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Reader’s Poll: Alternatives to Spanking

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Here is another poll for our readers about discipline in your marriage. I’d enjoy hearing your answers in the Comments section.

What Alternatives to Spanking Are Used in Your Marriage?

That includes methods which are used together with spanking, not just in the place of it.

A: Writing lines/Writing essays

B: Corner time

C: Mouth soaping

D: Kneeling on rice

E: Stress positions

F: Extra chores

G: Grounding

H: Confiscate items: phone/money card/car keys

I: Withhold privileges: movies/outings/sweets

J: Capsaicin Cream

K: Other (please describe)

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11 responses to “Reader’s Poll: Alternatives to Spanking”

  1. Oswald Avatar
    Oswald

    L: None

    I’m strongly of the opinion none of these alternatives are usful or appropriate. All create a very weird dynamic. With the exception of taking away cards, one may have to do this out of pure necessity. I have threatened this before, but never had to do so.

    In the rare circumstance where firm words don’t put my wife back on track, her finding herself over my knee for a thorough whipping certainly does. If solid leadership and the occasional whipping doesn’t keep your woman in line, I humbly submit that you may need to do some examination to find out why.

    1. aronhusband Avatar
      aronhusband

      Hello Oswald, Thanks for your commentary. I agree that spanking is most effective as well as most practical. However, some couples find alternate methods useful as well, either together with spanking, or apart from it. At times spanking may be impossible, such as for medical reasons, or during travel. This will require using other forms of discipline, or skipping it entirely, which is not a good option. How effective those methods may be really depends on the couple, so I would not be quick to write them off. I’ve heard from men and women that they can have good results. Obviously though, I lean towards spanking and I believe it can handle nearly any needed correction.

  2. DarcyNH Avatar
    DarcyNH

    Aron, for me and my husband we will use writing lines and corner time along side a spanking. I always get corner time before I am spanked so that I may pray for the strength to take my punishment and to repent before the Lord for my behavior.
    Occasionally I will write lines – usually scripture for whatever rule I have broken. For example I have been spanked a couple of times for engaging in the sin of gossip. I not only got spanked, but I had to write Proverbs 16:28 one hundred times. Although I try to stop myself I do sometimes fall into the trap of wanting material and worldly possessions even when they are not necessary. My husband will spank that desire out of me, and I have to write scripture lines again (Hebrews 13:5, and 1 Timothy 6:9-10 are very good reminders to me.)

    1. aronhusband Avatar
      aronhusband

      Thank you for explaining your husband’s methods. I appreciate that he has you write and learn Scripture when it comes to correction. Those are always good things to be mindful of. Prayer is important too. Coupled with a spanking I can really see how that will help you.

  3. HappyWifey1 Avatar
    HappyWifey1

    ladies.

    K- several other things
    1. His favorite method is hand spanking because he is tall and strong with long arms. His hand spankings really hurt. To enhance the sting he has me strip naked and he leads me to our bathroom for a warm shower for 5 minutes directly over my behind then takes me by my arm to our bed and over his knee. The extra softening makes the pain worse. He starts spanking fast and hard.

    2. Instead of writing anything he makes me say exact sentences after him like “My butt is red because this was my fault” or “I knew better than that and I need my husband to spank me” or “Next time I won’t be snotty or else my butt will be on fire again” not fun to say especially when right after I say the exact sentence I get a really loud hard stinging spank plus it’s very humbling to have to say while bent over his knee

    3. Extra chores like deep cleaning the foyer floor or reorganizing the office cabinet “since you won’t be sitting tomorrow” the extra activity is to be done by the next day or else another spanking (has never happened, always get it done).

    4. He doesn’t usually video spankings but he got our camera and recorded a few really hard swats with me crying out so he can make me play it back as a warning at any given time.

    Bottom sore for a day or two with a few smaller bruises. Far more painful than visible. I asked him if he spanks with full strength and he said “Of course not I’m not trying to hurt you” Haha I love and respect him so much.

  4. ALifeSurrendered Avatar
    ALifeSurrendered

    K: Pretty much when I’ve done something wrong, my husband just gets angry and distant until he gets over it. I still hope, at some point, that this will be different, but for now, nothing apart from snapping at me and then silence.

    1. aronhusband Avatar
      aronhusband

      Sure, anger and distance are not the way to go in responding to a wrong. Unfortunately, that’s what many couples suffer through. Loving leadership and discipline make sure there is a better option, and a wrong gets put in the past quickly. No need to respond with anger. I hope that does change for you.

  5. max Avatar
    max

    I almost always give extra chores with a spanking. For a smaller infraction, she gets no time off in the evening as I want her doing chores until her spanking at bedtime. For a larger infraction, the entire weekend I want to see her working from 8am to bedtime. This is always in addition to a spanking. She likes to spend Sundays with her friends so this is a punishment she truly hates, but I tell her it’s her choice by her behavior and she only has herself to blame.

    1. aronhusband Avatar
      aronhusband

      I can see how chores would be a tough punishment. Thank you.

  6. Sophia Avatar
    Sophia

    In our home, spanking is the only punishment my husband has ever given me. When it became clear early in our marriage that his lectures were not sufficient on their own, he found that spanking me instead quickly and easily produced the results he was looking for. I’m thankful that he hasn’t felt the need to explore alternatives, though perhaps someday he might. That would be his decision, of course, but I know he would be looking for evidence that they were equally effective in accomplishing his goals.

    There are often follow-up activities that aren’t strictly alternatives (because he has already spanked me), but the natural result of the lesson I’ve learned, such as catching up on the chores I’ve neglected. This might mean not being able to do something else that I want to do until I have done as I’m told. He doesn’t really withhold privileges, aside from providing structure around when and under what circumstances they can be indulged in. That seems like more of a rule than a punishment. Often, I acknowledge my sins and my desire for change by writing in my journal, but I am free to use my own words. This helps me to fully process the lesson and serves as a record of my growth under his leadership.

    In the humble opinion of a well-spanked wife, I don’t believe that any of those things could serve as an effective punishment on their own, replacing the spanking altogether. I am afraid that I would see them more as an annoyance and that they wouldn’t generate the fear necessary to halt a bad decision in its tracks. Maybe it hints at a fundamental flaw in me that I am not more easily led. I want to be a good wife for my husband with my whole heart, and most of the time, that is enough. But when I need his help to get back on track, I don’t believe that more time spent mopping the floors will give me the motivation I need as reliably as his belt.

    1. aronhusband Avatar
      aronhusband

      Thank you for your comment, Sophie. I believe this will be echoed by many women, as a spanking puts her in a submissive spot much more easily than any other punishment, among its other benefits. Unless it is impossible for some reason, it makes the best standard punishment. Others could be added to it if they will help. I have always found that a spanking keeps my wife gentle and peaceful more than anything else.

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