Training Your Wife

While many men view women as wild and uncontrollable creatures, ones who make marriages unhappy, nothing could be further from the truth when a woman has virtue, and when a wife is well trained. The cultural stereotype of a disrespectful or domineering wife does not have to come true, and you can have female gold instead. I frequently hear from men who want tips on training their wife, and women who want to know what their husbands can do to keep them in line, since they sincerely want to be submissive, but they keep messing up. They have their sights on the right goal, that of a submissive woman, and just want the steps for moving forward. There are some valuable and effective methods of training women which I will offer you, but each husband may use his own creativity to find what works best. I don’t claim to be comprehensive in this article. A well trained wife will serve her husband diligently, and make him very pleased. She is the furthest thing from a shrew. She is not hard to handle, but easily responds to her husband’s will.

Training her early is important. Don’t wait for bad habits to develop, and don’t wait for her to get the idea you are passive, and she basically has free rein, or as some may put it, free REIGN. She needs to learn to serve early, and this will benefit you many years into the future. Giving her clear instructions and laying down the rules is most basic. To some degree, you may even talk with her about it before marriage, so she will know basically what married life will be like, and what will be required of her. Rules may legitimately develop with time, but they still should be established from the start, and in some level of detail. Those rules can include some of her daily tasks for the home, or in how you want her to assist you. They can include her dress, daily routine, use of money, and language. Naturally, she needs to know basic rules like her need to obey and respect you. I do not recommend too many rules, as that can become too complicated, and the system become too penal. Not everything has to be regulated. She needs to know your rules from the start and get used to following your commands. You also should tell her what behavior is serious enough that she will be punished, as some minor infractions usually do not require punishment. 

You should monitor your wife’s language, as well as her general signs of respect. Make sure that she speaks to you with respect, and with gentleness. She should not be argumentative, loud, or rude with you. If she is not sure where the line is, give her a warning when she’s getting close, so she will learn. Some lines of respect can indeed be unclear. Do not hesitate to give her a sound spanking for disrespect, so she experiences the serious consequences early and learns from them. She needs to learn that respect is paramount. You can also give her language you wish her to use, which will communicate respect. This may mean that she calls you “sir,” at least some of the time, or that she uses another title you prefer. You should also make sure her language is free from vulgarities or lewd expressions, which are uglier on a woman than a man. I have never had to worry about that from my wife, as she was raised well, but some husbands will frequently hear filth from their wife’s mouth, and will have to address this, and punish her for it until it is gone. I’ve heard from husbands who not only give a spanking for foul mouth, but also wash her mouth out with soap, which is quite horrible to experience from what I hear. Other simple signs of respect your wife can learn include not interrupting you, asking permission to go somewhere, and walking behind you in public settings. 

One form of training which help women learn is having her spend time undressed. She should learn to undress before you, and you can have her do some tasks for you around the home in the bare. She should also get used to receiving verbal corrections and spankings at least partially nude. Spending time on her knees, likewise helps a woman embrace and truly experience her submission. It is an expression which says a great deal about her place. Naturally kneeling is best done in the nude as well. You can set aside times to have her spend time before you on her knees, whether for instruction or some other purpose. She should be able to do this on command, and get used to kneeling as her regular position before you. She experiences your power over her, as well as her belonging to you, through both nudity and kneeling. These should be frequent early on in marriage, even if you do not do them that often later. 

A wife should learn to respond to commands without delay. She should be hearing commands from the start of your marriage, and she should not put off her response without a valid, serious reason. Make sure that she receives commands frequently, and easily obeys. Intentionally delaying obedience may be a sign of disrespect, especially if it is lengthy and repeated. She needs to be warned or spanked hard about this. Naturally, actual disobedience will lead to a long spanking session so that she knows to never do that again, and so she will fear the consequences. For more minor slip ups, she can simply apologize, or receive a verbal correction. Over time, a wife’s responses to her husband will come naturally and quickly, and obedience to command will be something she doesn’t even need to think about. The habits themselves need to be learned and become strong early on.

I cannot possibly overemphasize the use of sexual training in teaching a wife submission. It may be the most powerful tool for her to conform to a submissive heart, and yearn to follow her lord. A husband should have his wife’s body regularly, however he pleases. He should be in command in the marriage bed when they are making love, so she knows his power, and that she belongs to him. Tell her what she needs to do, and how you like her to do it. It is good for a wife to feel her man inside of her daily, cementing his ownership of her, and giving her a continual feeling of his body inside. A wife will benefit also from needing to serve her husband sexually. The simplest, and very effective way, is to have her get used to giving oral on command. This may not even be when the couple is making love, but any time during the day a man has a little time with his wife. Tell her to kneel, and have her serve you with her mouth, fellating you, for as long as you like. You may only do this for training, and have her serve you for a few minutes, then stop and go about your business. She needs to know she belongs to you and serves you, and this intimate method is fairly quick and practical. Similarly, she should be able to respond easily and quickly to other sexual commands. Simple commands like “take off your clothes,” “get on your knees,” and “bend over,” are all you really need. A wife will learn her belonging easily this way. Have her bend over when you have a minute, penetrate her from behind as you wish, as long as you desire, and then stop. A woman who is submitted to her husband sexually will find much less resistance to his will the rest of the time. Barriers are broken down. Resistance is ground away. Submission is instilled deep in her body and soul. She will yearn much more to serve you, and eagerly wish to do your will.

I find verbal corrections and reminders very helpful in teaching my wife to behave. They can avoid the need for future punishment, and also be effective in their own right. If I find I need to correct her, but it’s not for a serious matter, I will have a verbal session, in which she needs to undress and kneel. She may receive a lecture about her behavior, and also need to affirm the right attitude and affirm how she will behave in the future. If I wish, I will combine this teaching session with non-spanking discipline, such as writing lines or a short essay. She is humbled, and she is reminded of discipline by the session and the rituals. When I have seen a problem, but I don’t see the need for discipline, will give her regular checkups about her behavior. This is usually a session at the end of the week in which I will have her tell me about her past behavior, and her responsibilities. I will also have her tell me about her duties the coming week, and have her tell me any areas she needs to improve. If there is something I have seen that she needs to work on, I will similarly tell her then. A session such as this can work on one single problem she needs to improve, or it can be for general oversight. I have given them to her before when she acted up once during a spanking. They helped her to remain calm, respectful, and not act up when I need to punish her. 

When we speak of early training for a wife, we cannot forget the entire topic of this site, which is spanking. A new husband should make sure his new wife does not avoid punishment. If she misbehaves, he should spank soon, and spank hard. She needs to know the consequences of her actions, and experience the humbling of a spanking. Early spankings for bad behavior, which are usually more frequent the first couple of years, give her the warning she needs to stay away from misbehavior, and to respect your words. She will listen to you and obey you better. She will go out of her way to avoid doing wrong. She will be more careful about making a mistake. A spanking sets the rails more deeply than words. At the heart, spankings will also teach her respect, and they instill respect in a woman better than nearly anything else. I look back on the early years of my marriage, and while I have gradually changed my methods over the years, I am absolutely thrilled that I gave her firm discipline from the start, and removed the few problems which were appearing. I did not go soft. A wife needs to experience her man’s hand on her behind. 

Lastly, we can speak of maintenance, or training spankings, as a form of teaching a wife to conform to her husband’s will. Training spankings are not for punishment, and they are not as harsh as a punishment spanking, but they can remind a wife of her belonging and keep her on the right path. I do not recommend using maintenance spankings just as a matter of course. I would only use them if you have seen some ongoing problems which she needs to work on. In such a case, a weekly spanking can set it in her mind better than waiting to give a punishment. It gets her in the submissive mindset and reminds her of what you expect from her. Maintenance may only need to be given for a matter of months to train a wife, but I have heard from a few couples who use it in an ongoing way. If that’s what works for you, I don’t condemn it. 

Training should be thorough and firm, and nearly any wife will learn. Don’t think that every woman is the same though, or that you need to conform to a script, and do every last thing I mention. Some women need more training and more frequent training than others. Some women respond better to one method than to others. Just bring it in, be consistent, and over time you can adapt to your needs as you see fit. There will be rewards for you, as you see your wife grow in her submission and in her femininity. She will become a better helper to you, and conflict will be virtually nonexistent. You will long to be in her presence, as she is beautiful, soft, kind, and caring to your needs. Women also will be fulfilled, as they wish to grow, and to grow under their man’s hand. His able, attentive hands will shape her in a way she finds glorious. The humbling she may feel during training is more than overwhelmed by the pleasure of serving her man.