Oh how are you empowered my darling, let me count the ways.
Nearly the buzzword of the century for feminism is the word empowerment. We have a whole culture that is unafraid to brag that they care to empower one of the sexes uniquely. Empowerment gets instilled into the mind of young women as what they should desire. Women ask themselves the question of whether a chosen way of life, relationship, or job empowers them. To not be empowered as a female is tantamount in this culture to being weak or a failure. Few people question this focus on power. The tidal pressure of culture demands it.
Strangely though, very few people stop to ask whether spanking empowers the woman. Does being under her husband’s authority and being disciplined empower her? For most who even glimpse the thought, the answer is in horror — no. It is the opposite of empowerment, and a great secular sin. One of the seven deadly sins of secularism — humbling a woman, telling her what to do, or striking her with force. The modern’s blood will boil at the thought of female en-spankment, and in their mind they will send you to hell, and almost start trusting in God just so that there will be a hell for you to go to. You’re evil. You don’t empower women. Yuck.
Occasionally, you will indeed hear feminists acknowledge that this kind of marriage DOES empower women, though its supporters are in a minority. They may admit this because the woman has chosen to enter the relationship herself. Because she’s found some reward in being spanked even though it is degrading in some minds. It’s up to her, and since she finds it fulfilling, it is indeed an empowering experience. It brings her where she wants to be. The pro-spanking feminist may not see the full purpose of it that I see, but she recognizes this is not abuse, but is rewarding to both parties. No one’s getting kidnapped off the street her. And as I’ve noted in several previous articles, many women I spanked before marriage were far from being meek Bible Christians. Rather they were independent, secular-minded women, with careers or career goals, who loved being spanked. It gave them the release they needed, and the guidance they desired. On top of it they found it sexy. They could without hesitation agree to most of modern feminist dogma, yet also see how “pro-woman” it was to be spanked.
To answer the question from my own worldview — does spanking empower a woman — the answer is the same as that of many great questions — Yes. and No.
Let me start with the No first. If by power we mean placing a person in a position of authority, or granting a person great authority, the answer is clearly no. A thousand times no. Rather, spanking humbles a woman who has stepped out from the authority and protection of her husband. He is the lord over her. She behaved badly. So she is reminded of her place under his power, and is instructed by the person who holds the power — her man. It takes away any thought of her holding power in a moment, and places her firmly as the one who is subordinate. Every bit of that “ow, ow, ow” moment says you don’t hold power. Even the embarrassing sight of her upturned bottom, and her very powerlessness receiving her husband’s strap again and again, reinforce she is not empowered. Rather, power is taken away from her, even more than usual for a subordinate, and she is lowered so as to teach her a lesson.
A few seconds viewing a marital spanking, and you don’t have any doubt who holds authority. The instructor is the man. She has to do what she’s told. The correction is given by the man. She must receive it. The instrument is held by the male authority. She must bear it, and she does so with tears. He is leading her. She is serving him. To witness such a sight would cause the modern to faint, just like the daintiest of ladies in antiquity. The spanked wife does not hold power but is held by the power of her husband.
Now let’s address the Yes answer as well. A woman is empowered by being spanked — and by being guided in general — by her husband because she’s being given the power to do her job. She’s being more greatly equipped to fulfill her role as a godly submissive wife, and a homemaker. The correction, however humbling, makes her do a better job at what she desires to do in the first place: be a gentle helper, honor her husband, have a peaceful marital union, get her work done, live a safe and healthy life, etc. The correction is for her betterment. In that sense, it empowers her. If she was faltering at being a wife or a godly woman before, she has greater strength and resources to succeed in the future. If she placed herself in danger by reckless actions, she has greater restraint and remembers to be safe next time. That correction helped rid her of bad habits, and of harmful prideful attitudes. In that sense, by lowering her briefly, as our Lord Jesus does in correcting us, it also lifts her up to be refined and successful in her role. The discipline is not to destroy her. It’s to help her achieve what she should desire to achieve. For lack of a better word — it empowers her to do her job.
Wife spanking is also empowering to women in that is helps her break free of other negative influences on her mind and soul. It can cleanse her first of guilt, which punishment always helps to do. As long as she receives it with a sincere heart, she knows the order has been set right, and she is no longer guilty before her man. She is spotless and clean. It can break down hardened attitudes she’s had, ones she wished she could get rid of, ones which make her cold towards her lord, but which she can’t seem to shake the ordinary way. Sometimes almost supernaturally a spanking over her husband’s knee warms a cold attitude, softens the wall built around the heart, squeezes her soul free of some of the bitterness or impurity which she knows is there. It does what no talk and no counselor can do, but in a matter of minutes. She’s going to get what she needs. The inner resistance is gone, and she is freer to love her man now, to respond to him, to obey him without hesitation and with joy of heart. Spanking also releases her from other bonds, including stress, which sometimes was the inner source of her bad behavior to begin with. A woman set free from those chains is receiving a good thing. She is, or for lack of a better word, empowered. It’s where she wants to be.
For some people this kind of answer is too confusing. What’s up and what’s down in a world like that? Is the answer yes or is it no? Well I think of what our Lord Jesus taught, that those who humble themselves will be exalted, and those who exalt themselves will be humbled. Sometimes to be lower, to be without pretense, to be without any fake importance, is to be as grand as you could possibly be. That is something that should be lived out by the Church in her meek obedience to Jesus the King ,and it is something repeated often in the life of the wife: humble repentance is met afterward with deep love and honor for her. Following his lead without complaint is met with reigning with him in his glorious kingdom. Our thought should never be for personal power — woman OR man — but in taking the simple and modest road, we are adorned with more beauty than the flowers of the field. The one who accepts correction will receive the rich treasures of it. The one who will have the greatest place in the kingdom . . . will be the lowliest.
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