Spanking Success in My Marriage

One of the reasons I encourage couples to use discipline is the success of this method. It really sees positive change in behavior, and I wouldn’t be saying that if I hadn’t seen it myself. There are those which are measurable in immediate short-term change. Then there are those which are measurable in the long term, by generally keeping a behavior at bay. Even the overall peace of the household, and lack of certain problems, acts as evidence of success in my mind, and I think you’d find that such peace is common in marriages that use authority and discipline.

I’m going to briefly go over a number of success stories I have seen, which are measured by both the immediate and the long-term change. That’s satisfying to me, in terms of how well my wife responds to me, and in terms of the fruitfulness it brings to the home, assuring it functions well. These are a number of spanking home runs I have given:

Making appointments: One of the more recent punishments I gave was for my wife failing to take care of the work I gave her, which was to contact contractors about a job, and having them come by. There were some time constraints in getting this done, since the work could not be put off forever. When I saw it was not happening, even after a reminder, I took her aside for a “little talk.” After I gave her a tearful strapping in the evening, she had learned her lesson. She made the calls she needed to in the coming days, and had appointments set up within a week. A lady is turned upside down, and her behavior is turned around. 

The children’s lessons: On a few occasions I had to give my wife a spanking for not giving the children the lessons I’d instructed her to give. She’d had plenty of time, and I had told her clearly more than once. When I saw she was simply putting it off, I told her this was unacceptable and that she would be punished. This is important work, and to ignore what I’d plainly told her was disrespectful to me. She got spanked long and hard, and then she assured my she would both get back on the lessons regularly, and report to me of her work at the end of the week. I saw that she immediately returned to doing her work, which was a pleasure to see, and I had her report the details to me several weeks in a row. That is how you make sure things get done, and contain a problem, before it gets worse. 

Clothing: I have never had to spank my wife for not following my rules of dress. However, I did catch her once not keeping the children following them, even after I had told her she needed to get them new clothes. This is not something I would let slide. I told her she’d be punished, which she was in tears just hearing, and spanked her for her disobedience to me. The next time she got a chance, she got clothing for the children that met the standards. This is what it often takes for a woman to listen attentively to her husband, a talk while she is being spanked. I have not had to correct her for this again. 

Bad mouth: While bad mouth is not a big problem with my wife, discipline plays a role in its inability to harm our marriage. I had to spank her on two occasions early in our marriage for yelling and being rude to me. That is serious misbehavior, and I will always give a memorable spanking for it. You don’t want that to continue and to get worse. She learned her lesson from my discipline, and the pattern has not continued. I have also spanked her several times for being argumentative, which is a habit she also has not continued. Spanking her for this also helps her to respond to my words of warning. If I hear her showing me a poor attitude, I can simply say, “How do you need to speak to me?” She will say “I’m sorry,” and then correct her language. When I tell her a matter is over, and I’m not discussing it further, she knows to stop. That is the success of giving a sound spanking. 

Lateness: As I’ve mentioned before in my articles, lateness is one habit I spanked out of my wife shortly after marriage. I had to give her a series of spankings when this problem arose, and she learn that it was unacceptable to her man. She adjusted her behavior. She organizes her time better, lets me know when she will be home, and calls or texts if she has to be late. Since those early years I have only had to spank her twice for lateness, and she has been very careful since then. 

Endangering the children: I have given my wife two spankings, both years ago, for allowing the children to run into the street when they were little. She was there and she should have been more watchful. Since this is a most serious matter, I dealt with it seriously, and gave her a harsh spanking each time, which she knew she’d have coming. I have never seen that behavior from her again. She became much more watchful of the children until the time they were old enough to safely walk in that environment. A harsh spanking is far better than a tragedy. It instilled the seriousness of the matter in her, and she responded to my correction with immediate change. 

These are just several examples of spankings which had measurable success, some of it very quickly. I can also speak of the issues which never, or very rarely come up in our marriage, in part because of the structure we have, and in part because of effective discipline. They do appear as conflicts in many other marriages, but we have been safe and protected from harm. Some examples:

Refusal of affection or sex: This is unheard of for us. We are affectionate all the time, and we make love regularly. My wife does as I tell her in the marriage bed.

The cold shoulder or the silent treatment: This does not happen either. If there is some disagreement or unhappiness, we just talk it over.

A disrespectful wife: This is extremely rare, and my wife has always known how to speak to me gently and with sincere care and respect. If she starts inching towards disrespect, I warn her, and she steps back.

Violence apart from the discipline system: This is nonexistent in our marriage.

Yelling or insults by the husband: I never yell at my wife or use put-downs. This is very easy, especially since authority and discipline allow me to manage her easily, and she learns to respond to me gently. I have nothing to get angry about. Any criticism I have to give her is intelligent and constructive.

Separation: We have never separated physically except on the rare occasion one of us needs to take a short trip alone.

The overall character of our marriage is one of peace and self-control. There is not stress or brewing conflict. There are not ongoing ill feelings. We offer praise and support to each other all the time, and simply try to fulfill our responsibilities, which should all be for the good of our spouse. That peace and protection we get is certainly in part through discipline, seeing the long-term success it provides, through the establishment of our different roles, and the end of any conflict. It infuses the home with comfort, beyond its immediate effects. 

A husband needs to take discipline seriously for this reason. It is a part of sanctifying his wife and giving her protection. It is a part of giving protection to the household as a whole. The man is to wash his wife clean, and he will do this through his moral and spiritual instruction, his protection of his wife from evil influences, and his chastisement when she is off the path. This is his responsibility. He brings her to virtue, peace, cleanness. The misery brought by wives who misbehave absolutely ruins marriages, and it lasts down through many years. She needs her man’s power. She needs his guidance and correction. No one is perfect, but the husband needs to aim for the goal, and lead his wife in that direction, which is her good character and submission to him. Do not let her fall into wickedness. If you are diligent, I am certain you will see much of the same success that I have. 

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