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  • Eleven Tips for Women New to Spanking

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    It is natural for a woman to have some illusions going into the world of spanking, and also some worries in her head. For women who are getting married to a husband they know will spank them, or who are expecting that their husband will start soon, after years living together without discipline, it can…

  • Readers Poll: What are You, and What do You do Here?

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    I have two polls for our readers today, one about how you identify your discipline practice and one on what you do here on this discipline website. Interested in hearing your answers. A) Domestic Discipline B) BDSM (or another similar acronym like D/S) C) Wife Spanking D) Taken in Hand E) Other F) I don’t…

  • Starting Your Discipline Blog

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    I know there are many of our readers who would like to see marital discipline become more widely known and widely practiced. If you have thought about starting your own website to share information about it, I would definitely encourage you to do so, since this is perhaps the commonest way that people learn how…

  • How You Can Encourage Discipline in Marriage

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    Part of my goal in this ministry is to help spread the word about how good and useful that discipline is in marriage. Along with this naturally comes the value of the man’s authority, and everything else that makes a marriage. I want more couples to have happy and harmonious marriages which last for life.…

  • Managing Your Wife: Respect for Others

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    This is part of a series called Managing Your Wife. Your wife’s speech towards you reflects her general respect and submission. It is right to make sure it is appropriate speech, and you must teach your wife to use her mouth wisely. That lesson, while most important in her relationship with her husband, extends to…

  • Spanking Success in My Marriage

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    One of the reasons I encourage couples to use discipline is the success of this method. It really sees positive change in behavior, and I wouldn’t be saying that if I hadn’t seen it myself. There are those which are measurable in immediate short-term change. Then there are those which are measurable in the long…

  • Reader’s Poll: Alternatives to Spanking

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    Here is another poll for our readers about discipline in your marriage. I’d enjoy hearing your answers in the Comments section. What Alternatives to Spanking Are Used in Your Marriage? That includes methods which are used together with spanking, not just in the place of it. A: Writing lines/Writing essays B: Corner time C: Mouth…

  • Common Questions about DD Answered

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    How do You Introduce discipline to Marriage? It will always require talking about it. Exactly how you go about that varies depending on whether the man or the woman introduces it. A couple should sit down and establish their roles, which are the man’s authority, and the woman’s submission to him, and commit themselves to living…

  • Strategies for Wives Struggling with Submission

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    Many women struggle with submission, and this is especially true in this culture which encourages women to be independent from their husbands, and makes rebellion a point of pride. There are also ordinary mental barriers, which come from common human pride, as well as from bad learned habits. The mental barriers become greater and more…

  • What is Respect for Husband?

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    A woman’s submission is intimately connected to her respect for her husband. The two go hand in hand, yet if anything it is her submission which flows from her respect. A healthy respect will deepen submission, but it is respect which is more primary. What does it mean for her to respect her man? How…

  • Why You Should Use Discipline in Your Marriage

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    I encourage the use of spanking in marriage because I know it works. I’ve seen it work. I sincerely believe more couples need to try and apply discipline in their marriage, and that very few would find no value in it. Discipline fits naturally into the structure of a marriage, and allows the husband, who…

  • Training Your Wife

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    While many men view women as wild and uncontrollable creatures, ones who make marriages unhappy, nothing could be further from the truth when a woman has virtue, and when a wife is well trained. The cultural stereotype of a disrespectful or domineering wife does not have to come true, and you can have female gold…

  • Does a Woman Need to Obey All Men?

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    The question is sometimes asked, both among users of domestic discipline and among marriage traditionalists in general, if a woman’s submission towards her husband needs to be extended to all men. It sounds a little like a simple question, and many minds would immediately answer no. However, it is not so simple, and opens up…

  • How to Give a Good, Sound Spanking

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    You might not know it, but despite the popularity of spanking, and the edgy pop culture BDSM world, there are men who have little idea of how to give a spanking to their wife. Some of them have never experienced one growing up, or it was so many years ago, when they were little, that…

  • Discipline Description: Lateness Does Not Pay

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    I’m surely not the only husband who has given spankings for coming to bed very late. While I don’t have a strict standard, my wife knows the routine for getting the children to bed, and for getting to bed herself. If there is some unexpected emergency, naturally she can come to me and let me…

  • Submitting When a Husband Has a Disability

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    It will eventually occur in nearly any marriage that old age will take effect, and the mind will become worn, and at time confused. Mental problems, along with physical disability, can create unique challenges in how a man leads his wife, and how she submits to him. To a degree this can be worked around,…

  • Answering Your Questions about Me

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    This website is primarily for teaching, focused on headship and discipline. However, I sometimes get questions about my life and my marriage, and I am going to answer some of the common ones for you today, including a few about my wife. I am not a faceless bot, and I do things in my life…

  • What is a Fantasist?

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    This term fantasist is a word I didn’t start hearing much until a decade or so ago. While we may guess at its meaning fairly accurately, it’s good to get more specific and ask: what is a fantasist? Well, we all know what a woman is, and a fantasist isn’t that hard to define either,…

  • When He Wants to Take Her the Back Way

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    When discussing sex in submission I’ve mostly written much on what a man should do, or can do, in using sex to teach his wife submission. I’ve gotten into a number of specifics physically. I also have to bring up a few things he should not do with her, and this includes taking his wife…

  • 5-Year Anniversary

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    This April 8 marks five years since I started this marriage guide. First of all, I want to wish you all a very happy Spank Your Wife Day. I began writing the articles, mostly about spousal discipline, during the winter of 2020, and then after a little research and a few communications with people who…

  • Reader’s Poll: Spanking Rituals

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    What rituals do you use during your discipline session? I will use 1, 2, 3 (some of the time), 4, 7 (a gag sometimes), 9, and 10 (if I am spanking her OTK I always pat my leg a few times before she gets into position)

  • Preemptive Spanking

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    In many homes spanking are used for more than a punishment. They can serve a variety of purposes in training, some of which I have discussed before when it comes to training or “maintenance” discipline. One further use, which might fit into the umbrella of training, is a preemptive use: that means you give a…

  • My Wife Gives Advice on Submission in Marriage

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    At long last, I present you with an article by my beloved wife. It has taken her a while to write it, since she does not compose or write as quickly as I do. Readers have been asking to read something by her for years, and I am happy to oblige. Her article offers women…

  • Marital Discipline, Family, and the Home in India

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    This is another guest article from a lady Indian reader. It is a description of marriage and discipline in traditional Hindu culture in India, as well as details of her own personal home life. It speaks a great deal about what home life is like, both as a child growing up and in marriage. While…

  • Reader’s Poll: How Did You Introduce Discipline?

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    Welcome to another Readers Poll. You can give your answer in the comments below. When you introduced discipline to your marriage, how did you bring up the topic? If you have not married, how do you plan to? You can find most of the articles here divided by general subject matter at the About Page.

  • What is Spank Your Wife?

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    I’ve been surprised and very gracious at the number of visitors I’ve had at Spank Your Wife, including those who sincerely want to learn, and improve their marriages. I’ve also been greatly blessed to correspond at length with some of you. For first-time visitors though, it still may be unclear the overall purpose of the…

  • Instrument Ratings

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    There is only so much to say about the instruments used in spanking. I have given a general overview of instruments before, and written a number of different instrument highlights, including on the belt, the paddle, the loopy, and the cane. I’ve written on hand spanking before as well. I write this piece as a…

  • Is Spanking Only for Macho Men?

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    Since authority and discipline are matters which involve such strength, it is easy to imagine that men who command their wives, and correct them with a spanking, are the macho type of males. It draws to mind the stronger, or obviously assertive men. Some men have a knack for telling others what to do and…

  • Where is Your Consent God Now?

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    There is very public attention given to the need for consent in making a deed right, rather than wrong. It is nearly a litany of the modern era to say — if two consenting adults do it, then I don’t have a problem with it. This is the ham sandwich of the modern diet, and…

  • There’s That Maintenance Thing

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    I regularly hear from readers, and likewise from married men and women about maintenance spanking, with opinions both for and against. I’ve put out an article uniquely on this topic before, and I want to address a few related points. Maintenance rubs a lot of people the wrong way, but is also a common practice,…

  • Traditional Marriage and Wife Spanking in India

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    This is a testimony from one of our female Indian readers about upbringing and marriage in traditional Indian, and Hindu families. Her husband has also helped me a great deal in understanding how marriage and family works there. This experience does not reflect every family in India, where in certain places western values have taken…

  • Trust

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    Besides faith, trust is perhaps most core to a traditional marriage. To practice headship, submission, and the discipline that comes along with it requires trust in God and in your spouse. Both man and wife have an easy ability to do wrong, to cause harm, to intentionally slight the other, and even to dynamite the…

  • Poll: What’s the Most Common Infraction

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    Welcome to another Reader’s Poll, ladies and gentlemen. This time the question for men is: What behavior do you need to spank your wife for most often? Women can answer: What do you do that gets you spanked the most? Feel free to explain, and add any insight you like. You can find most of…

  • Mr. Light Hand

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    Some people refer to marital discipline with the term — taken in hand — which is an expression I like, because it connotes the leadership as well as protection a wife has in being in her husband’s hands. That hand of protection, and correction, doesn’t always need to be hard though. While I believe that…

  • Description of a Discipline for Bad Mouth

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    My wife and I walked into our quiet apartment after our trip. Coming home from about a week away, we took time to put our bags down, and put away a few of the more important things. We talked on the couch a few minutes on our trip and about the coming  day. Then I…

  • How Spanking Cleanses a Woman

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    Much can be said about spanking’s punitive abilities, or its deterrent effect. In fact, those are some of the first things we think of when we think of punishment of any kind, and one of the first things that comes to mind with spanking, along with its intimacy and nudity announcing it as profound marital…

  • Readers Poll: How Does Being Spanked Affect You

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    Welcome to our third Reader’s Poll. It is addressed to the ladies, but husbands can answer about how their wife responds. If you have not practiced spanking in marriage, you are still free to add your thoughts below. Ladies: How does being spanked affect your behavior? I am careful to behave well in the coming…

  • Consent in a Spanking Marriage

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    The subject of consent comes up immediately for nearly anyone if the subject is disciplining wives. We understand intuitively from our sense of fairness that consent in some form must be given. A spanking is something that most people do not desire. In the moment, they may in fact absolutely not want to experience it.…

  • Feel Like a Natural Woman

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    A brief word to the women who desire discipline in their marriage: You are a normal woman and your desire is normal. A woman who wants to experience her man’s strength, including in discipline, is a natural woman. It’s good you want to get spanked. You may be surrounded by friends and peers who think…

  • Description of a Paddle Discipline

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    This article describing a paddle discipline I’ve given could easily be called a description of a serious, or a harsh discipline. That’s because in our home I keep the paddle for the more serious kinds of punishments, for the worse offenses. In other homes, the paddle might be the normal mode of punishment, but I…

  • Description of Discipline for Lateness

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    One of the earliest lessons for my wife to learn when we married was to be responsible with showing up on time. She knew this was important to me, but she had been raised without a lot of care for being punctual, and her peers weren’t much into it either. Getting her out of the…

  • Description of Discipline for Arguing

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    It is not common that my wife is argumentative with me, and occasionally if she starts, I can let her know she should not continue, and she listens carefully. Rarely, I have to punish her her for arguing. Her recent discipline happened because she persisted in arguing with me in front of the children, over…

  • If You Want This For Your Marriage

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    For many men and women it is attractive to have spanking in their marriage, and they would like to know how to approach it with a future mate. It seems like a dream, but very counter cultural, especially as a form of discipline. They love the power exchange of a spanking. The excitement. The effective…

  • Description of a Discipline Session

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    Let me give you a review of a recent discipline session I had with my wife, and which was very successful. As I sometimes do, I used it to correct her in several areas, in large part because I didn’t have to time to address each individually. That is my own fault. I disciplined her…

  • Who is Getting Spanked?

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    According to most imaginations, women who get spanked must be very meek, tepid ladies who can be easily bossed around by their husbands. The stereotype for the religiously motivated is that the tail thrashings must go to a few fundamental southern grandmas and long-skirt wearing homeschool moms. Yet discipline is practiced  upon women of all…

  • Restoring Her After a Spanking

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    That period immediately after giving your wife a spanking is especially sensitive. You still have some talking to do with her, but it won’t be too easy for her. A freshly spanked wife is usually a bit more than flustered. She could still have tears, many thoughts could be going through her mind, and her…

  • How to Introduce Spanking in Your Marriage

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    I introduced discipline into my marriage from the start. That means I explained discipline to her before marriage and while we were still going out. I wouldn’t have had it any other way. It was important for us to discuss the nature of marriage, and we were both agreed on the man’s role as the…

  • What Does a Spanking Sound Like

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    Since much discussion is given online about the nature of spanking, its instruments, its purposes, its methods, I want to help the reader by showing what a good spanking sounds like. Not the sound of the instrument, but the spanking lecture which is always present when I give punishment, and when most others do as…

  • Crime & Punishment: What to Spank For

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    For those who have never used real authority in the home, or established rules, it may seem odd to have them, and not clear on what you enforce. This is natural to being unfamiliar, not just with spanking, but with headship and discipline in general. I’m not going to get into all of the standards…

  • Spanking in its Rightful Place

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    It seems for both those who are interested in spanking and those who are disinterested in it, there are common misunderstandings about what spanking in a relationship is really about. These misunderstandings can lead one to greatly misuse spanking, or to wrongly dismiss it as a pointless practice. I want to clear some of that…

  • Welcome and Learning Discipline

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    Welcome. This is a website devoted to teaching marital discipline, or wife spanking as some call it. I hope to provide advice, instructions, and knowledge about how to use spanking in your marriage relationship. I will draw from personal experience and many years of using discipline in the home, but it is not a personal…