Spanking Instruments Around the House

The average couple might invest in a few special spanking instruments which you have to order, those obvious ones like a paddle, cane, or loopy. Yet with minor amount of creativity, one can take care of nearly any spanking need with household items that nearly everyone has. They are innocuous enough. They lie around without raising an eyebrow. Since you use them for the home, they don’t require any extra cost to be used to deliver a spanking. While they may not have the special charm of instruments made especially for punishment, many spanking couples use them, and some even rely entirely upon normal household tools. I’m going to cover many of them briefly here. I’m also going to cover a few which could be considered household items under certain circumstances, but not in the average home. You can try out any of these when they are at hand, and some will deliver a fearsome and formidable chastisement. 

Hairbrush: Any household will have a hairbrush lying around. If it’s one you can use for spanking, it is best relatively large and wooden. The handle should allow for a good solid grip. A wooden hairbrush is nearly a small paddle, and while it might not have the same bang for your buck as the real deal, when used with strength and repeatedly, it will roast a lady’s bottom, and she will be quite tearfully repentant. Small size, and easy OTK use are a plus. 

Belt: Sliding your belt slowly out of the loops to deliver a spanking, listening to the whisper of it coming loose, and the jangle of the buckle, can convey the sophistication of the well dressed executive, or the thick, manly arms of tractor Bob. Either way, a solid strapping is soon going to land on a behind, which will be loud and deliver tongues of fire. The cries of the lady as she’s strapped may be as sharp as the quick leather landings on her backside. Every man has a belt, but it’s best to use one which is thick and heavy enough to give a solid punishment. It is more easily used standing up, than OTK. I probably have five belts lying around, but it’s a newer one, and a work belt, that I will use for punishment. 

Wooden spoon: The wooden spoon is in nearly every kitchen, and while a light instrument, is used by some parents to give a quick few slaps to an unruly child. While it is light, I have heard it can deliver a sharp sting and is not as mild as it looks. Since it focuses the punishment to a small area, and is hard, I would think with some force and repetition the wooden spoon could be a worthy spanking tool. I have never used it myself, as I have better instruments. 

Bathbrush: The wooden bathbrush comes up as one of the most unlikeable instruments when the ladies review it. A bathbrush, which not every home has but which is common nonetheless, has more weight and thickness than a wooden spoon, and naturally will deliver more pain to a backside needing correction. It seems an oddly shaped and weighted version of the paddle. It can inspire repentance at the very thought of it landing hard. 

Blinds Rod: The blinds rod is also nearly universal in homes, and it makes for an impromptu cane. However, the material and weight of these rods varies, and most are far from ideal for punishment. I have found the stronger plastic kind delivers a good whipping, but it will bend with not many uses and eventually break. There are metal blind rods as well, but these would be dangerously heavy and hard. While a blinds rod functions well in the short term if it’s the right material, in the long run it’s just a chance to break household items. 

Rope: There are a variety of kinds of rope which can make an excellent tool for spanking. The very thick coarse kind is not appropriate, either due to weight or its outer coarseness. However, forms of rope which are smoother on the outside, yet still have some weight and thickness, can make excellent spanking instruments. I have used one myself, and I find it can deliver a very hard punishment if used with force, and is also fairly quiet, thought certainly not as quiet as the loopy. It will take a little experimentation to find a rope which is not too hard or too light, but once you do, you have a form of strap to use, and one which can be cut into various lengths of your choosing, and then looped over to give a spanking. Not every home has rope, but many do, and you may have some now in your garage.  

Limited Home Use: 

Razor strop: In the old days a razor strop was kept around many houses for the sake of sharpening razors or knives. These days it is rarely used, and often has to be ordered online. The strop would stand out as odd in most modern homes, unless of course you actually had a use for it, which some do. It is a bit like a belt, but usually wider and heavier. Some are made of different material on each side, such as leather or canvas, and look thick enough you would not have to double them over as you do a belt. Many are held together in parts by pieces of metal, and that’s something you’d have to avoid striking with if you used it for a spanking. When wielded properly, I have read the razor strop delivers an excellent strapping. 

Riding crop (if you ride horses): The riding crop today nearly immediately brings to mind punishment in a BDSM dungeon, or simply some bedroom spanking spectacle. However, in homes where they ride horses, or in stables where they keep them, a riding crop of varying kinds is as normal as can be, so long as it’s kept with other similar equipment. Cap, boots, and crop are simply part of the outfit. That means in such a home this instrument is easily available for a human behind, and not just a horse’s. It must be used with care, being basically a short cane with a slight protective wrapping, but it will deliver the more fearsome kind of punishment when it’s called for. 

I’m sure I have not covered every household item that may be used for spanking. If you have experience with another, please share, or if you’d like to add further details about the ones I have not tried out myself, it would be useful to hear. Using household items is an easy way to be discreet, and also to save some money. It may not sound as exciting as the local leather store or paddle shop, but the home is a source of all we need when it comes to correcting the lady


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14 responses to “Spanking Instruments Around the House”

  1. Sophia Avatar

    As a wife, reading this post made me feel a little queasy. I continue to pray that I will never do anything to make my husband consider using any instrument remotely resembling a cane or a whip. I can’t even imagine what that must feel like. Or what type of crime would call for it. With the help of my husband’s consistent oversight, I would like to believe that I’ll never know.

    My husband often chooses the belt. Seeing it on a regular basis is actually helpful to me in remembering my duties, and it helps my husband deliver silent warnings that only he and I are aware of when we are in the company of friends or family. It might be a hooking a thumb on his belt as he raises a brow at me, or he might draw me to his side, pulling my arm around his waist so that my hand rests on the leather, held there by his own in what appears to be a loving squeeze. It is loving, of course, and it has helped me to hold my tongue when I am tempted by pride or frustration to say something disrespectful. Occasionally, it’s hung on the back of the bedroom door for me to discover, snakelike and threatening, reminding me of the household duties I’ve been neglecting. The shock of seeing it out of its usual spot adds necessary urgency to my chores. Once, I had to oil the entire collection, instructed to make the leather gleam as part of my restitution on a particularly shameful night.

    My husband has, rarely, used two other tools on your list, and the fact they’re mine – the hairbrush and the spoon – seems to make it an even more humbling experience. On those occasions, it was, I believe, an impromptu decision to spank me, using what was within arm’s reach. The suddenness of it also added to the humbling, as I hadn’t realized I’d been sharp or disrespectful and hadn’t had time to process the idea of being punished. Being spanked right there, in the kitchen and the bathroom, rather than the sanctuary of our bedroom, felt unsettling. In the kitchen, I worried over the open windows, and in the bathroom, there was the added humiliation of having to watch it all in the mirror. Each of those times, I had more difficulty staying still than I usually do, as it seems like the smaller the area is that’s making contact with me, like the tiny end of a wooden spoon, the more concentrated the sting. I had to fight the urge to start jumping up and down, knowing it would just earn me more swats.

    Thank you, Aron, for your continued dedication to this way of life! Whenever I can, I comment with my husband’s permission, both to support your work and to share my experiences as a spanked wife with the many, many women who come to you for advice and connection. May God continue to bless you and your family!

    1. Hello Sophie, Thank you for your comments. They are always very welcome. I believe in this way of life, and I want to see more people engage in discipline in marriage. Many of these instruments are indeed very convenient, since they are always around the house, and easily at hand. They all serve as a useful reminder being ever visible.

      I’d be interested in hearing more of your thoughts on the wooden spoon, and if it matches up to other instruments in severity. I generally would not feel the need to use an instrument as harsh as a whip or a cane, but I would consider their use in the case of a serious infraction. They would definitely require more recovery time than other spanking instruments.

      Blessing to you and your family.

      1. Sophia Avatar

        Of course, I would happy to share more with you and your readers. I can’t say whether the wooden spoon is better or worse than other methods. It’s just very different. My husband has used the spoon only a handful of times, and it was earlier in our marriage, when he was still experimenting with various tools and discipline rituals. Now, he prefers his belt, including some wait time and lecturing beforehand, and of course, making sure our children are safely down for the night and out of earshot.

        Before children, we could be more spontaneous in all aspects of our marriage, and I think my husband was experimenting in order to learn what seemed to be most effective for me, what felt right to him, and what types of marks or damage were appropriate to his message. The belt delivers more of a take-your-breath-away whollop, is quicker to bring me to tears and apologies, leaving me with more of a lasting, widespread soreness. It succeeds in making me feel as though I’ve truly surrendered to my man.

        The spoon is much more of a concentrated sting, giving me an urge to try to jump out of my skin or run away, especially when applied to the same spot several times in a row. It’s even more difficult to listen, and I remember being more agitated and less calm right afterwards. This could be due to the more impromptu nature of the discipline in these situations, as my husband had decided to address disrespect or disobedience right there in the moment. I would be enduring the stings while still in a state of shock, as if I’d accidentally sat on a beehive. It caught my attention for sure, but it just made me want to run away rather than focus on what I’d done wrong. Afterwards, it left small red welts, sometimes unevenly distributed on just one side or the other.

        In my limited experience, the spoon felt more like a rude surprise. It stopped my behavior, but failed to make me really cry. I just embarrassed myself with little squeals and high-pitched childlike noises that I couldn’t seem to control. But in the hours and days afterwards, I just feel calmer and closer to my husband when he’s taken the time to lecture me thoughtfully and deliver a thorough, deeper reaching spanking that leaves me emotionally exhausted, tender inside and out. Maybe that’s just because I’m so conditioned to his style of correction. It’s comforting to have clear routines in our marriage, and to know what I can expect from my husband and why.

        I would say that I fear both equally, as they’re both very difficult to endure, and I wouldn’t rule out my husband using the wooden spoon again if he felt it was necessary to get my attention. Seeing it in my kitchen each day does remind me of those difficult early times when we were still finding our way. I know that he was wise to experiment to find what worked best, and I believe it served his purposes well in the beginning when he was first laying out expectations and consequences. Delivering an immediate spanking, quickly, and with a tool within arm’s reach, sent the clear message that my tongue was too sharp or my attitude disrespectful. I adjusted course immediately, biting my tongue, but it would take time and reflection on my part before I was ready to fully take responsibility. Again, maybe that was just because I was a newly disciplined wife who was still learning what true submission looked like. Admitting fault and offering restitution comes more easily to me now, as does avoiding disrespect and disobedience in the first place. My husband has led me well, and I owe the happiness and peace of our home to him.

        1. Thank you for adding all the details, Sophia. That presents a helpful picture of how discipline with the wooden spoon works, and how it feels. I can see how its convenience makes it an attractive instrument for the husband to use, being so visible and always at hand. Naturally, the effects could vary a little depending on the size and weight of the spoon. It definitely would be more concentrated heat, considering its shape. I can tell you have a good attitude about receiving discipline, along with a blessed marriage. Very glad you are both happy.

  2. LindatoBehave Avatar
    LindatoBehave

    Terrific article and so practical. In our home, the wooden, flat backed, hairbrush is left out in plain site in the kitchen or living room and serves as a reminder for sure. Whenever my husband decides that the hairbrush will be applied, he sends me to fetch it for him after he warms me good with his heavy hand. If the belt/strap is needed, I, too, have to unbuckle, take off, fold and hand it respectfully to my husband. Some weeks ago, we were visiting a flea market and someone was selling, Swiss Knorr spoons. They are large, and really more like a spatula – the spoon part being more flat. That awful spoon is now part of our kitchen decor and is used only for spanking and I can attest to the fact that it stings, really bad. I got it applied to my entire behind a couple days later – I howled, cried, pleaded and promised – so it does get the kind of results my husband intends. Thank you so much for your website and informative, supporting and relevant articles & comments

    1. Thank you for your comment, Linda. I’m very happy my website is a useful resource to you, and offers you support. Given some of these “positive” reviews of the wooden spoon, I will seriously consider using it also. If a couple makes full use of home spanking instruments, they prove to be a constant visual reminder of the wife’s need to behave, and of her man’s authority.

  3. DarcyNH Avatar

    Merciful God provided my husband with his favorite instrument to use – his big man-sized hands. The vast majority of my spankings have been by his hand and I’ve been belted only a couple of times for larger infractions. But my husband said he prefers his hand because he can better feel God guiding him on force and how long my punishment shall last. I praise Him that His guidance has never left my husband feeling as though I need to be paddled with some other instrument, his hands are plenty painful thank you very much.

    1. Thank you for explaining how your husband chooses to spank you. I suppose I could have classified hands as a household item if I wanted to, but I just stuck with inanimate objects as instruments. Certainly, if a man is strong enough, and has tough, leathery hands, his hands can serve as a strong form of punishment, and a regular instrument is not needed. I don’t find my own hands do the job well enough, so while I give the occasional hand spanking to me wife, when I do, it is followed with a harder spanking with an instrument. I can see how your husband would like that method, and also how he would have more sensitivity to the amount of force he uses. It is a very personal method of spanking, and popular for that reason.

  4. Kruggerand Avatar
    Kruggerand

    Aron, anyone who spends time on your site is well aware of your focus on limiting discipline to a wife’s bottom. I just wanted to share the link to your safety first article, as the use of some instruments can make that recommendation more urgent.

    https://www.spankingyourwife.com/2020/06/03/better-to-be-safe-and-sorry/

    1. Sure. That’s a good idea. Thank you.

  5. Wondering Avatar
    Wondering

    I can attest to the effectiveness of a sturdy wooden spoon. 🙋🏼‍♀️😭😂

    1. Thank you for adding your endorsement!

    2. LindatoBehave Avatar
      LindatoBehave

      For me, I spend a lot of time in the kitchen or going through the kitchen. So, it seems I am always seeing that spoon thing all the time and feel like a 7 year old all over again.

  6. LindatoBehave Avatar
    LindatoBehave

    For me, I spend a lot of time in the kitchen or going through the kitchen. So, it seems I am always seeing that spoon thing all the time even when guests are present, helping me to remember and realizing I have got to behave,

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