One thing you must know is that at times you will give spankings for things which are a judgment call. What amounts to bad attitude, or disrespect is not always so clearly defined, so men will be the ones to clarify the matter, and punish when necessary. I don’t worry too much about judgment call spankings, because even if I have erred on the wrong side, the spanking still has a good lesson attached that my wife will need to work on, and she’s certainly gotten out of spankings before because I erred on the other side. I go into a correction which is a judgment call confidently, and with the same purpose of any spanking.
I recently had to spank my wife for such a judgment call, and in the end, it turned out I was glad that I did. It was not for a brazen violation such as insult or disobedience, but rather for small continual steps that way. I had been noticing more and more backtalk from her, as well as argument when I had already told her what needed to be done. These are things I do not let grow and turn into anything worse. I address them with words first, which I had done when I saw she was wanting to argue so much. When I saw that pattern continue, I decided she would have to go over my knee, and work on her attitude that way. I am not going to let my home slide into one in which a wife is free to disrespect her husband, and who regularly finds ways to disagree. It is a poor stereotype of marriage. It is even what some people expect marriage to be, but it does not have to. I expect my wife to answer gently, respectfully, and cease arguing when I have told her what we will do. Once things get far away from that, I will steer her on the right path with a spanking.
I called to my wife in the evening, and I told her I’d been seeing too much arguing and backtalk from her. I am tired of it. It is not acceptable, and she knows it, and I would be having “a talk” with her about that poor behavior. That means I was going to spank her. My wife thought about it for a few moments, and I could tell she was thinking back. She asked me to clarify. Every time I talk with you about something recently, you want to argue, or answer back. You do not accept what I tell you without my having to be firm and end the discussion. That is too much. You know I do not accept that kind of attitude. I need you to listen to me and do as I say. You know you’ve been doing that a lot lately, don’t you? She was quiet again for a moment, yes I have. I wasn’t trying to argue though.
If it goes on that long it’s too much, I said. If I have told you what we’re going to do, then it needs to end. You know that right? Right, she nodded. I’ve talked to you before about this, correct? Yes.
I’m not going to hear that from you anymore. It’s over. Take off your clothes and get over my knee.
Can I ask one thing?
Sure, I said, sensing she would likely be trying to get out of her spanking.
Aren’t I allowed to add my thoughts, or have any say?
Of course you are and you know that. But we’re not talking about that. I listen to what you say all the time. But you know you’ve been arguing with me, and you have not listened when I told you it needed to stop.
I could tell she was trying to position herself as being judged wrongly, and present me as being overly hard with her, which I am not. She was trying to make the situation one in which she just has no say in the marriage, and I never hear what she has to say. I have heard it before, and I can smell it a long way off.
You earned this by your behavior, and you know I expect very differently from you. I am not letting that behavior go. You’re going to face the consequences and learn a lesson tonight.
You’re too hard on me, she said. crying. Why do I always get punished?
You are facing the consequences that you earned, and you know that. I do not accept your disrespect.
Fine, she said angrily, and threw herself over my knee. Punish me!
I immediately said, No. That’s not how it goes here. I slowly lifted her off of my knee and said, you’re going to stand in the corner until you calm down.
Putting both hands on her waist I walked her over there. I am not going to listen to your bad attitude, I said, as she stood there facing the wall. That is immature, and I expect better from you. I smacked her bottom a few times to send the message home. You are going to calm down and then accept your correction the right way. You’re not a small child. You earned this and you’re going to have to face it. If you don’t like it you should have thought about that before when your chose to disrespect your man. I gave her butt another firm couple of slaps, and went back to do some reading, while she stood in the corner.
When I decided she was ready to receive her correction, probably a half hour or so, I had her come and kneel before me.
How do you need to receive your correction, I asked her. I need to accept it and learn from it, sir.
How should you speak to your husband? With meekness, gentleness, and respect, sir.
Have you been doing that?
She was silent a moment.
No, sir.
Do you understand you earned this spanking.
Yes, sir.
I tapped my leg twice. Get over my knee.
I picked up my loopy and began giving her continual firm swats on the behind.
I do not accept arguing, I do not accept backtalk, and I do not accept disrespect. Is that clear?
Yes, sir.
I worked up and down her bottom, and to the top of her thighs, delivering red stripes to every spot I could land on. She squirmed on my lap, and held back a few squeals. You earned every one of these with your behavior, I said, bringing one stinging stroke down after another.
Now I had been planning on giving my wife a fairly moderate spanking from the start. That was because the punishment was a judgment call, and not an obvious severe offense. However, with the attitude she showed towards me during her session, I decided it would be a long one that she would remember.
How do you speak to your man? I asked, still landing the strokes down quickly on her behind.
With gentleness, meekness, and respect, sir.
I repeated myself, still reddening her backside. How do you speak to your man?
With gentleness meekness, and respect, sir.
I asked her about five more times, and she managed to get the words out each time, sometimes while grimacing from the stinging strokes, sometimes boldly and loud.
Are we clear on what your attitude needs to be?
Yes sir.
Are you sorry for the attitude you’ve been giving me?
Yes, sir
I stopped bringing down the loopy for a few moments.
I do not accept arguing from you when I am correcting you, do I?
No, sir.
You know very well not to do that, correct?
Yes, sir.
You showed me during this session that I made the right judgment call. You have proven to me that I was correct. I had been seeing a bad attitude from you, and it needed to be dealt with. I made the right decision and we’re going to take care of that attitude tonight. I was going to give you a fairly short correction, but you’ve gotten yourself a long one.
I heard her sigh.
Did you earn this?
Yes, sir?
Are you sorry resisting your husband?
Yes, I’m sorry.
You should not have done that, and you got yourself a lot more trouble. This is exactly what you have earned.
I returned to letting the loopy dance up and down her behind, making sure to color it brightly all around. Just a quick, firm motion with my forearm, and some of the wrist, and each stroke gave a lick of fire on her backside.
This does not feel good does it?
No sir.
Do you like ending up like this?
No sir.
I held her firm as she squirmed a few more times, and let out a few muffled cries into the pillow.
I expect you to listen to your man, and to do as he says. Is that clear.
Yes, sir. She cried out quickly, between gritting her teeth again, as the strokes landed relentlessly.
When I tell you what you need to do, during a correction, or any time, what do you need to do.
I need to do what you tell me, sir.
What do you need to do?
I need to do what you tell me, sir.
I turned up the heart on the strokes a bit, and landed a few very hard ones across her buttocks.
Am I going to see that attitude from you anymore?
No sir.
Do I accept arguing from you?
No, sir.
Do I accept disrespect?
No, sir.
Are you very clear on how you need to speak to your man.
Yes, sir.
I ended her correction like I usually do, “I do not, want to see that from you, again,” as I gave her several hard, and final, smacks.
I helped her up slowly after her spanking and walked her to the corner. Her behind must have been throbbing by this point.
I know that was hard, I said quietly, but this was something we had to take care of. Things will be better. You think about what you learned tonight, and then we will talk.
After her time in the corner, I explained again why I had chosen to correct her. I also explained that her attitude at the start of the correction confirmed my suspicions, and let me know I’d corrected her rightly.
You’ve been holding onto a bad attitude in your heart. You have resented me telling you what to do. You have been walking around with disrespect on your heart, and that’s why I had been seeing so much backtalk from you. You know you can always talk to me, and you know that I care what your thoughts are. But you may bot argue or disrespect me.
Can you tell me what kind of attitude I’m going to be seeing?
I will answer you gently, and I will not argue with you. I’ll do what you say without fighting. I’ll accept your correction.
Are you confident about that?
Yes, sir.
Remember, if you are not sure if you’ve gone too far, you listen to my words. If I am telling you its over, or if I’m telling you that’s enough, then it is the time to stop. If you listen to me, you won’t get in trouble, and we won’t have to do this again. I was hard with you tonight, but I was hard for your own good. The kind of attitude you’ve been showing can harm our marriage and our household. That has to be in the past. It was a hard lesson, but I know you can learn from it, and everything will be better.
I concluded in expressing my confidence in her as well, and my appreciation for all she does. I know you can do it honey. I gave her a kiss, and had her come sit on my lap, and held her close. We’re all done. I know you will do better.
Even though my wife was upset about having to get spanked, I know she understood what the problem was, and that she really would work on turning it around. I know that even when it’s hard to accept being spanked, she is working on inside what she did wrong, and trying to face it. She just needs motivation, and my firm stance that will not tolerate her excuses, or attempts to deflect responsibility. Once I am through with her, she knows she’s going to have to respond, and do things differently, which she does. I steer her on the right path, so she has to face it and learn.
Like other corrections I’ve given her, I saw good fruit in a short time. I saw that pattern of talking back and arguing diminish after her spanking, and I saw her concerted effort to accept what I told her without resistance. My calm verbal corrections returned to being effective with her, and steered her well. While I was uncertain about the spanking to start, I was grateful I had decided to give it to her, because she showed me that she needed it. Sometimes that’s all a woman needs, even when there is not a clear and brazen offense. She needs to be taken aside, let go of her resistance, humbled, and spanked until she knows whom she belongs to. Those small toxins of resentment, or hardness, or arrogance that build up over time towards her man get spanked out of her, and she is beautifully soft afterward. I am greeted by an obedient, and helpful wife, who is easier to manage, and glows with happiness.
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