself as a liberal, a socialist, and a feminist. Not that I didn’t suspect that from the start, due to some of her language, but I don’t assume someone to have a false persona and wait for them to let me know what they’re all about.

        I publish this only so you can see where feminists misunderstand the subject, and grossly twist the words of God. I will reply to the main points below, although I cover secular objections and Christian objections to spanking in my essays already. I hope you can see how poor the liberal argumentation is. I am not going to publish more of her comments, as this is not a place for long arguments, as I’ve said elsewhere, and if that’s what you want you can contact someone personally:]

        By advocating for “(Christian”) domestic discipline, you are trying to restructure the husband/wife relationship as that of parent/child. Parenthood however, is a temporary relationship based on a child having to develop into a fully capable adult.

        “There is neither Jew nor Greek, there is neither slave nor free man, there is neither male nor female; for you are all one in Christ Jesus”.

        My husband and I are Christians but when we have daughters they will be allowed to grow up. When we have sons they will be taught that you never raise a hand to a woman, and hopefully anyone, unless it is in self-defence.In Bob’s AKA Ben’s world it seems It seems the only difference between the role of a father and the role of new husband is that the new husband gets sexual privileges and now has someone to cook and clean for him, and bear children.I met my husband at the University of Cambridge which in the States (if that is your location) would be seen as “Ivy League” like Harvard or Yale. We are both therefore highly educated and any problems can be resolved through reasoned discussion between two equals.

        All this” spanking” has huge sexual overtones. The way you describe your instruments of “correction” is both sensual and sexual. I only came across these crazy sites by reading an online article in the Daily Mail a right wing, British newspaper which is basically the only one you can read for free. Even that awful rag was appalled by such a thing happening in the 21st century. This is basically a milder form of BDSM using God as the excuse.Some women obviously enjoy getting spanked; others know nothing else and believe the falsehoods with which their “HOH” continues to indoctrinate them. This is what my husband and I as I as Christians and Socialists believe in and follow:

        “For I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink, I was a stranger and you welcomed me, I was naked and you clothed me, I was sick and you visited me, I was in prison and you came to me.’ Then the righteous will answer him, saying, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you drink? And when did we see you a stranger and welcome you, or naked and clothe you? And when did we see you sick or in prison and visit you?’ And the King will answer them, ‘Truly, I say to you, as you did it to one of the least of these my brothers,you did it to me.’ (Matthew; 25)

        I am off this site permanently now as there is no way I am going to alter entrenched views. You obviously have an aptitude for writing . Why not use it for something more positive?

        1. Jade, Now that you have come out as a liberal and feminist I think it’s good to witness where your real complaint is: it’s not with a man spanking his wife’s bottom, it’s with male authority. You are angry and rebellious at the man for being in charge. And I cannot stress more, that the typical feminist complain against male authority is really a complaint about what lies behind male authority — God and His law, which we are all bound to obey. That is ultimately what you are angry at.

          You boldly deny it, but God has indeed put your husband over you. He says so explicitly through His revealed Word. The man is the authority in marriage.

          But I want you to know that the head of every man is Christ, the head of woman is man, and the head of Christ is God.
          (1 Corinthians 11:3)

          The headship of man in marriage is paralleled here with that of Christ over the Church and God over Christ. To attack man’s headship, is to logically attack the headship of Christ and God. In order to deny this teaching one must ignore the meaning of the word itself and of the parallel structure with man, Christ, and God. Clearly, as Christ obeys the Father, the Church obeys Christ, and the wife obeys her husband. That’s just what the language means and what the comparison emphasizes. Don’t change your rules of interpretation for passages you don’t like, and you will see it just as clearly as I do.

          Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord.

          For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body.

          Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.
          (Ephesians 5:22-24)

          Here is a plain command for a wife to submit to her husband. The word used for submit in Greek is in nearly all instances in the New Testament used to describe submission and obedience to an authority. Similar Hebrews words for submit in the Old Testament nearly always refer to submission and obedience to an authority, sometimes to God, to a king, or to a conquering force. That is what the wife is taught to do toward her husband — submit. This is further emphasized with another comparison with submission to Christ. Submission to Christ doesn’t mean we are kind and considerate toward Him (although that’s good to), but that we place ourselves under His authority and obey Him. The NT alone is filled with passages teaching Christians to obey Jesus and warning them of suffering if they do not. So clearly the comparison the the Church submitting to Christ is also one of being subject to a lord.

          Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives,

          when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear.

          Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel—

          rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.

          For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands,

          as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror.
          (1 Peter 3:1-6)

          Here Peter teaches the same doctrine, that wives must submit to their husbands, and in this instance it is taught to submit to a husband who disobeys God. Even a bad husband due to his position, deserves that honor and submission The wife leads him to Christ quietly and gently, not by trying to tell him what to do. The words used are the Greek words for submit (as used in Ephesians 5) and also the Greek word for obey, which is used side by side with it. Sarah “obeyed” Abraham, and this is what the godly Christian wife should emulate. IT further hammers home the high honor a wife should show her husband, by saying that Sarah called Abraham “lord,” and likewise Christian wives should follow this pattern. The word lord in Greek can be used for an authority, as well as for the name of God. In the Greek Septuagint it was used for the sacred name of God. Either way, it clearly reflects that Abraham was looked to as an authority, especially when used alongside the words for submit and obey.

          That means, Jade, that you are clearly denying God’s teaching when you claim you are not under your husband’s authority. It also means that you try to insert your personal views and personal feelings into the Bible where they don’t exist. This is evident by grossly ripping one verse out of context, and the trying to pump it full of the meaning you desire it to have.

          By saying that there is neither Jew nor Greek, there is “neither slave nor free, there is neither male nor female,” Paul is not saying that no one will ever have authority over another. That’s just not what the words themselves mean. Be honest with yourself here, feminists. The context lets you know what Paul is speaking about: the spiritual equality all enjoy in Christ. All may come before Him and receive salvation and sanctification. This is especially true since he has been speaking on the ending of Old Testament regulations which separated people. Just read verses 1-27 BEFORE you get to verse 28 and you will see how it flows logically. Just looks at the verse after it as well — it teaches we are all Abraham’s seed and a part of the family of promise. The content you allege is in that verse is nowhere to be found.

          All men and women come together before Christ, worship together, receive Communion — the New Covenant meal — as one. That is a stark change from the Mosaic law and from other customs which radically separated people. It is a great passage, but is not making the claim that no one will ever have authority over another. In fact, that would pit the word of God in great contradiction to itself, and would make Paul contradict himself many times over. Authority and submission is ALL OVER the New Testament, and submitting to those whom God places above us is the godly and the Christian thing to do.

          It should tell you something that the only passages in the New Testament that teach specifically on this subject, show that man is the head and the wife must submit to him. They completely refute feminism. That is why you have to jump somewhere else, rip a short passage out of context, and lay claim to it. You HAVE to do that because you are arguing for something that is not in the word of God. Scripture itself shows feminism transparently false. You should stop it. Repent, and submit to the authorities God has placed over you.

          It is interesting you should compare wives being disciplined by their husbands in a derogatory manner to children. How would being disciplined make one a child? Do you suggest that workers who need to follow their boss’s rules are like children, or that they are childlike if they get disciplined at work? Are businessmen who have to follow thousands of regulations to function legally like children, and are they childlike if they get penalized for breaking those rules? Is the citizen who must follow truly countless laws likened to a child, and is he being made childlike if he is arrested and punished for a crime? If you recognize that these adults who are under authority, follow rules, and can get punished are NOT small children, you play the hypocrite by accusing disciplined wives of being treated like children. They certainly are not! They are being treated like adults, and adults regularly need to follow rules and adults get punished. Your inconsistency in applying the charge of being childlike reveals you are not seeking the truth in this matter, but are only trying to enforce your personal false doctrine.

          Regarding being childlike, we need to further note that the Scripture does not always deride being childlike. The Scripture uplifts being childlike. Christ teaches that we should emulate children, and unless we are like a child we will not enter the kingdom of heaven, saying, “unless you are converted and become as little children, you will by no means enter the kingdom of heaven.” That doesn’t mean every aspect of childhood is good — some are not — but the humility of the child alongside his dependency and simply trust are honored as being a good picture of the Christian heart. We are to be childlike.

          Speaking in terms of punishing a child, the Epistles teach that Christ will chastise His people just like a father chastises a child. (Hebrews 12:7) That includes punishment, and it recognizes that believers in a way have the role of a child — to be taught, led, chastised by the Lord. The adult Christian is PROMISED punishment by Christ alongside the deliverance and eternal peace He brings. (Revelation 3:19) So put to rest that being childlike is always wrong. Adults get punished too, and that’s a good thing.

          The simple fact that Christ promises punishment — chastisement for his children and hell for the rebels — disproves your argumentation by Christ’s love. Christ’s love brings us eternal life, and it ALSO responds to evil with punishment. Christ crushes the souls of evildoers in hell. Moreover, just look at Christ’s warnings to the churches in Revelation 2 and 3 to see how a perfect, loving Savior does not tolerate evil. He warns them of illness, of the death of children, and of ceasing to be churches forever.

          Do not think you can pit Christ’s love against His authority and His justice. That’s a losing game and is irrational when you really think about it. You can quote the passages teaching forgiveness and caring for the weak all day long — I know them too as I read the Bible regularly — but these are in no conflict with the passages about authority and submission, or the promises of punishment. It is all the part of one whole truth. Is the fact that the government gives to the poor in conflict with the fact it catches evildoers and punishes them? No, of course not. So how could Christ’s loving kindness be in conflict with His justice, or a husband’s love in conflict with his discipline system. It all fits together and even discipline, as you ought to know, is for the final purpose of love.

          Therefore, the husband has authority over his wife. Just as he loves and protects her, he also instructs her, and chastises her for her good. No husband is mandated to use corporal punishment, but he does have the authority to use it if he chooses, since he is the head of the home. Spanking is, by comparison to other punishments in society, extremely mild, short-term, and humane. I repeat as I say throughout this site — and both believer and unbeliever would tell you the same common sense thing — that spanking helps many marriages, puts conflict in the past, and often draws man and wife closer together. If you don’t personally like it, that’s fine. You have no ground to stand on to say it is wrong.

          You mention that some amount of marital discipline has sexual overtones, or is overtly sexual. This is true, but where is the fault? The nature of marriage between man and wife includes their physical union, and that beautiful communion of the man’s strength and the woman’s yielding is present in the marriage bed, within the act of love. The daily life of the man and his wife, from the love, service, tenderness, leading, and submission all are present in miniature when they make love. When a man takes his wife completely, with control, and with passion in bed, he shows not only his desire, but his command over her. She experiences not only caresses, but her overwhelming submission.

          Naturally the discipline system carries with it the same overtones. It communicates in a very direct way, some of the same intercourse between the masculine and feminine. This is especially true since the wife is typically bare, and the man boldly displays strength. Since the purpose of spanking is punishment, or at times, training in submission, I do not place the sexual element on the surface in most of my writing, and I only directly address it from time to time, Yet it is present implicitly throughout discipline, which is a deeply intimate act. A man correcting his wife’s attitude and chastising her on her body, oozes an aroma of the sexual. I do not hide that under the covers. And I fail to see where it is wrong.

          Thank you for complimenting me on my writing ability, Jade. I enjoy the process and can easily spend hours writing. If you sincerely want to know why I spend so much time writing on marital discipline, it is not simply because it’s an interesting subject. There are many other interesting subjects too. I write more than a little about this subject because I know it is very helpful and useful in marriages. I want to help others in their present or future marriages to enjoy the peace and fruitfulness that come with the right relationship. Discipline helps immensely with that, alongside the other, more central parts of the marriage union. So the subject of spanking is worth my time and energy.

          Lastly, I am inspired to write because of the many marriages I have seen that have been damaged by the WRONG relationship — often harmed by feminism, and by a wife who rebelled, and did not respect her husband. Just like your philosophy represents. I am inspired by the families that have been literally torn apart because the wife demanded a divorce, and now children have no stability into their future. The man has been harmed and done violence to. Feminism has ripped apart families from its inception, and continues to do so today. I’ve personally been blessed with a very wonderful wife and a peaceful and happy home, but I have seen the damaged families very close to me. I know that is wrong. Feminism destroys God’s order and the natural order. That’s a big reason why I use my talents for this purpose. Nothing ends feminism as quickly as a good spanking on the behind.

          You cannot be both a Christian and a Socialist, as they are in bold contradiction to each other, and at war. Seek the truth, not the ideology that sounds most appealing to you. The Lord God is the truth.

          If you want to further voice your opinion, you are free to e-mail me at the contact below.

  6. I have been following your blog for only a short time now, but wanted to express my admiration for the way that you write, and the forthrightness of your ideas. While my blogs leans more towards the BDSM side, my husband and I have experimented with domestic discipline. I feel that having one leader in a marriage is a beautiful thing. It promotes a peaceful connection between man and wife, and spankings can serve as a much needed reset, rather than staying stuck in conflict. To the topic at hand, I have a very healthy fear of the wooden paddle. It provides both sting and thud, and leaves a lasting impression that sometimes aches for several days.

    1. I’m really glad you appreciate it, Nora. Thank you. I got the paddle for a reason and for some of the same effects you mention. It definitely delivers.

      I used to know a number of people involved in bdsm, and I know there is considerable overlap between the two practices. I believe domestic discipline is the better way, and is more of a natural fit for marriage.

      Yes, headship, submission, and discipline can keep a marriage working smoothly. As you say, it puts conflict in the past quickly, and keeps it from bubbling up. If more people knew how good it was, they’d use it. Take care.

  7. iamhissubmissive60 Avatar

    I cannot fathom a paddle being used on my backside. I hope and pray my husband never resolves to having to use a paddle on my bottom.

    1. Thanks for your comment. Yes, it is something to pray for. It delivers the harder end of punishment for sure. Nevertheless, if your husband ever uses one I’m sure it will be fore your good.

      1. iamhissubmissive60 Avatar

        Well, Aron I would much rather have the belt, it was used daily on my siblings and I up until I was married, my Dad believed in them whippings as he was in the Air Force, he had to keep us all in line as he put it. But, I am sure I wouldn’t be given a choice if my husband ever did decide to use a paddle on me. And by the way I was going to start sleeping with my husband again upon your recommendation on account you said I may build up resentment towards him if I didn’t. Then I came down with Covid 19 and we have had to stay seperate and wear masks in the house. His nob made him test sense I have it, his results were negative so he went back to work today. I am still in isolation. But, I think alot about what you say, I really do, so when I am well again I will sleep next to him and let God take care if the rest.

        1. I think most wives would choose the belt over the paddle. It is a notch lighter also. I cannot imagine daily whippings though. Very glad to hear you will be restored to intimacy with your husband soon. Our bodies are not our own in marriage, but are one. I will be posting a short article on the duty of the marriage bed soon. Take care.

  8. I have never been fond of the paddle. My experience is that can leave deep bruises on the behind that can take a long time to heal. I think a strap or if a strap is not available a good wide belt is more effective. In giving a good strapping enough strokes must be used to take the wife to the point where she experiences such pain, she thinks it unbearable and then give her ten more. Spankings that don’t reach this point, are not effective and will make the wife think a spanking is not that bad, resulting is future bad behavior.

    Every punishment spanking must be this bad. However, preventive or maintenance correction need to only be severe enough to help the wife recall what a real punishment spanking feels like. A good sign that the punishment spanking was effective is after you are done, the wife does the “spanking dance” where she hops around rubbing her behind while she is articulating great distress, usually crying. You should let her do this a brief time, then take her in your arms to reassure her the spanking is over. Then you lead her to the time out corner where she is required to be stay until you tell her she can leave. No one should be allowed to talk to her or for her to talk at all unless spoken to by you while she is in the corner

    1. Seems this would be a very hard lesson for her to take. How do you keep her still for this?

  9. […] your wife — I do talk about “paddling” her, and bring up the paddle in the article on instruments. I own one myself and recommend […]

  10. Donnamarie Avatar

    Do you have any experience with the hairbrush? Is it similar to the paddle? Does it give a lighter or heavier spanking than the paddle. Does it Bruise?

    1. Hi Donnamarie, That’s a good question related to the paddle. I used to use the hairbrush regularly in a relationship prior to marriage. The larger wooden hairbrushes are much like a small paddle. The main difference is that you can focus more on one spot, and be more precise with where you land it. It would not be heavy compared to the larger paddles, but you could compare it in force to the smaller ones.

      There are also quite small hairbrushes, and plastic ones, which would not easily pack much punch, and which might break. A husband can use them, but I don’t recommend them. The larger wooden kind is the best for discipline. A hairbrush definitely will bruise the behind if used with some force. Even the small ones can do that.

      Like a few other instruments, it is also one that is not made uniquely for discipline. It’s something you can leave lying around, or keep exactly where you use it to brush your hair, and it will look innocent enough.

      I hope that give you some insight.

  11. I don’t think that I would ever enjoy a paddle, Aron, especially not as you’ve described it. Given my enthusiasm for other methods of discipline, I wonder if my future husband might consider that the one thing that gets through to me. Surely, as you suggest, he would be merciful, and only use it for the most severe offenses. I’d like to think that would never apply to me. The mere suggestion of a paddle would be enough to keep me in line.

    1. Thanks for your comment. I think your assessment is correct — you would not enjoy the paddle. Yet you also see the point of using it, that there is something that is feared that helps keep you in line. That’s is true of discipline in general, but it is more true of the harsher instruments.

      I recommend that husbands keep one instrument around only for the most serious offenses. As you note in your comment, the mere suggestion of a harsh instrument could keep you in line. That is very much the way things work. It can sit unused most of the time, and if a husband warns he will have to use it, the wife will change her attitude quickly. It works.

  12. […] somewhat more childlike nature of being hand spanked can aid a wife in learning from her spanking. A paddle may instill the formality of discipline, or instill fear, but being spanked by hand can often […]

  13. […] they use to spank, we all know the difference between a simple hand spanking, and a grueling hard paddling. In considering the offense, and whether she has had warnings before, or whether any immediate harm […]

  14. […] called a description of a serious, or a harsh discipline. That’s because in our home I keep the paddle for the more serious kinds of punishments, for the worse offenses. In other homes, the paddle might […]

  15. In our house the paddle and strap are used quite often. For more severe discipline a fresh switch is cut and used on my bare bottom for a time period in intervals. In other words I strip naked, I cut my own switches. Usually 2 at a time in case one breaks. I am then bent over the bed or in whatever position my husband decides and he whips my bottom from the top of my rear end down to the middle of my thighs for a number of strokes or a certain amount of time. Once that whipping is administered and I am sobbing from the pain of the switch I am sent to the corner to think about my actions, the consequences and the result. I then have to apologize to my husband for my behavior, explain how I was punished and show him the result of the switching. I then get another whipping with corner time. Spankings can last up to an hour or more with intermittent switching, lecturing, corner time and the final apology and remorse. I always learn my lesson and remember my sore bottom for close to a week after or more. I remain bare bottom for the remainder of the day as a reminder that my husband can and will spank my bare bottom long and very hard. That’s always embarrassing to be naked with a welted, black and blue bottom. The final apology is me on my knees kissing, licking, sucking and swallowing my husbands hard penis and licking him clean when he cums. Yes there is sexuality involved sometimes but not always. I may be sent to bed naked with a very sore bottom. Either way I am taught a hard lesson but know my husband is only helping me with better behavior. I have had some very very hard spankings leaving my bottom stinging, sore and me very remorseful but I respect and thank my husband for the lesson. We have a beautiful marriage with plenty of respect, love and affection.

    1. Thank you for sharing how things work in your house, Bonnie. That sounds like a memorable session. No wife will want to repeat the behavior that led to it. I think the reader should know that whippings of that severity are not the common kind in domestic discipline, though. They tend to be only one spanking, and somewhat shorter. May your marriage continue to bloom and flourish.

  16. Octavian Avatar

    The paddle I use is actually a re-purposed small wooden cutting board I picked up at a discount store on a whim. The business end is slightly smaller than a ping-pong paddle about an inch thick, and the handle flares out into a smaller round of wood, not an ideal grip, but then you’re not going to be holding it for hours. The first time I paddled my wife on her bare bottom with it, things didn’t go as well as I would have hoped. This was during the earliest part of her training, and the paddle was a significant escalation in severity. I had her naked (of course), on her hands and knees in the middle of the bedroom. It was later in the evening, and I had decided to give her a “because I can” spanking, just to reinforce that her submission to me had to be complete. I brought out the paddle, gave her a pretty hard wallop, and she yelled in pain, sprang up and turned around, covering her bare bottom with her hands. I immediately hugged her and she whimpered a bit and apologized. I felt so incredibly tender towards her at that point that I just didn’t have the heart to continue. Perhaps it would have saved me some work later on if I had simply ordered her back down on the floor to complete her spanking that night, maybe with the belt, if the paddle was too intense for her at that point. She really did learn to obey me pretty quickly, once the belt was strapping her bottom on a regular basis.

    1. The paddle is definitely a notch harder to take than the belt, although it depends how it’s used. A full inch is definitely on the thick side. A lady facing the paddle knows she is in for it, and will be wishing she had not put herself there. Just the look of it spells something serious.

      I appreciate your tender care for your wife, and your concern about hurting her. However, if a spanking needs to be hard, I would not end it just because she jumps up. There are different ways to approach it, and you may want to explain why she is getting corrected, but she should receive the full punishment she has earned. There’s no avoiding the fact it will hurt, and it is meant to.

      1. Octavian Avatar

        Yes, I would agree with you on continuing the spanking now. I would stress that this happened many years ago, when my wife and I were still in our twenties. If it were to reoccur (which it hasn’t) my reaction would be much different. Given the number of times I’ve applied my belt to her bare bottom since, it would be surprising if there hadn’t been some changes!

  17. Better Lady Avatar
    Better Lady

    My husband actually made a beautiful paddle out of several types of hard woods. He used it on me gently and it was quite enjoyable, especially knowing he made it just for me. Then I stepped out of line and I now have a very healthy respect and fear of that same paddle. I appreciate and love him for his devotion to me, his discipline of me when needed and his love for me everyday. He gives me strength and he makes me a better person. We are new to DD and I wasn’t sure how he would respond as it was me that approached him with the idea. When he crafted the paddle, I was excited. When he used the paddle, I knew he was truly embracing his leadership role. I still love the paddle but hope I do not need to feel it’s full wrath again anytime soon! I have never experienced his belt or any other implements as previously he only has spanked me with his hands.

    1. Thank you for sharing that, Better Lady. It’s great to see your husband taking his role seriously. I can see how it’s helping you. The paddle is one I usually leave alone, and get out only for a serious correction. It’s very presence in the home is helpful, and my wife hopes never to face it too. I’d love to be able to make one by hand, but I would have to learn first.

      Blessing to you.

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