Your Place for Singles

I was motivated to write this simply as an invitation to our readers, present and future, to advertise for a spouse if they are single. I’ve had a number of readers ask me about finding a mate, and several specifically asked about finding one here at Spank Your Wife. While singles may put their contacts in the comment section of ANY article, perhaps this one will draw more since that is its purpose. I sympathize with those who desire spanking in their future marriage, and who find it hard to bring up the topic. There is also natural embarrassment in some to let others know they want to practice discipline. For that reason, it seems convenient to look for a place just for singles who want to spank. Look for the like-minded, right?

In general, as I’ve written before, I believe the traditional approach is better; look for a man or woman who is godly and believes in traditional gender roles. Look for someone convinced on headship and submission, who’s prepared to live that way. Be sure they are at least a good candidate. Then find a convenient time to bring up the topic of discipline. I’ve written several essays on how it can best be brought up. I believe this approach works best, because it focuses on finding a godly mate, and places those things most important at the head. It’s what I did in finding my wife, and it worked for me.

I also found this true before I was married. Of the women I knew who agreed to be spanked, or who yearned for it themselves, not one did I connect with through an advertisement. It was an activity one of us brought up after we met in a different fashion. It does take some courage to do, but it’s not an unrealistic task. The culture may look down on wife spanking, but many men and women learn in their hearts it is natural to do, and is fulfilling in it own way. The male and female natures God gave them leans that way to begin with; the man desiring to show his strength and command, and a woman feeling great excitement at responding with femininity, and being firmly in his grasp. That programming in us does not change with culture. It’s there in every man and woman you meet, minus a very rare genetic anomaly. You’re also likely not the only soul who’s read about spanking online, or been at least curious about it. You’ll find there’s a good chance it’s not a shock when you bring it up to a prospective partner. They haven’t been living on Mars or Pluto, you know. A few may have practiced it before.

Advertising for a spanking marriage has certain disadvantages. Firstly, it puts the cart before the horse. It makes one facet of a marriage the thing you are looking for, rather than the major components. Spanking is only a tool to be used in aiding marital headship and submission, and in healing discord back into harmony. It facilitates the bigger things in marriage, but it’s NOT the bigger things in marriage. It’s just an aid. Moreover, advertising for a spanking partner puts enough of a focus on what others find shady, that it attracts more shady customers. One has to be careful always in finding a mate, but when spanking is in the forefront, there is more danger of the nutters and the sadists coming out for a bite. You have to be very discerning, and will need to filter out some people, probably sooner than later.

If you do make spanking your advertising point, I still recommend spending much more time and discussion on the basics: The responsibilities of man and wife. How we treat each other. The lifelong nature of the bond. The need for children and for training them. The fact that intimacy is shared freely and without refusal. The honor it is to witness to the Savior through marriage, and how to have a home life which represents the Lord Jesus. Let the learning process proceed as normal, even if the invitation to meet was from a spanking ad. Rest on what a marriage is, and recognize spanking is only one tool, and not even the only one in providing discipline. Make sure you are filled with both joy and purpose in marriage, and are as passionate about what marriage accomplishes as you are about over-the-knee time. Marriage is a responsibility, and provides us our future. It is not a game.

With that thought in mind, feel free to advertise below if you are single and would like a spouse who will use or accept discipline. If you are not, you can still comment on the process, and offer advice. Perhaps you met your spouse this way. If I had the option, I’d have a page just for finding a mate, but I don’t have the time or funds to put one together. I have seen men and women grow from absorbing this website, and I would be equally honored if men and women came together in marriage through it. I want to bless people and bless marriages. That makes my efforts worthwhile.

Peace to you.


81 responses to “Your Place for Singles”

  1. Sterling Avatar

    To any young Christian ladies interested,

    Have you ever wanted to meet a Man who can kill spiders, open Jars, and listen to you talk about your day? All while being tall, handsome, and possessing a pair of blue eyes you can’t help but get lost in? Well then look no further the man of your dreams is here. OK I know what you’re thinking this sounds great! but what’s the catch? Well…I’m a Man which means I watch sports, drink beer, and from time to time am emotionally unavailable. Although I suppose for the right woman I could work on that last one haha.

    However most importantly I’m a Man of faith. I truly believe that god has guided and blessed me throughout my life, especially the last two years. Likewise I am looking for a woman who shares my strong commitment to following God. I want a relationship and eventually a marriage where we Love, Cherish, and Adore each other the way the bible commands us to. A feat I don’t think is possible without a shared faith in God.

    Anyways my name is Sterling and if you wanna know more, shoot me a flirty message at I am 28 years old and would like you to be roughly around that age as well. Obviously we met here so Christian Domestic Discipline would be a part of any relationship we develop.

    Thank you Aron for this site whether I meet my future wife here or not you have been extremely helpful to this young Man.

    1. You’re welcome. I hope you meet a good and godly woman soon.

  2. I quite enjoy reading this site as it speaks to everything I believe in. I’ve found that relationships without a strong DD component just don’t work for me- and I’ve definitely tried.

    I’m 41, living in California but not tied to it. I’m open to any age, any location- if the connection is there, that’s what’s most important.

    I believe that as the man I’m the head of the household, following God’s lead. I believe in consistent domestic discipline, meaning clearly defined roles, rules, and expectations. Consistency is the key in DD, in my opinion. If I let anything slide, you could spiral. So I don’t let anything slide- sorry in advance! Haha.

    I’d love to chat if you think we might be compatible. I’m Joe- say hello!

  3. This is such a great idea! I’m a 30-year-old female seeking a CDD relationship. I’m curious what your thoughts are on discipline during the courting phase. I’ve heard a variety of opinions on the topic ranging from recommendations that it be off limits until marriage to indications that it can be helpful to introduce prior to marriage so the expectations are already set. What do you suggest? Are there ways to introduce it without crossing premarital boundaries?

    1. Hello Sarah, Thank you. I’m glad you appreciate the space for singles. I hope the Lord leads you to a godly man who will lead you and love you for life.

      The topic of spanking during the courting phase comes up occasionally. There are naturally many who will desire to try it. I think it’s clear it should be discouraged, because the nature of spanking is so intimate, and commonly involves nudity. Spanking also comes with an erotic charge, and can easily lead to temptation to sin. Moreover, a man does not really have true binding authority until they are married. They might model headship and submission before then, but it’s practice, and he has no formal rule over her.

      I realize many people spank while courting anyway. Those who desire to avoid temptation, will keep the lady clothed during the spanking. It may not come with the full sting that way, but a paddle over clothes is still not easy to take.

      So I recommend against it, because spanking is best left for marriage. It might only be a few months wait to get married. That’s really not a long time.

      I hope that helps answer your question.

    2. Joe Doe Avatar

      With due respect to Aron, I think it’s something you have to discuss with the man courting you. Aron is correct that until you are married, he has no binding authority over you. On the other hand, it can give each of you useful practice if that’s something that you decide that you should do. You could keep it clothed, as Aron recommended. However, some couples might prefer, especially once engaged, to include stripping her for spanking or even other discipline training involving her being bare. Yes, there’s an erotic component to such discipline, but if a man is controlled he won’t make it sexual or initiate sex acts. I think as long as the couple is refraining from sex acts, they haven’t crossed over into premarital sex. It takes discipline from both, though. The argument for would be that this self-discipline is something to be encouraged. The argument against would be that it’s too intimate and too tempting. Perhaps a couple would work out a compromise of, say, her underpants stay on until they’re married. But ultimately, it’s something that you have to be in agreement with. Ask yourself, and ask the man courting you if and when that happens, what do you think is most profitable?

  4. I‘m a 30 year old christian woman interested in meeting a christian man interested in DD. Hopefully at an age range of 40-50.
    Feel free to write to

    Thank you so much Aron for creating this space. 🙂

    1. You’re welcome, Lucy. God bless you and Happy Easter. Grace be with you in your search.

  5. Here is a little information about this birch bundle made from very thin ends of twigs. If you use this tool you’ve got a form of correction which gives an intense pain but it nevertheless leaves no marks that don’t disappear in about one day. You don’t have to use much force here—it isn’t necessary, the pain builds up slowly and you can keep up the good work for half an hour for a lasting impression in your wife’s mind. This isn’t cruel at all compared to using a cane which you can use only a very short time and therefore doesn’t cause the lasting memory effect you want to achieve.
    Have in mind that this birch branch bundle dries very quickly. You can easily soften it by putting it into a big ceramic bowl or anything with hot water. It then becomes as good as new and fresh. I think that these implements that are mentioned here very often are too harsh and nearly cruel! With this natural, silent and free tool one makes the dear wife’s behind get this necessary, intense pain without bruises and scars.
    I strongly recommend a bundle of about ten, very thin branches from a birch tree, for example! A proper length can be about one foot two.
    It should look like this, perhaps with even thinner ends of the twigs:

    No noise at all, (at least from the tool), and very effective but still harmless.
    You can normally start up with 20 to 30 slaps with open hand and then use this bundle! If you want to be very silent you of course use this method immediately,
    It is a very mild form of spanking at the beginning but after about 150 lashes it makes a sharp, stinging feeling that can not be ignored. Then you pause for a minute or two and then continue. All of this can and should be done several times but of course it is up to yourselves. Do not forget, during a maintenance spanking, to communicate with caresses and hugs. We love our wives, don’t we!

    1. Thank you for your description of using the birch bundle, Sigurd. I’ve never tried it and always been curious about how it works. I don’t think most of us have used it. Are there twigs from other trees that work well too?

  6. Thomas Leak Avatar
    Thomas Leak

    Single guy late 40s looking a with woman who believes in spankings and is searching for a gentleman that has the time and interest in providing guidance, accountability and spanking to the woman in his life.

  7. I hope you find your mate, Brooke!

    1. Hey i found someone! Could you please delete this comment for me? Thank you!

      1. Sure thing. Just did. Congratulations on meeting someone. I hope he is a good and godly man.

  8. Hello my name is Sara and I’m a 30 year old woman living in northern IL looking for a CDD relationship. I’ve read quite a few of your articles and I love your site!

    1. Thank you, Sara. I’m happy your appreciate the website. I hope you are able to find a good man here for marriage, who will lead and love you for life.

    2. Hey Sarah,

      Curious if you are still in the dating world😂?

      Hope to hear from you soon! Thanks!

      1. sara moorman Avatar
        sara moorman

        Yes, I am still a part of the dating world.

  9. […] only recently used these pages to invite singles to meet here for marriage with a like minded partner. I want to use this article as a chance for […]

  10. Hello. I am a 41 year old woman living in New Jersey. I have been reading up on the subject of CDD and am interested in finding a relationship. If anyone would like to speak to me my email is Thank you!

  11. Hi there,
    I am a 43 year old woman living on the west coast but with strong ties to east coast as well. Very much looking for a strong leader and what Aron describes in his articles. Have struggled to find a place to meet men with these values. I have researched a bit and feel very drawn to the accountability and embracing my submissiveness.

  12. Carlisle Avatar

    I just stumbled upon this page as I was looking for methods to handle one of the children I nanny that is going through an unruly phase. I feel like I have found exactly what I’m looking for, not for her, but for myself! I have been very interested in meeting a man who is mature and dedicated to leading his family with a firm, but kind hand. I have read many dd books, but have never picked up on any men I know having this trait in real life. Due to society emasculating men, I’ve yet to meet any man (single or married) that I could see having this perspective on relationships. I am quite shy at first when I meet men I do not know, so this has kept me from engaging in any real conversations that might lead to discussing cdd. I have recently moved to Alabama and have started going to a new church, so maybe some of the women there can offer me some insight from a woman’s perspective. I’d love to talk more about this with men who might be interested in getting to know me or other women who would like to talk more about your perspectives. I’m almost 29 years old and my email is

  13. Hi all, My name is Amy and I live in the Midwest. I am looking for a CDD relationship. Christ is who I follow and desire to be like and I want to meet a man with similar values who also disciplines. Someone who is a leader and will be the Head of the Home. I am 45 and willing to relocate. I am always up for more conversation and would love to hear from you.

  14. Hello
    My name is Hisham, I am 34 years old,
    Although, I am from Egypt and I live there, and I believe that’s really difficult to have a woman that want someone to discipline her , but I wanted to try anyway because I am a big fan of this blog and I am happy that there are some women who still believe of what a real woman should be
    looking for a long term relationship that’s full of domestic discipline.
    If you are interested
    Email me:
    What’s app: +201007792477

    1. It’s good to hear from one of our readers in Egypt. Welcome Hisham! I hope this site helps you find a good wife. I am honored you enjoy my blog.

  15. Smiling eyes Avatar
    Smiling eyes

    Thank you for sharing your knowledge of a relationship where the husband is head of his household. I truly wish someone had shared this with me before I began my adult life. I am 46, divorced for more than a decade from a marriage where I struggled because I was forced into the role of being in charge, and craving a taken in hand relationship with a Godly man. I can tell you it’s very hard to find. After my marriage dissolved I began soul searching and trying to understand what I needed out of a relationship. I came across a few extremely outdated posts on DD but truly felt I had found what I needed. I have bravely discussed this with three different men that I have dated over the years only to be shut down and honestly ridiculed for desiring such a lifestyle. Needless to say those relationships did not last. I came across your post yesterday and I’m very thankful that you have taken the time to write on a topic that the world seems to reject. I may never have the opportunity to experience the life I feel God intended for me to live, but I know I will never accept being in a relationship that is less than what you have described in your posts. I pray that God will bless you and your wife for honoring how the Bible teaches a marriage should be.

    1. Hello Smiling, I’m honored that you are so moved by my website. Thank you. It’s what I deeply care about. I can see how you have learned from your experience and from your hardships. Many women have the wisdom to understand they can get out of hand if their man is weak. They should still work their hardest to be submissive, but the man’s clear leadership and strength helps immensely.

      Marriages with husband and wife committed to their roles don’t generally have problems with women usurping their husbands, or with being openly disrespectful to them. If only men knew how much of a difference their leadership makes. We do not need more passive men. If men knew to use discipline, nearly any man would find it a useful tool in handling his wife. We need to inform both men and women, and they must be committed to their roles. I hope you do all you can in the future to come to the meekness and humility that the Bible teaches a woman must have.

      I must also say — and I’m not opening this up for a big debate — that if your marriage was a first for both of you, then it is for life. No separation or divorce ends a marriage. It simply puts a pause on the practical end of it. The Bible teaches a separated woman to either remain single, or reconcile with her husband. Those are the two blessed paths that God has for you, and you can glorify Him greatly in either path. Those who take new spouses are sinning, and need to repent. God brings us one partner for life in marriage, and what God has joined together, man may not put asunder.

      I deeply appreciate your prayers.

      1. Smiling eyes Avatar
        Smiling eyes

        I agree with your comments on marriage. I took my wedding vows to heart. My marriage ended when my ex left me and our family for someone else. He married again, divorced again and then passed away. I have learned a lot. Just learned it the hard way. I am thankful that God is still revealing things to me and that I feel his love and mercy around me every day.

        1. That’s great to know you are walking in the Lord’s path. Thank you.

  16. Your writing about why spanking makes men better leaders and why women love to be spanked are the most direct, accurate and all around best explanations for this totally natural need that I’ve ever seen. I used to be ashamed and think it was a perverse fetish to want to be physically taken over sexually and submit my bare bottom in ritualized fashion to be spanked as well. Your observations have made me realize I don’t just want to play at this, I actually need this in my life and partner. It’s normal. Without it, I will fight over who is in charge, dwell on petty issues, and be unsatisfied sexually since I won’t have a clear leader as my partner. I know I need formal weekly maintenance submissions to remind me of my place as submissive support mate, to feed my need to submit and receive discipline, and to hold me accountable. I know I will need to be taken sexually as well when he desires because otherwise I will be withholding and testing to see if he is “man” enough to make it happen anyway. Like Scarlet O’Hare. Although you just know he spanked her good and well before he had his way. Women can be complicated, and I’m not saying we are all the same, but thank you for spelling it out so that I saw my truth. I’m in my early 60’s but it’s not too late. Will love to correspond with anyone who is very intelligent, decently educated, and understands my needs.

    1. I’m very honored you find truth in my writings, Tea. I believe in this strongly and when I have time pour my efforts into explaining it. I care to help people. If I can encourage, inspire, or guide even a single couple toward leadership, submission, and discipline, I am very happy.

      That’s excellent that you know your needs, a far as submitting. It takes humility and courage to truly submit. Accepting correction isn’t easy either, even when you desire it for yourself. You’ve got to face it and learn from it.

      It is truly horrible the culture has convinced millions that discipline is either wrong, or a strange sexual fetish. It is something wrapped up in our souls. Remember, in other cultures, it is still not especially rare or frowned on. It is egalitarianism that’s oddball, not headship and submission.

      Feel free to leave your contacts if you’d like. Blessings.

      1. I’m a little afraid to leave my email but am following this line of posts and will respond if someone leaves theirs. Will love to also chat with other women who are or have already reached the same conclusion that I have.
        Wish you had a forum. Please consider that as a way to help more people be their best and be free to be who they really were meant and born to be.

        I hope you continue to write, you speak to the truth, and more women share how they came to realize this. How they came to this realization too. I am a feminist out in the world, a professional and a boss. But when I come home, I want to know he will hold the line and enforce it. I know you said we should first just look for the right partner then later bring up domestic discipline but it has not worked. it ends up being embarrassing for both of us. It is unlikely to find one that way. I’ve tried.

        It took me so many years to get past all of society “norms” that make this practice seem perverse. I carried so much guilt, embarrassment and secrets. Your explanations of why it’s really natural and God given set me free to be me.

        1. That’s fine, Tea. I hope you can find good fellowship from this website. I have heard both good and bad reports about the kind of people readers have met. I believe it is worth the effort either way.

          It’s a good idea to have a forum. Thank you for the suggestion. Right now I don’t have the capacity, and I don’t know how I’d have the time to moderate it. However, a visitor shared with me his new DD forum. It’s not very active at the moment, but if people jumped on there’s be more give and take. I’ve invited him to post it here himself but he hasn’t yet.

          You can check it out right here:

          Yes, it can take years to readjust your thinking, and drop some old wrong attitudes. But once you do, it is amazing how right and how fulfilling God’s path is for us. So many problems disappear. It took me a long time as a man as well. I know your experience can help other women learn.

          Peace to you.

    2. Sigurd Nilsson Avatar
      Sigurd Nilsson

      Hello Tea.

      English is not my first language cause I live in Scandinavia, I hope I´ll make myself understood.
      With some experience of CDD I think we could write some mails and benefit from that to start with. I am 74 but look much younger I think. With 176 cm from the floor I´m a little heavier than I should but it´s possible to manage.

      Friendly, Sigurd

  17. I am a bit older, and at 72, was married for 26 years. I am looking for a woman with no drama. The CDD life style has attracted me for many years, and I practiced it for several years. Write to me at

  18. Can you remove my post please?

    1. Sure I did. There were two of them.

  19. Hey, Aron. I am a 22 year old Christian guy who has grown very fond of what you say here on this blog.

    For the longest time, i was under the impression that the thoughts and desires that you have shared on your blog, were wrong and incorrect and that the only way you can be a man, is to be passive and try to be equals.

    That mindset ended up making me very soft and wishy washy mentally…and I’ve started to realize that that is not the role that a man should serve. Thankfully, i met a few guys in college that helped me start to grow back into the role that God had intended for me.

    I pray that I can find a wife whom I can love and cherish, bit also provide a firm foundation for us to grow through CDD.

    Do you have any advice for me?

    1. Hello Austin, That is fantastic news. I’m very grateful you’ve found my site, and have been nourished in your growth. I have heard from others who also came to change their mindset on gender roles and discipline over time. It can really take a while, both to accept a man’s leadership role, as well as to see how discipline fits into that role. It’s a great journey to be a godly man, and I know you should be excited about your future.

      Do you mean to ask if I have advice in finding a wife and starting with discipline? It’s good to know there are still godly women even in western culture, which is secular and decadent. There are women who know their role, or at least are willing to learn and accept what their role is; who will not give you attitude. If you are in a very liberal area, it can be harder to find a woman like that, but looking for women from other cultures often increases your chances.

      It is important to make sure a future bride understand what marriage is about, and what being a godly woman is before you marry. She should be committed to her submission, to being a mother and homemaker, and know that marriage is always for life. Husband and wife fulfill their responsibilities, and forgive the sins of the other. When you marry, that is the same person you will grow old with. You should be able to see before you are married that she knows to follow you, is gentle in spirit, and accept correction with grace. Make sure you know her well, by knowing her family and her church family.

      Starting discipline when both man and wife are committed is not that difficult, even though it takes some practice and adjustments with time. You will grow comfortable with setting standards and rules for the home, giving commands, and correcting her in the proper fashion. Don’t be afraid of causing pain, since a punishment will hurt and it needs to. Be firm and thorough with discipline, since that is what it takes, and it is good for her. Correction is the outworking of love, even when it hurts.

      Make sure that you are leading the kind of life you should as a Christian and a man of virtue. That is your obligation, and will also help attract the right kind of woman. She should know you are sincere, faithful, and a man of God. She will get down on her knees for you, and you should be getting down on your knees before the Lord. You should be responsible, look in all appearances like a man, and someone she will be safe with. It will still take some time to lose past attitudes, and wrong patterns of thought. It does for everyone who makes life changes. If you keep walking in holiness, and are dedicated to being what a man needs to be, you will notice those past wrongful thoughts, and shoot them out of the sky. You will see clearer and further as you do.

      Please continue in your learning about your roles as a man, and found your life on faith in Christ and the Word of God. Christ is the establishment of all things in our lives. Follow Him and your blessings will serve His Kingdom, and even your sufferings will bring wonderful fruit. You will have peace in your soul, and be able to bless those around you. No one, not this culture, not every last person on the planet, can change the role that God has given you. It does not change. Man is the leader, priest, and prophet of the home. That’s an awesome responsibility, and know the value it will produce for your own family and for the future.

      If you haven’t seen it already, here’s an article on preparing to have headship and discipline in your marriage:

      Plus one on starting discipline:

      On taking charge:

      I hope that addresses your question, but let me know if it does not. Feel free to write me at my e-mail as well. Thank you!


    2. Hi Austin,

      Are you still looking for someone?


  20. Are you still looking?

  21. Teacher in MA Avatar
    Teacher in MA

    Hello! I do not know if this is still active. I am a 37 year old female in MA interested in meeting an incredible man of God who wants to enter Christian domestic discipline. I am happy to respond to this thread.

    1. Quiet Man Avatar
      Quiet Man

      Hello Teacher in MA, its been a while since you made your post but maybe you’re still looking. I am close to your age and looking to meet someone special with a heart for the Lord. I already posted my email above if you would like to learn more about me.

      1. maffeoamanda Avatar

        I replied

  22. Hi, young female in MA. Don’t know that I’m incredible but I am a man (51) of God. Perhaps we can chat first via email and see.

    1. Teacher In Ma Avatar
      Teacher In Ma

      I just saw your response. If you want to provide your email address I will write you.

  23. Catherine Avatar

    Hello friends! I’m a 28 year old female from West Virginia who’s just looking for what every woman secretly (or not so secretly) wants: a loving marriage and a few beautiful children. I’d like someone close to my age to build this with, so if you think we’d be a good fit, email me at

    1. Fred Workman Avatar
      Fred Workman

      I’m also in West Virginia. I would love to speak with you. I sent you an email.

  24. Hello everyone! My name is Adam. I am 24 and I currently live in San Antonio TX. I am looking for a CDD with a lovely woman. I would hopefully like kids and a nice house to live in.

    I like to read, draw, watch TV, and be outside. I’m also interested in growing my faith and talking to people who are interested in the same stuff that I am. If anyone is interested please send me a message!

  25. Gaby, 23 anos, sou Brasileira, tenho visto muitos casamentos sendo destruídos devido ao movimento feminista, quero ser uma esposa tradicional conforme a Palavra de Deus, em um casamento CDD.

    Meu e-mail:

    1. Thanks for writing. This is the English translation I get online: “Gaby, 23, I’m Brazilian, I’ve seen many marriages being destroyed due to the feminist movement, I want to be a traditional wife according to the Word of God, in a CDD wedding.”

  26. QuietMan22 Avatar

    Hello, I am a divorced Christian man, early 40’s in central New York. I have been in a DD relationship before and I believe this lifestyle works well to help me be the best man I can be. I am looking for a woman who feels DD helps her be the best woman she can be. I imagined I would be the one to approach a woman about a potential relationship but I can understand some women will not be comfortable publishing their email. My friends tell me I look a little like Bruno Fernandes on the Manchester soccer team but I think I’m better looking than him even if I do have a few more gray hairs 🙂 I wish everyone the best and hope you find what you are looking for.

  27. Hello, I’m a single guy, age: 29 year, living in Atlanta GA, specifically I live 30 minutes outside of the metro area. I firmly believe in Christian Domestic Discipline. I firmly believe that, as a man in a Godly marriage, I make the rules and enforce them. My wife has to comply with those rules. When she does not, I correct her in very clear and strong terms (but also in deep love), with spanking or through other methods.

    I enjoy knowing God more, hanging out with family and friends, and continuing to achieve more in the ways of my mission and purpose in life.

    It’s okay if you’re a work-in-progress as a woman, but I’d need to see that you are committed to being totally submissive and appreciate a man who will discipline you. I look forward to connecting with Christian ladies, and starting something that could lead to marriage. My email:

    Thanks Aron for creating this platform.

    1. My pleasure. I hope it works out for you.

    2. Please email me 🙏🏻

  28. schmakes Avatar

    Hello, my name is Katie, I’m 25 years old, and debt-free😄 I’m looking for a Godly man to lead me in marriage. I live in oregon with my family so I don’t meet a lot of masculine men with traditional values. I’m willing to court someone up to ten years older than myself. I’m 5’4, slender with long brown hair. I do hold some unorthodox beliefs, which I realize may limit my options, but, after all, I’m looking for the one man God might have for me. I believe very strongly in traditional values, such as being a homemaker and mother to as many children as The Lord Might Bless me with. Marriage is my goal, I’m not interested in messing around. Also I should mention that I completely agree with this blogger’s view on spanking outside of marriage, I think it should be done within the bounds of marriage. Please reach out if you’re interested!

  29. Suchende Avatar

    Alright, I read somewhere on your site, that you get many views from Germany, so I’ll give it a shot: I’m a female in her early thirties looking for a caring partner, to form a DD-relationship with. If you’re in your thirties as well and live in NRW, message me:

    Thank you for this post, Aron!

    1. It’s my pleasure, Suchende. I am very happy to be able to help. Yes, Germany is still very high on the list of countries that view my site.

  30. TexasCDDFemale Avatar

    Hey, I am a female in the Texas area looking for a man into CDD. I am willing to provide more information via email. My email is

  31. This is an old article but still would like to post my info and see what happens. My name is Ryan I’m 39 years old and live in the Louisville KY area. I pray for God to send me a true biblical woman who wants to have a marriage that honors God. I will follow this thread or you can email me at

    1. Hi Ryan I’d love to talk some more

  32. Hello, I am a 40 year old divorced single woman. I have never been in a DD relationship, but the idea has intrigued me for a while. I have never been able to openly communicate my desires in my past relationships, because I either did not trust them to have this type of relationship for the right reasons or I was simply just too nervous to bring it up. However, I do believe this is the most natural type of relationship. I’m a hard worker, I’m smart and driven. I know that I am capable of being a strong independent woman, but that life is just simply not appealing to me and I would like to have a partner that I can trust to hand him the reigns.
    Some more about myself, I have 2 kids (19 and 15), I’m a huge animal lover, my dogs are like my children, I love traveling and experiencing different things, I love roller coasters, reading, board games, and just hanging out at home watching true crime documentaries!
    If any single guys around my age feel we may hit it off…shoot me an email

  33. Hi I’ve been wanting to be in a DD relationship for a long time but didnt know how to look or ask. I’m a 33 year old female in Texas

    1. QuietMan22 Avatar

      Hello Wynter, Good for you for asking for what you want. Would you like to leave your email here so that interested men can contact you? Please be careful in your search. There are many people that would take advantage of your good heart. I hope you find what you are looking for.

    2. Hello Wynter, I’m Ryan, my contact information is below if you’re interested.

      1. I emailed you

    3. Hello Wynter,

      My name is Adam. I am 2 weeks from being 25 years old and I live in San Antonio. If you are interested in talking I’d love to hear from you. My email is-

      Have a good day!

  34. Hello everyone. I am seeking a loving man of God for a taken in hand, Christian domestic discipline marriage. I am in north Jersey but can relocate. I have a strong relationship with Our Savior Jesus and enjoy reading scripture. I believe that God placed the man as head of household. A good husband is loving and firm providing rules and discipline.

    I can be contacted at

  35. Hi,
    I’m Kari. I’m 32 and live in the Kansas City area. I’m looking for a CDD relationship with someone who will encourage me to grow and still hold me accountable.
    I belong to a Southern Baptist Church and am also a high school math teacher.
    Feel free to reach out if you are interested in pursuing a relationship.

    1. Hi Kari, I’m Joe. I too was raised and still practice as a Southern Baptist. Love that you’re a teacher. So you appreciate the importance of learning. If you like to chat:

    2. Hi Kari, I would be interested in getting to know you more.

  36. Hi.

    I’m a 35 year old Scandinavian man looking for a woman to marry. Foreign or domestic, big or small. all messages taken seriously.

    When I was a little boy 5-6 years old I once played with a little girl. It was summer. We were in our underwear, playing on the lawn and for some reason I had a flyswatter in my hand. I remember she said something rude, turned her back to me and by instinct I slapped her on the but with the flyswatter. She squealed and laughed and ran away. I chased trying to swat her again.

    Though I can’t remember the girls name or face, I do remember the feeling of correctness in what I was doing. I was supposed to swat her bottom. Before I had developed a sexuality or a moral code I understood that just like I was supposed to marry a girl someday I was supposed to swat her bottom when she was bad.

    The second thing I remember was frustration with her running away. She wasn’t supposed to do that. Just like I understood girls are supposed to marry boys; I understood that girls aren’t supposed to run away from incoming punishment.

    I live in a super equal country. I learned from a young age that any sort of dominance of women is chauvinistic and sexist. And so for many years I thought I was an evil wannabe wife beater. That was until I found a distraction. I truly thought I had found the answer when I stumbled on the bdsm scene. There it was. A place for me to practice. To learn about welding power and more importantly taking responsibility, but somewhere between reading a post about how a woman had left her man because he tried to dominate her “for real” and my lady friend at the time saying “i’m not in the mood for a spanking today” I realized it was just a game. aesthetic without filling, just boys chasing girls with fly swatters.

    I pretty much decided at that point that I was never going to marry. I wasn’t going to find someone who believed in the same stuff as me due to my country’s views on equality and I wasn’t going to marry halfway, But then I found a small community online.

    Truly. This website and a few others like it are a godsend, I thought I was alone. I thought I was broken. I thought I was evil. But it turns out there are others like me out there. Men and Women who see what I see. Who understands what I understand. That hierarchy and clear definition of roles not only in marriage but in society is good, stabilizing and necessary for those institutions to work properly. Seriously. Thank you Aron, for all you have done.

    So here I am. Casting a net to see if I can find someone to share the rest of my life with. Someone with whom I can grow and share a loving, proper and stable marriage. I’m not a rich man nor am I prince charming, but I know who I am. I know my place, duties, privileges and responsibilities. At the end of the day. What more can you one for?

    Send me an email.

    1. That’s beautifully written. I’m very happy my website has been helpful to you in learning about gender roles. I hope you find a good wife who will commit herself to submission for life.

      1. Greetings. I am a female in my mid- forties (although look in my thirties, good genes 🙂), and truly seek a Traditional Christian Domestic Discipline lifestyle. I am slim but athletic, 5’7″, and love to get outside but also have that feminine trait as well.

        I am searching for a husband, best friend, life-partner, with mutual attraction, compatibility, and values—someone whose life I can complement even as he complements mine—in short: a soulmate. I seek a man of substance who also knows that it is important to be playful and have fun, a man who knows deep down what a domestic discipline relationship is to feel fully “at home,” and who will thrive and prosper and find him joy with a woman who will listen to him and respect him, but who will, when necessary, not be afraid to put his foot down in giving frequent and firm spankings, (and or other traditional forms of discipline) both for discipline and for maintenance—as central to an emotionally and spiritually rich life together.

        This is probably asking a lot, I am sure! I’m not convinced that all of that can ever be anything more than a dream. But, despite all the twists and turns and bumps in life’s road (and I’ve experienced quite a few of them!), I still believe somewhere out there is a man that would be compatible for a female like me. So, who knows? Maybe, just maybe, it is still possible to be surprised by joy.


        1. nicolelinn45 Avatar

          Good luck Katie. God has someone out there for you. My husband and I met on a Christian domestic discipline site. 7 years later we are still at it. In the mean time learn as much as you can and pray.


  37. Hello! I’m not sure if this post is still active but I’ve just found this website and sure hope it is! 😀

    I’m John, 43 and live in the Pacific time zone. I’m interested in finding a domestic discipline relationship with a woman who believes in the same things as me: the man is the head of the household, takes control and makes decisions, and disciplines accordingly with regular spankings, amongst other punishments.

    This is more than just a kink for me, it’s how I’m wired and how I believe a relationship should be. Taken in hand, domestic discipline, whatever you want to call it- it’s what drives me to find the right relationship. That’s why I think this website is such a fantastic place, to bring so many like-minded people together.

    Like I said, I hope this thread is still active because I’d love to find a woman who fits with what I’m looking for. I’m open to any age and location, as experience has taught me you need to be open to all to truly find someone who gets what this is about.

    Feel free to email me, I’d love to hear from you!

  38. Hmm.. old commentary but I’m optimistic! Prove me right!

    Hi, I’m Jenny. Looking for that rare decent white male for a fulfilling DD relationship. I’m a 25 white female, 5’3”, hourglass shape (so, small waist, long legs for my height), considered attractive, shy at first, and definitely error on the cautious side. A math teacher in an all boys HS. I was raised in and still live in the south. Please, please be a very very special person, southern gentleman a plus, intelligent, handsome, fit/trim, fun, romantic, love the outdoors, and yes, firm. Oh, under 40 is a must. Willing to relocate for the right man. Thank you! Please, please only respond here if you are very sincere. I’m hesitant to put my email out there for all.

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