This April 8 marks five years since I started this marriage guide. First of all, I want to wish you all a very happy Spank Your Wife Day. I began writing the articles, mostly about spousal discipline, during the winter of 2020, and then after a little research and a few communications with people who run similar websites, I published this web guide, originally on the WordPress platform. A couple of other DD bloggers agreed to put up my link. While at the start I did not expect this guide to reach many people, I am continually pleased with how it has far exceeded my expectations, not just in the number of viewers, but also in the many interactions I have had with singles and married couples. The first few uploads of articles didn’t get many views, but within several months the number of readers started climbing, and I began to meet men and women who would be regular visitors, and with whom I would forge strong connections.
As I have said before, I don’t expect to be adding new material here continually. Posts will eventually slow down a lot, and I am already slowing down slightly, since there are only so many topics to cover within the goal of this site. However, even once I am adding new material very rarely, I will continue to respond to comments, and to work with people who desire some marriage guidance, either for themselves or as a couple. I will keep running the site until I am too old to do it any longer, and that’s quite a few years into the future now. I am committed to making this resource available.
I have always believed this guide to marriage is needed. That is in part because so much talk today about marriage is quasi-feminist, and even those teachers who profess gender roles with their lips, water them down so much that they end up teaching little. I believe we need a clear guide that will not diminish the man’s authority in the home, and which also instructs in the great tool of discipline, which brings much peace to marriage. Discipline is a fair and practical way to correct a wife when she needs it. Any husband should be ready to use it. There are other websites, including more popular ones, which discuss domestic discipline, and some are very good, but they tend to be led by women, and often are not rooted in biblical or traditional marriage. There are furthermore spanking websites which are not watered down in terms of authority, but they are heavily in the BDSM arena, which I find extreme in its methods and poorly rooted to begin with. It is a movement awash in punishment, but it simply seems to miss the point. I have tried to build something which provides what they do not — by being rooted in real marriage, in respecting gender roles, and in being clear and explicit in how a man is to lead his wife.
I do this because I wish to help couples. Every marriage should reflect peace and love. It should picture a strong godly man, who is clearly in charge, and a gentle, beautiful wife, who follows him easily. If you rip authority out of marriage, and if you deny the man the right to discipline his wife, you truly harm that image. You also make the potential problems that occur in marriage multiply, and make them harder and take longer to solve. If a man leads and applies discipline when necessary, what once seemed like intractable problems ease up quickly, and some are gone nearly overnight. Real progress begins soon, even if it takes persistence to overcome in the long run. People who don’t want men to discipline their wives are usually just ignorant or afraid of it. Yet countless couples will acknowledge that it works, and many are enthusiastic about its benefits. It’s hard not to be. Spanking is a balm on the soul of sorts, and it brings a woman back under her husband like nothing else does.
There are no shortage of horror stories in marriage of wives who disrespect their husbands all the time, who withhold sex, and who basically lead independent lives. Ordering a marriage rightly does not allow for this. A lot of those misbehaved women know they need their tail strapped, and some of them are longing for a strong man to do it. A tail strapping would put their heart back where it belongs. But if they see a weak husband, whom they can manipulate, they despise him to no end. If they see a man who bends over backward to please them, but cannot tell them no or rebuke them, they laugh in his face. They become his enemy. Women need the man’s power, and they can fall into terrible evil without it. Marriages are destroyed by errant women. This fact is motivating to me to write my web guide, and I hope it is motivating to you also to help marriages, of your friends, family, and here online. You can make a difference.
I certainly expected some hatred when I began the website. The snakes on the secular left, and among worldly Christians, did not disappoint. I experience regular insult, hatred, and violent threats, along with occasional intelligent debate. If I were merely writing about a Dom spanking a Sub, with some revealing pictures alongside it, I would receive far less venomous hatred, but since I write about a Husband spanking his Wife, in what is a true and legitimate relationship called marriage, it angers people to no end. I allow some critical comments on the website, for the sake of correcting a false view openly, but I keep it to a minimum, since it is not the point of the site to have long debates, or to listen to nitwits insult and mischaracterize us. It is truly absurd, in this supposedly tolerant age, that someone really sits and seethes in front of their computer because of what a man and a woman do consensually in their own home. It also reflects a rather pathetic lifestyle that haters spend real time out of their lives to harass and threaten people they don’t like. I guess the going saying is: Get a life, loser. But I could think of other things to say as well.
The past five years have also been five more years of my marriage. I can sincerely look back and cherish every day. My wife and I do not know conflict. We enjoy each other, we work hard, we have affection, we spend time together in fellowship and worship of God. Viewing those years together is beautiful, and I am forever grateful that I have a godly wife who follows me and who manages so much important work in the household. She is the mother of my children, and it would be horrible if I did not trust her or think highly of her. She has only grown richer as a woman over the years, including those most immanent in my memory, and has only become more beautiful over the years. While she does not do it as frequently as I, my wife also has the chance to counsel other women in their marriages, and in their lives as women of God. She has good advice to give, and also is living out a splendid example in the home, an example which should set the pattern for other women, and let them see clearly where the correct path lies, and see just how peaceful the path is. That is the life in our home, in a marriage where she is disciplined when needed. My wife is a great help and is easy for me to manage, an ease which comes in part from discipline.
I cherish my readers here, even the ones I have never heard from, and I truly hope this website will improve their marriages, or inspire them to marry in the first place. Marriage is a joy and a blessing. Don’t doubt it for a minute. Both man and wife are fulfilled through the union, and all society receives the rewards of stable homes, and children well raised. I am also very thankful for my readers who have consistently offered me encouragement, and those who have chosen to financially support my work. It is a great blessing to me. We’ve been through one website, which was eventually shut down by the faceless people at WordPress in 2023, and then over to TWO new venues, both at Substack and at my regular site. It took a little while to get all the technology working, and I hope it still is, but the situation now is better than when I started. I have two venues for this guide. I have a website with more options than the first one, which was more basic and lacked a search bar. You do have to subscribe in order to leave comments, but that is only to protect against spam and make harassers work harder. Potential problems have been turned around to make a new and I believe better product.
Thank you all for following my work. This is a ministry from the heart which is rooted in my faith. I am honored to have you following it and to share my life and thoughts with you. I love to hear from our readers and learn from your own experiences in marriage, especially those which include discipline. Your insights are valuable to our other readers. I always welcome thoughtful, honest, respectful comments below these articles, and for anything best kept private, just write to my e-mail. It’s been great to have you join us. A warm welcome to anyone here who is new. There are hundreds of articles to absorb. I would advise you to go through some of the early articles first, which are more likely to deal with the basics of discipline in marriage. That will help you have a better hold of the subject. I hope you will consider this for your marriage, and that it blesses your home.
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