Part 1 of this topic covers: Counting Strokes, Journaling, Pleasure Denial and Control, Back Door Training, and Safe Words
The Cane:
While it’s not the most common instrument, more than a few husbands discipline their wives with a cane. For some it is an instrument kept only for the worst of offenses. The rest of the time it sits there in its case looking intimidating. Other husbands use it more commonly. It is a fierce instrument, with a reputation that precedes it. I have never used the cane, and I do not plan to try. That’s not that I don’t appreciate the need to have a special instrument for harsher punishments. Or that just looking at the thing could be a powerful deterrent. It certainly would be. However, the cane is serious enough in how it works that it could easily be used wrongly and cause injury. Its blow is powerful enough that landed too hard, or in the wrong place, would give the woman being corrected much more pain than desired, and cause lasting injury.
That’s just not needed during a spanking. I’m sure more men who use the cane practice to use it rightly, and are very careful. However, I just don’t see the need to step to the edge of danger, where it would be easy to make a small mistake with bigger consequences. There are other instruments that can deliver harsh punishment — I keep a paddle for that — and are more easily controlled. For that reason, it I find in unnecessary as well. I will admire it from afar, but I don’t plan to use it.
Figging:
The practice called “figging” appears in a few discussions of alternate forms of punishment. It appears not many use it, but it’s talked about. Figging is a silent form of punishment that involves putting a raw piece of ginger up a wife’s derriere. The ginger is inserted into her backside, and will cause some degree of burning over time. I don’t know a great deal about it, and am not very interested, but this practice gains some attention due to its being a bit exotic, and due to its connection to anal sex, involving a form of penetration.
I don’t bother with this kind of practice for several reasons — wife spanking involves punishing the backside, not doing internal operations. A practice like figging, as mild as it seems, begins to take the discipline session elsewhere. It is well beyond a spanking. If there really is a need for a silent method of punishment, and spanking is too loud, capsaicin cream would do the job much better, and likely is stronger anyway. Why involve yourself with something filthy and smelly like feces during discipline? Plus there could be some nasty cleanup.
Figging also comes halfway to blending sex into the punishment itself, since it involves a kind of penetration of the wife who receives it. It is painful sex as punishment. I keep sex separate from the spanking itself, though I sometimes include it afterward. A spanking should be focused on the punishment she is receiving and the lesson she needs to learn, and not on sexual intimacy. That is what I want her mind to be on as I spank her.
Inviting other People:
Bringing others to watch, or participate in discipline is common in the bdsm world, which has very different values, both from most people who spank their wives, and from any faithful Christian. You hear about inviting company within domestic discipline also, but I think the bulk of us consider this completely aberrant. We do not bring in “wife trainers” or bring in spectators. A wife belongs only to her husband. Others neither watch nor participate. You’d no more bring them in for as spanking than bring them in for making love.
That is because the act of spanking itself is very intimate, on multiple levels, and involves nudity nearly always. The punishment may also be overly humbling for her to bear if she is on display. A spanking indeed humbles a wife, but it is for correction and refinement, and she knows she is loved and honored by her husband. Other parties do not have the same bond or the same trust, and can easily view it as entertainment or as mere degradation. They are not the loving protectors that the husband is. She should not be expected to give up that incredible level of trust and show such extraordinary vulnerability to anyone but her spouse. Lastly, a multitude of people find the spanking setting to be sexually exciting, so even if sexuality is not encouraged, putting spanking on display spreads the sexual aura to anyone who might be affected. Therefore, it is a private experience, between man and wife, in order to correct her.
Children?!
You occasionally hear of people who spank a wife in front of the children. I don’t know how much of this is real, versus online fantasy, but it’s something I encourage readers to avoid; that is both because of the sexualized nature of many spankings, and the trauma it could leave the child with. I honestly think anyone who writes about this has an aberrant understanding of our relationship with children, or is simply trying to make wife spanking look as bad as possible, as a nasty smear on the movement. They either intentionally or unintentionally sling mud at it. Either way, it would turn me off from taking a source of information seriously if it included children being involved. That’s just not an authority to learn from. Go elsewhere for advice.
Erotic Spanking:
While the erotic content of a spanking is lost on no one, I do not use spanking purely for erotic purposes, or an erotic supplement. Spanking is a form of discipline, it hurts, and should correct behavior. There are many household where spanking is only erotic, or where erotic spankings are included with discipline ones, but while I respect these practices I don’t bother using them.
Number one, a household should have discipline, and I’ve found that spanking is the best kind. It is effective. It would be a loss to assign it only a place in the bedroom. Nor do I want to confuse the purpose of spanking by giving some of them for wildly different aims. I think this threatens to make spanking purely sexual, and also threatens to bring too much in the way of pain into the bedroom. So beyond the almost-mandatory smack on the butt here and there, I don’t bother spanking in bed.
Now the intimate nature of spanking is present already during punishment or training. A woman will experience a similar nakedness and closeness to her man. Some men may have their wives perform sexually after the spanking. Spanking even for punishment is a small step away from making love in its intensity, nudity, and closeness. In that way, I never feel at loss of its erotic content. That element is always present, even though the goal is discipline. The erotic already saturates the experience.
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