Spank Your Wife

Author: aronhusband

  • That Search Term Guy

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    I’m not the only one fascinated by seeing the search terms that landed readers on my website. My first impression though is just how accurate the large majority of them are, often exactly specifying subjects I’ve posted on, or details I include in the posts. It probably helps that I specify details with tags too.…

  • Pleasuring Her Man After the Spanking

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    The following contains explicit content. If you find that offensive you may want to skip it: It would be impossible to discuss the ancient art of wife spanking without noting that the end of the discipline is often punctuated with sex. This is not true of everyone, but it is true of many, and seems…

  • Calling Him Sir

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    Having a wife speak to her husband with a term of honor during discipline is nearly universal in wife spanking. I will have my wife use “sir,” but you will find it is a personalized choice, and other husbands have their wives use other terms. The use of honorific language, terms that clearly state his…

  • When She Wants to Get Punished

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    A phenomenon many men are familiar with is the wife that does something just so she can get into trouble and be spanked. Usually, it’s something minor, but enough to get her husband’s attention and some time over his knee. This is usually referred to in domestic discipline as bratting, but just think of it…

  • On Standing Her in the Corner

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    When I began spanking in marriage, I did not have much use for the tradition of giving a punished wife time in the corner when she is spanked. I appreciated the need for her to think about her deeds, and to await punishment simply by having her wait for her punishment, usually kneeling before the…

  • Reinforcing Love During Discipline

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    Authority and submission are what are naturally reinforced during a spanking session, and many husbands have rituals that help to firmly establish them in the mind — the wife’s kneeling posture. Her calling him sir, or a similar term of authority. Her needing to be bare. I’ve written on various ways that sessions commonly emphasize…

  • Should I Tell Someone We Spank?

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    It is natural to want to talk about discipline with others, to share encouragement and support, and also to share difficulties, and to seek needed help. This is especially true of the woman, who is dealing with the harder end of the practice, and may want encouragement in learning submission, or in dealing with punishments.…

  • Description of Discipline for Arguing

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    It is not common that my wife is argumentative with me, and occasionally if she starts, I can let her know she should not continue, and she listens carefully. Rarely, I have to punish her her for arguing. Her recent discipline happened because she persisted in arguing with me in front of the children, over…

  • Wife Spanking vs. BDSM

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    When discussing wife spanking in its various forms, someone always asks whether this is the same kind of thing as BDSM, which most people recognize as the whips n’ chains thing. How is this differentiated from the well-known persona of the leather world, or dungeons, or people who sign slave contracts? To tell you the…

  • Reinforcing Authority During Discipline

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    Most husbands make sure that a discipline session reinforces their authority, and their wife’s submission in more ways that just the lecture and spanking. Each husband may have his own practices, or rituals, but nearly all make sure that reinforcement besides the spanking is there. The way he speaks to her, the way she needs…

  • What Damage to Expect

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    For those starting out on their discipline journey, there is some hesitation, or fear about the physical damage it might cause. Neither husband nor wife want a spanking to result in serious injury, and they also will be seeing the bright, and sometimes colorful results of spankings very soon. It would be wrong not to…

  • Is Spanking Only for Surly Women?

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    It’s keen to notice that even those who are accepting of wife spanking tend to think it’s useful only for surly women, or for those who otherwise love it. A man considering spanking for his marriage may think the same way — if she’s got bad attitude I will use it, if not, forget it.…

  • Leadership Like Christ

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    You will find that the man’s leadership of his wife parallels the leadership that the Lord Jesus practices toward His people. This is one of the ways marriage manifests the divine, just as it does in expressing His love and His sacrifice. Marriage is in abundant ways a picture of the Savior. We see that…

  • Thank You for the Spanking, Sir

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    It is natural and common after a spanking for husbands to expect their wives to thank them for the correction they’ve just received. This is a simple verbal — thank you, sir — that she can express her gratitude with. You will find that this is the norm in many homes, but also that some…

  • Better to be Safe and Sorry

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    It is extremely difficult to cause any serious injury during an ordinary spanking, but the matter of safety in discipline still should be discussed. Since a man is delivering punishment on his wife’s bare flesh, he needs to be aware of what he is doing, and be concerned he causes no lasting harm. Ordinary marks…

  • Keep Her Mouth Clean

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    One tool of discipline in many marriages is mouth-soaping. This is the required punishment for various kinds of filthy talk from the wife, to give her a lesson on being clean. In my own home, I have never had a problem with my wife using bad language, cuss words, lewd talk or anything like that,…

  • Sex in Submission (Part 2 of 2)

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    This article contains explicit content. If you find that inappropriate you may not want to read it: Serving Him: One of the simplest and well known ways to help a woman grow in submission and in yielding to her man is to have her regularly give oral sex. She should be comfortable kneeling before him,…

  • Sex in Submission (Part 1 of 2)

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    The following contains explicit content. If you find that offensive you may want to skip it: You sometimes find people scratching their heads as to why spanking is such a sexual act, or trying to figure out why men love to smack some butt when they are making love to their wives. Where does this…

  • Safe Words and Marital Spanking

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    I believe in basic safety when practicing discipline. However I am not a big supporter of the use of the “safe word.” The safe word, which is ubiquitous in the bdsm world, and which can be found less commonly in marital spanking, is a word a wife can say if a spanking is getting too…

  • Signs You Are Not Doing Discipline Right

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    I do my best here to give you a picture of what marital discipline looks like, providing you some of the essentials of the practice, as well as a perspective and advice on the non-essentials. In this piece I’d like to examine some problems that come up, that often reflect that you are doing things…

  • Starting Discipline in the Home

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    Once you have decided to correct your wife with spanking, your next step is to put this into practice in the home. Some of this may amount to establishing clear leadership and rules in the home, if you have not done that already. For others, it my simply amount to starting to enforce the rules…

  • If You Want This For Your Marriage

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    For many men and women it is attractive to have spanking in their marriage, and they would like to know how to approach it with a future mate. It seems like a dream, but very counter cultural, especially as a form of discipline. They love the power exchange of a spanking. The excitement. The effective…

  • In Favor of a Sore Backside

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    There are legitimately many varieties of spanking a husband can give as head of the home. One element of spanking that I try to always include, is that my wife will be feeling it the next day. It will be a thorough enough punishment that she will have some soreness, and aching on the backside.…

  • The Silent Treatment

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    The need to keep activities quiet during a spanking is common to most households. Spanking itself is a noisy affair, between the swatting a bare backside and the cries of the lady’s mouth. Families with children, or couples in the flimsier kind of apartments find they need some way to lessen the sounds, those coming…

  • Make Spanking Normal Again

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    I look forward to seeing a restored order in the home in this culture at large. A restored order would include a respect for the man’s authority, and with it the regular use of discipline. That seems very far away, but sometimes great changes can happen almost overnight, in the historical sense at least. You…

  • Description of a Discipline Session

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    Let me give you a review of a recent discipline session I had with my wife, and which was very successful. As I sometimes do, I used it to correct her in several areas, in large part because I didn’t have to time to address each individually. That is my own fault. I disciplined her…

  • Asking Your Man to Spank You

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    Most of what I write is aimed toward the head of the home, who is the man. Here I want to engage a common difficulty for women: that is how do they get their man to start spanking them. I talk on this topic from both ends in my piece on bringing discipline into your…

  • Woman Uncovered

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    Nearly anyone can figure out that a spanking in marriage involves a bare bottom. I imagine there are a few exceptional homes where clothing is included, but it would be hard to find. There are more than a few wives who wish they could keep that thing covered during discipline when they are anxiously awaiting…

  • That Really Hits the Spot

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    A spanking is given on a woman’s bottom. It is not for anywhere else. Corporal punishment can conjure up images of civic punishments such as flogging, or as medieval experiences like you can see in the leather crowd, but marital spanking just uses the bottom as the place of punishment. If you get very far…

  • It’s a Wonderful Life

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    I would like for others to have what I have. I may not have a flawlessly perfect marriage, but it is wonderful and happy and peaceful. We seek to live out what God teaches us in His Word and do it as a family. I want that for others, and I truly hate to see…

  • Varying the Heat

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    Spankings need not be exactly the same severity each time. In fact it can be detrimental if they are. Just as it can be helpful to vary certain parts of the spanking — such as the location, or her state of undress — it’s helpful to vary the harshness of the spanking. That’s not just…

  • Resistance During a Spanking

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    Talk to nearly anyone in domestic discipline, from the newer to most experienced, and they will tell you they sometimes have to deal with resistance while they are giving a spanking. It is not easy to receive the pain of swats on the bottom, or deal with the fear of the punishment, especially if trust…

  • What Men Need to Learn

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    This essay isn’t about what men need to learn about spanking. It’s really about what men need to learn about their leadership in the home, so they can later see how spanking falls into place. I write it especially because of the number of women who have tried to tell their husbands they need that…

  • Speak to Her Soul

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    Often times when I have my wife over my knee, I find my words to her many times more effective than if I had spoken to her normally. My wife hears and takes to heart my words very well and quickly if she is being spanked. Where at other times she might think she could…

  • What’s the Frequency

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    It is very common to be asked by those interested in spanking how often I spank. Others ask this too, but it provides the new beginner a picture of what seems normal in the practice, and he can work our what he does better when he’s got an idea in his head. What you’ll find…

  • Make Her a Better Woman

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    It’s important to remember that the goal of the discipline you deliver, much like the goal of your loving and leading every day is to make her a better person. Discipline takes care of the harsher edge of that, but it is keeping in line with the great love you have for her, and your…

  • Hard and Long

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    When I discipline my wife with a spanking, she knows that it is going to be hard and it is going to hurt. I do not give light spankings. I believe that’s common for other husbands who spank. I vary the intensity for the offense, but none are mild. Occasionally I have heard a husband…

  • Lose Your Illusion

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    Much of the hatred and negativity you see toward wifespanking comes from a great deal of programming, conditioning, and pure illusion on the part of society. If one truly repeats the same thing often enough, people will believe it. If you tell them that a spanking is bad a thousand times, people start to believe…

  • Spanking as Training

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    While we mostly think of spanking in marriage as being for punishing an offense, in many marriage is also gets used as a form of training the wife in discipline and submission. Some couples have sessions only so she can become accustomed to receiving spankings, or so she can grow into submission better. This is…

  • How it Helps You Everyday

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    One of the benefits of spanking your wife that I cannot emphasize enough is that it accentuates your verbal instructions to her, and gives plenty of power to your verbal warnings. It does not act in isolation, but acts together with your words. That is one way that domestic discipline will help you out every…

  • Well Positioned

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    One common question I get when discussing marital discipline is what position I will have my wife in to spank her. There are plenty of good articles about this online, or at least which touch on it. The position you spank your wife in mostly is a matter of preference, but it can also be…

  • What Men Need to Learn

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    This essay isn’t about what men need to learn about spanking. It’s really about what men need to learn about their leadership in the home, so they can later see how spanking falls into place. I write it especially because of the number of women who have tried to tell their husbands they need that…

  • The Real Thing

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    I write these articles and share them with you as a husband who is experienced with domestic discipline, because I want to help people learn about it, and perhaps decide to use it. Discipline, guiding my wife, correcting her, are all a part of my regular life. There is suspicion though, sometimes, that anyone who…

  • Tears During a Spanking

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    If you are preparing to use discipline in your marriage, or a just curious, you can easily imagine that you will be seeing some tears and crying as you punish her. This is the case for most couples, and it is the case in my marriage as well. But it is one thing to expect…

  • Non-Spanking Discipline

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    No one should feel limited to using spankings as the only form of discipline. You will find that some households use non-spanking discipline together with spanking, and others uniquely gear their correction around non-spanking methods. While I have used spanking from the start of my marriage, and would not go back, I have supplemented it…

  • Who is Getting Spanked?

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    According to most imaginations, women who get spanked must be very meek, tepid ladies who can be easily bossed around by their husbands. The stereotype for the religiously motivated is that the tail thrashings must go to a few fundamental southern grandmas and long-skirt wearing homeschool moms. Yet discipline is practiced  upon women of all…

  • Restoring Her After a Spanking

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    That period immediately after giving your wife a spanking is especially sensitive. You still have some talking to do with her, but it won’t be too easy for her. A freshly spanked wife is usually a bit more than flustered. She could still have tears, many thoughts could be going through her mind, and her…

  • Why Women Love to be Spanked

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    I want to write about why so many women enjoy being spanked, and even find very deep fulfillment in it. Some would suggest the title is an exaggeration, because surely there are some women who do not love it, but I let the title stand because there are so many who do, and because it…

  • Where Can I Find a Discipline Partner

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    Shortly after learning about domestic discipline, either through the power of imagination or the internet (few people learn from friends), some find it very attractive and want to know where they can find someone to spank or be spanked by. It may seem like a difficult task in a society that either does not talk…

  • When She Tries to Get Out of a Spanking

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    It is a natural human reaction to try and make excuses for our behavior. It is an uncomfortable thing for the cold light of day to shine on our wrongs. Just think of your own reaction when you’ve been guilty in the past. It is universal. We see how mankind tries to twist the truth,…

  • The Mindset to Give Discipline

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    It is best to spank your wife with love and firmness. There are cultural stereotypes about men who beat their wives out of losing their temper, or getting drunk, but this has nothing to do with real discipline. No one I’ve spoken to in domestic discipline accepts that kind of behavior. A good corrective discipline…

  • Spankings Happen Here

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    Most people who use marital discipline are creatures of habit. For the most part I am too. We like to give discipline in the same place, or same few places. There may be a few who always like to be creative, or search for exciting places, but for me it is not about that. The…

  • Spanking Instruments: Making Music Together

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    Most people have an idea how to administer a spanking, as well as what tools they might use, whether just their hand or a spanking instrument. I’ll just take the time to go over which tools I use, and mention a few more which are popular. When we deliver a spanking, most disciplinarians use an…

  • How to Introduce Spanking in Your Marriage

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    I introduced discipline into my marriage from the start. That means I explained discipline to her before marriage and while we were still going out. I wouldn’t have had it any other way. It was important for us to discuss the nature of marriage, and we were both agreed on the man’s role as the…

  • What Does a Spanking Sound Like

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    Since much discussion is given online about the nature of spanking, its instruments, its purposes, its methods, I want to help the reader by showing what a good spanking sounds like. Not the sound of the instrument, but the spanking lecture which is always present when I give punishment, and when most others do as…

  • Crime & Punishment: What to Spank For

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    For those who have never used real authority in the home, or established rules, it may seem odd to have them, and not clear on what you enforce. This is natural to being unfamiliar, not just with spanking, but with headship and discipline in general. I’m not going to get into all of the standards…

  • What Does a Discipline Session Look Like

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    I sometimes get asked what a normal punishment session is like, and this is a pint of curiosity for those who have either never tried it, or are new and still learning. Nearly all discipline shares the same basic steps, and will vary only a little. Granted, there are unique circumstances in each correction, and…

  • Spanking in its Rightful Place

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    It seems for both those who are interested in spanking and those who are disinterested in it, there are common misunderstandings about what spanking in a relationship is really about. These misunderstandings can lead one to greatly misuse spanking, or to wrongly dismiss it as a pointless practice. I want to clear some of that…

  • Welcome and Learning Discipline

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    Welcome. This is a website devoted to teaching marital discipline, or wife spanking as some call it. I hope to provide advice, instructions, and knowledge about how to use spanking in your marriage relationship. I will draw from personal experience and many years of using discipline in the home, but it is not a personal…

  • Why Use Discipline?

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    I want to expand on what I mention in my introduction — why do I use domestic discipline and why do I recommend it to others? Or to drop the contemporary lingo, I’d like to explain why it’s good to spank your wife. I want to get into the benefits. Let me talk a little…

  • How it Helps You Everyday

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    One of the benefits of spanking your wife that I cannot emphasize enough is that it accentuates your verbal instructions to her, and gives plenty of power to your verbal warnings. It does not act in isolation, but acts together with your words. That is one way that domestic discipline will help you out every…