Discipline Description: Lateness Does Not Pay

I’m surely not the only husband who has given spankings for coming to bed very late. While I don’t have a strict standard, my wife knows the routine for getting the children to bed, and for getting to bed herself. If there is some unexpected emergency, naturally she can come to me and let me know she has to be late. However, to just keep me waiting for a long time, because he wanted to do other things, is unacceptable. This happened recently, and I took her to task for it.

This lateness was not the first time it had happened in recent weeks. She’d done the same thing around a month prior, and I let it go with a verbal reminder, after which she assured me she wouldn’t do it again. This time she would not get off so easily. I do not take it lightly if my wife ignores what I tell her, and I consider it both irresponsible and disrespectful, so it will earn her a very thorough spanking. That is what I planned to give her. It is better for her to have to face the music, because that will give her the chance to end her behavior, so it does not progress and get worse. She needs to know it is serious, and that I am serious. 

I informed my wife in the evening that I’d have to have “a talk” with her. When she came in to our bedroom, I had her undress as usual, and she knelt before me, seeing the loopy she’d be experiencing sitting next to me.

“I’m going to have to deal with this tonight, and I think you know why,” I said. “I don’t accept you ignoring it when I tell you not to do things. I don’t accept you coming in very late without a reason. That has always been the case and it still is. So do you understand that you were doing wrong the other evening?”

“Yes, sir,” was her quiet reply. 

“Okay. You should know that. And I told you about that before, not long ago. A month or so ago that happened again. I didn’t punish you that time. I reminded you what I expected. That is what I expect, and you know that. Now if it is repeated, you know very well how it will end up. You just don’t ignore what I tell you. Do you understand?”

“Yes, sir.”

“Now if you were on a job and you simply ignored what your boss told you, or you came in very late without a reason, you would get called into the office. Then the boss might not give you a spanking, but he just might give you something that you like less. Now if you did it repeatedly, you surely would be called into the office. Is that clear? “

“Yes, sir,” she repeated. 

“Now that is not a satisfactory way to do things. Now when you ignore what I say multiple times, and come in an hour late without a reason, I take it to be disrespect. Is that clear?”

“Yes, sir.”

“Now you have to listen to what I say. Otherwise, that is disrespect clearly. Is it right to disrespect your husband?”

“No, sir.”

I shook my head slowly, and said “No it is not.” 

Then I affirmed that she took responsibility: “Alright, so you know that you earned this?”

“Yes, sir.”

“You should have known better. You should have listened to your man. And that’s why you’re going to end up over my knee tonight. I do not accept that. You better learn your lesson. Get over my knee.” 

I slapped my knee a few times: tap tap. She stood up and came over, sniffling, and lay over my knee. I picked up the loop beside me and took a solid grasp.

“Get that little bottom in the air,”  I said, adjusting her over my lap. “It is going to get whipped.”

I immediately went to work on her bare backside: Slap, slap, slap, slap, slap, slap, slap, slap, slap

“When I tell you to do something, you have to do it, is that very clear?”

“Yes, sir.”

Slap

I asked her firmly, “Do you understand who your man is?”

“Yes, sir.”

Slap, slap, slap

“You earned this,” I said, and delivered another single hard slap. She began sobbing, as the lecture and strapping softened her.

“You are going to learn a lesson from me tonight,” I continued. “You earned this, you deserve it, and you learn from it.” Her chest heaved as she continued sobbing and sniffing

“Do you understand, woman?”

“Yes, sir.” 

“You are over my knee, and you are getting a lesson tonight.” Her upturned cheeks lay on my lap at my disposal. 

Slap, slap.

“You don’t like that. If you don’t like that you should have thought about your choice. You should have chosen not to ignore your man. You should have chosen not to disrespect your man.” I gave her two light taps on the bottom before I continued. “I was your actions which led to this.”

Slap, slap, slap, slap, I continued her punishment with hard swats. “That little bottom is mine. If you don’t listen to your man with your ears, you’re going to have to listen with that backside, and learn your lesson over my knee.”

She was crying fully at her punishment, freely pouring out tears. 

Slap, slap, slap, slap, slap

Her bottom grew pink as the loopy came down. “Does that hurt?” Slap. “Do you like that?” Slap. 

No,” she answered, sobbing quietly.

I hammered the point home: “Now your choice led to that. You chose to ignore your man. You chose to disrespect your man. That is absolutely unacceptable. Is that clear?”

 “Yes, sir,” she managed to blurt out after a few seconds. 

“Do I accept you being irresponsible?” 

Slap. “You answer your man.”

Through tears and sobs, she managed, “No, sir.”

“No, I do not. Do I accept you being disrespectful?”

No, sir.”

“No, so you learn your lesson tonight,” I instructed her, before I delivered a hard strapping to continue her punishment.  

Slap, slap, slap. “And you think better next time.” Slap, slap, slap, slap, slap, slap, slap, 

The tears started flowing freely again, as I landed the stripes. Slap, slap, slap, slap, slap. The final solid stroke landed, eliciting a sudden, deep breath from her. 

“Now that’s not a way you want to spend your evening. You don’t want to have to end up over my knee, and you don’t want to end up getting whipped. Do you like that?”

She sobbed. “No sir,” she managed to say between tears. 

“Then you need to choose better behavior. Is that clear?”

“Yes, sir.”

“You think about better behavior,” I directed her. “That’s what you need to do.” Slap, slap, slap, slap, slap, slap, slap

“You know better than that. You’ve been told before,” I told he in a strict and firm voice. Slap. “That is unacceptable. You know better.”

Slap, slap, slap, slap, slap

More sobbing came from her, as her tears poured out.  

“You do not keep your man waiting for an hour, without asking if there’s some reason. You do not keep me waiting for an hour, ever. Is that clear?”

“Yes, sir.”

“Have I told you this before?”

“Yes, sir.”

“Then you need to commit yourself to doing things differently.” Slap “And doing things the right way” Slap Slap “The way that your man,” Slap, “has told you to do things.” Slap, slap, slap, slap. I heard her Sobbing and cries as I continued her chastisement. 

“Who do you belong to?”

She sobbed heavily. 

“Who do you belong to?”

“You.”

“Who does that butt belong to?”

“You, sir,” she managed between sobs.

“Okay. You accept this lesson,” I told her. “You learn from this lesson. Then you commit yourself to doing things differently. This is your lesson.”

Through her tears I continued: Slap, slap, slap, slap, slap, slap, slap, slap, slap. 

“Your man’s going to whip that butt when he needs to,” I said. “You’re not going to get away with dismissing what I tell you. And you’re not going to get away with disrespecting me. Those things are absolutely unacceptable in this marriage, is that clear?”

Slap

Crying, with shaking voice, she replied, “Yes, sir.”

“Now how are you going to behave from now on? Are you going to come in on time?”

Through trembling voice, she said, “Yes, sir.” 

“Are you going to ask if you have to be that late?”

“Yes, sir.”

“Are you going to be respectful to your man?”

“Yes, sir.”

“Are you very committed to that?”

“Yes, sir.”

“Are you committed to doing things the right way, like I have told you?”

“Yes, sir.”

Tap tap, “You need to be.” Slap. Gasp

“Are you sorry for your behavior?”

“Yes, sir,” she answered, still sobbing. 

Slap. “You should be. You should be very sorry.” Slap, slap, slap, “I don’t accept that. You think about how you will do things, and you learn this lesson.”

Slap, slap, slap, slap, slap, I continued through her sobbing and crying, slap, slap, slap, slap, as she cried more. 

“That backside is not feeling good. Do you like being over your man’s knee?”

“No, sir,” she said, sniffling.

“Okay. Then you be a good girl. Are you going to be a good girl from now on?”

Through tears, she cried out, “Yes, siiiiir.”

Slap

“Do you know who you belong to?”

Still sobbing, “Yes, sir.”

Slap

“Are you going to be on time from now on?”

“Yes, sir.”

Slap.

“Are you going to respect your man?”

“Yes, sir.”

I finished her spanking like I usually do: “I do not,” Slap, “expect anything different. Is that very clear?”

“Yes, sir”.

Slap. “I am not going to accept that.” Slap. “From you ever again.” Slap. “Is that clear?”

“Yes, sir,” she said crying. 

“Are you my woman?”

Sobbing, “Yes, sir.”

Slap

“You learn your lesson?”

“Yes, sir,” through sobs.

Slap

“Okay,” I said finishing up. “That butt is mine. We’re done here. You can stand up.” I helped her lean up from over my knee and stand up. “You can spend a few minutes in the corner. Your man gave you hard lesson and a hard lesson is what you earned.” Her sobs continued. 

I walked her over to the corner, and placed the loopy in her hands to hold during her corner time. “That is the lesson I expect you to learn,” I said, as I left her to think about her future behavior, still sniffling and sobbing.

I believe I had been as thorough as I wanted from the start. She had to face a long time laying over my lap, and must have been wondering when it would end. I believe a spanking ought to take a woman well past tears, and this one certainly did. She had to face her own responsibility and her own failing. I was extremely clear about what I needed from her. A woman being spanked should be left with no doubts about the seriousness of her wrong, and no doubts whom she belongs to. She should be very grateful when her spanking is finally over. 

After giving my wife fifteen minutes or so in the corner, and plenty of time to think about how to respond, I brought her back over for our finishing talk. I had her explain how she would correct her behavior in the future, and show that she knew what I expected of her. She gave me her word that it would never happen again. “That session was hard for you,” I explained, “but it was important and you needed to face the consequences and learn. It’s a short part of an evening altogether, but the rewards are for much longer.” 

I have not seen her come in that late since this correction, and I have seen her be very attentive in other matters. She always ups her performance a notch. This I am pleased to see. A spanking helps a wife to listen to her husband, and always serves as a reminder to follow him. It gives her a humbling that will help her to serve.  

Like my past discipline description, this was transcribed from an audio of the spanking itself. All of the dialogue and the strapping is correct to the last detail.


Comments

16 responses to “Discipline Description: Lateness Does Not Pay”

  1. Sally888 Avatar
    Sally888

    I have read most of your articles and I remember in a article from a long time ago you mentioning that there are times you go to bed before your wife because she has things to do because her work for that day is not done yet so she comes to bed later than you do.

    On this particular night, had you previously told her she was to come to bed with you at a certain time and she just ignored you?

    1. Hello Sally, Thanks for your comment. I’m glad you remembered that point. My wife does have a regular time when she needs to be ready for bed. Anything apart from that is an exception, and she needs to tell me. She’d been late recently before this punishment, and I’d simply verbally reminded her. There was nothing that made it impossible for her to be on time, and I did not want that becoming a habit. She knew she had earned it.

  2. LindatoBehave Avatar
    LindatoBehave

    Thank you so much for posting the Lateness Does Not Pay. Honestly, my husband is such a time fanatic, and so being totally frank, I have spent time over his knee because of time issues. Whether it is time to get to bed, have dinner done, be dressed and ready to leave for a family event, or be dressed and ready to leave for a meeting of some sort, I had better plan ahead and keep him advised of the possibility of being late. No explanation, no call or planning something that could/does result in a missed time mandate, results in a thorough spanking. Thank you again and I sincerely hope that your wife has learned her lesson and please let her know that she is not the only one held to time standards.

    1. You’re welcome, Linda. Thank you for sharing your discipline experiences with your husband. Time should be important in any family home, and a wife needs to know to follow her husband’s rules. Unexpected problems that may push the time back need to be addressed with the man of the house. In an age of texts, and communications within seconds, there is very little excuse for a wife not to let her husband know if something unexpected arises, or to ask his permission to do things differently. It is quite presumptuous for a wife to think she can put things off significantly without approval. My wife was spanked for lateness plenty of times early in our marriage, and she rarely needs it today.

      I will let my wife know, as you ask, that she’s not the only wife who has to be punctual. Take care.

  3. Bluweal Avatar

    Good evening Sir, I’ve been following your blog for sometime and am also a practitioner of CDD. As with your wife, mine does not require serious correction all that often, however recently she acted out in disobedience toward me and I had to deal with it firmly. After a good warm up of her bare bottom over my knee as I lectured her, I moved onto the serious discipline time with a wooden spoon. This can be a formidable intrstument as some of the women who read your post about intsuments have testified recently. She ended up receiving around 60 strokes, though she would have received less, but earned extra by not maintaining her proper position over my knee several times. Her bottom was more than just red when I finished and she bore the evidence of her chastening for several days.
    I say all this to preface, I counted about 90 recorded swats in the description of your wife’s discipline. Were these moderately light and an effective correction due to their number or was her bottom also more than red and bearing the evidence of her chastisement for several days due to the severity and firmness of the strokes of the loopy?
    While I do believe that bruising should not be something to be feared in hard spanking and I hold fast to the wisdom of Proverbs 20:30, it is hard at times to see the bottom of the woman I love so marked.

    1. Hello, I am glad to hear that you are managing your wife so well. With time discipline should not be common, but when you have to, you need to be firm, as you describe. Disobedience should not be tolerated. There were around 90 strokes in this spanking. They were not light strokes, but not given with all my strength either. They were good and hard, and left her red after the spanking, and the soreness lasted a few days. There is nothing wrong with some marks afterward, as they will cause no lasting harm.

      Thank you.

  4. Wondering Avatar
    Wondering

    It is funny (not really 🫣) that this post came up when it did. My husband has just been talking to me about my sleeping habits. I get up whenever the sun comes up, no matter what time I go to bed. After telling him about this post, he laughed and asked me what I think a good bedtime for myself would be. 😵‍💫 I kind of laughed it off and I don’t wanna bring it up again anytime soon. I hope he doesn’t. 😳

    1. Yeah, you don’t want one more thing you could get in trouble for. Thanks for your comment!

  5. Oswald Avatar

    Your wife must be tough as nails or be incredibly disciplined. My wife is already a mess before I even start spanking her. After two minutes of working her over with my hand, you’d think she had just been mauled by a grizzly bear. If I took a loopy to her backside for 100 strokes, she may well not survive the experience, lol.

    I’m certainly not complaining, she fears my simple disappointment, she really, really fears finding herself stripped over my knee. This leads to her generally only needing to be whipped a couple times a year. At the beginning of our marriage I had to whip her sometimes multiple times a month, but those days are long, long behind us.

    How any man effectively manages a wife without giving her to occasional physical correction, I will never know. I suspect such a thing does not exist.

    1. Hello Oswald, It is not easy for my wife, but she does have self control, and is able to overcome her fear of being spanked. She also takes her submission seriously, and receiving a punishment well is a part of her submission. It could make discipline easier if women are sensitive to it, and will respond to miler punishment, but I really do not ever spank mildly. This one was intentionally long, since I had told her about this problem before.

      Sure, many men are unable to manage their wives at all. Spanking makes the difference. I’m very glad you know how to handle your wife well.

      Thanks for your comment.

  6. Aron, this may be wrong to say, but I take comfort in the fact that your beautiful wife, whose God-fearing soul wrote that blessed piece about the importance of submitting to your husband, is in reality an imperfect woman, just like me. She sometimes forgets your expectations, lingering too long on something unimportant, failing to give your recent warning the weight it deserved, while also failing to honor her own word when she assured you it wouldn’t happen again.

    There is such shame in my heart when I realize I have disobeyed my husband once again, and the shameful regret only deepens when I must kneel to be lectured and bend over to be rightfully punished by his hand. Why have I not listened to my man? Why was I so careless? Why must he spank me for me to learn? If I would heed his word the first time, it would save us both such trouble. I draw some comfort from the firm belief that this is God’s way of tending my heart, keeping it humble and soft, with the fresh, renewed desire to serve my husband at the forefront of my mind, no longer buried under distractions and sinful temptations. My husband offers me comfort when he draws me into his arms afterwards, reminding me of how very much I am loved, even when over his knee. He also reminds me that my disobedience, demonstrating my need for his punishment, happens much less frequently now than in our early days, evidence of how well I am responding to his oversight. He reassures me that I am redeemed and forgiven, safe in the warmth of his love.

    But sometimes I am tempted to think that your lovely wife has reached a pinnacle of perfection that I will surely never be able to achieve, and that you no longer need to spank her. I began to think that you’ve based your articles on a storehouse of distant memories, rewarded for your early efforts with a wife who is unfailing in her duties, always faithful in her submission, strong in ways that I am not. It’s funny the way that guilt and shame can eat at your heart when your ego is freshly humbled and your bottom is still tender and bruised. I convince myself that I am the only sinful, shameful, painfully spanked wife on this earth. I am working on not being so hard on myself, trying to internalize my husband’s forgiveness and God’s never-ending grace.

    I’m sure it wasn’t your intention, but it brings me great comfort to know that this woman I’ve never met, but have looked up to for so long (in my single days, I prayed to become an obedient, submissive wife just like her), is also imperfect. Like me, she stumbles, is spanked, and is forgiven. My heart goes out to her while reading of her tears and what I know was a very painful experience for her, physically and emotionally. But it also makes me feel connected to her in a strange way. It reminds me that I am not the only one who tries so hard, yet still sometimes fails.

    My husband and I would like to thank you for sharing your experience with us.

    1. I’m very glad the article makes you feel so connected to my wife, Sophia. Even women who do a good job with submission, and are hardworking, sometimes slip up and need correction. Part of the reason my wife is able to do such a good job is that I have made it a point to give her clear expectations, and I hold her accountable. That helps to guide and drive her, and I have to discipline her much less often over the years. I do think she is an excellent example for other women, and she makes me pleased daily.

      It’s a good thing that you feel ashamed when you mess up, as you will learn from the experience of failure and correction. It also means you really want to do everything right for your husband, so you believe in your goal, which is a worthy one. Feeling shame or guilt is a benefit to you, and it will only be short lived, until you are righted once again.

      Keep striving to be godly and virtuous wife.

  7. Thank you so much for your kind words, Aron. I always appreciate your insight. You are quite right to remind me, as my husband also does, that the burning discomfort of shame is an important part of my correction and redemption. It’s reassuring evidence to us both that I agree my husband has set fair and righteous expectations for me as his wife, and that my decision to go against him was not only wrong, but sinful and worthy of punishment. In disappointing my husband and, ultimately, God, I have also disappointed myself, and that acknowledgement is, and should be, painful. It helps my heart to become fully repentant and protects against any resentment I might otherwise feel towards the man who spanked me. Shame reminds me that I know better and therefore have no one to blame but myself.

    What I strive to be better at doing is channeling that shame into a renewed focus to listen to my man and follow his word rather than stewing on my imperfections. That’s not productive or helpful to our marriage. I will continue to hold your lovely wife in my mind as an example of the virtue and obedience that I should be exhibiting towards my own husband everyday. I know that I will always be an imperfect woman (though I am less and less so the more time I have spent in my husband’s wise care). What’s important is opening my heart to my man fully and committing to please him and obey his word each and every day.

    In doing so, I hope to also set a godly example for our daughters, so that offering obedience and respect to their future husbands will feel natural and right. I pray their marriages will give glory to God, and my heart swells to think that I will be able to be there for them in all of the ways I wished a trusted (disciplined) woman friend had been there for me, offering comfort and guidance to a young wife as she learns to adapt to all that a strong Christian man will require of her.

    Of course, their father provides the most important foundation for their future marriages by showing them how a good Christian man should behave. He does not compromise in his faith, he is not hounded by his wife, nor does he back down from exercising his authority in our family. He is respected as the man of our house, he is obeyed by his wife and children, and he leads us without apology or hesitation (a rare quality in a man). Having seen such a prime example of Christian manhood their whole lives, I can’t imagine that they would ever be drawn to a weak man, one who would allow them to give in to sinful impulses because he’s too afraid to hold them accountable. One of my daughters has a soft, meek, and loving soul, and I know she’ll be easily led, but my other daughter has a fire in her heart and a stubborn insistence on her own way that will require a skilled husband to manage. Her father is lovingly laying that groundwork now, so that it won’t come as such a shock to her later. I pray that she’ll learn before she leaves our home that boundaries and accountability bring a comforting structure to her world that can help her manage all of those big feelings. If she can, it’s my hope that she’ll be able to lean into a man who wants to provide her with that same structure in marriage, knowing already how much she needs it and benefits from it.

    (I apologize that my comments are always so long and rambling. With little ones at home, I am constantly interrupted, and so I chip away at a draft of a response in my free moments, a sentence here and there, sometimes late at night when I can’t sleep, and when I finally post weeks later, I realize I’ve drifted into completely different territory. But it’s my prayer that in commenting frequently, I will aid God in drawing attention to your site, leading more readers to you, whose words strengthen marriages and bring peace to Cristian homes.)

    Thank you again, Aron, for the beautiful example of Christian marriage and righteous male headship that you have shared with the world. My husband and I pray for you and your family each day.

    1. Thank you for your insights, Sophia. I hope they will be helpful to our readers. Bless you and your family.

  8. breezyholmes135@gmail.com Avatar
    breezyholmes135@gmail.com

    Wow, your wife must be one tough cookie Sir. My hubby doesn’t like correcting me but he definitely has and will. Mine uses grounding and lines or essays and corner time and whipping me is a last resort. The last one I got was with the paddle and I was sobbing into my pillow and didn’t move for a good minute. I’m not allowed things like social media or certain apps and I was on an old social media account and I messed up and told on myself. That punishment was tough and I steer clear of social media. I highly respect my hubby who provides a beautiful home and everything into this home for our kids and I. I’m blessed to get to homeschool and keep myself busy with that, housework and my other hobbies like crocheting things and I knew better to go against hubby’s rules. I was definitely sorry for it after the swats. Men are to be respected and their rules of the home and I definitely keep that in mind. I’m thankful my hubby rarely has to use spanking of any form on me nowadays after 12 years married but it’s definitely humbling when he has to remind me of my role. I am one of the types that after 10 to 15 swats I’m sobbing like a baby but like you, he does go even further and send home the message giving more swats and I’m begging for it to be over before he even starts.

    1. Yes, my wife can take the hard punishments when I give them to her. She knows how to handle it. I don’t have to spank her often anymore though. It sounds like they teach you a good lesson when you have to get one. If other methods work too, that’s all good.

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