Tag: domestic discipline
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An Obedience App
A reader recently mentioned to me that he uses an app to manage discipline with his wife. The app helps remind her of her responsibilities, and it also tells what the punishment is for each infraction. He has had a positive experience with the app, and thinks it could help couples with their marriage system.…
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What to Think about While Getting Spanked
The act of getting spanked is a trial in some ways, and some women are not sure what to think about when they are going through it. There is a natural instinct to steel oneself for the pain. One might try to take the mind elsewhere to mentally escape the strokes which will surely hurt,…
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Reader’s Poll: Have You Found Spanking More Effective?
Please answer in the comments: Have you found spanking to be more effective than non-spanking forms of correction? How so? Our previous polls: Spanking Polls for Readers: https://www.spankingyourwife.com/2020/11/25/spanking-polls-for-readers/ When do You Spank?: https://www.spankingyourwife.com/2021/01/13/readers-poll-when-do-you-spank/ How Does Being Spanked Affect You?: https://www.spankingyourwife.com/2021/04/20/readers-poll-how-does-being-spanked-affect-you/ Who Do You Know Who Spanks?: https://www.spankingyourwife.com/2021/10/30/spanking-poll-who-do-you-know-who-spanks/ What’s the Most Common Infraction?: https://www.spankingyourwife.com/2022/05/13/poll-whats-the-most-common-infraction/ Why Did…
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How Common is Domestic Discipline?
There are those who try and paint spanking as a fringe practice, or at least one that is uniquely for erotic purposes. They think it is either abnormal or kink. While its popularity appears to be rising, spanking can be easily misportrayed because of the very fact that many people who do it are private…
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Spanked for Speeding
Occasionally I have to give a spanking for something I never thought I would have to. I trust my wife in her behavior, although I know a few of her common weaknesses. I rarely have to worry about anything else. It saddened me then to learn she had gotten a speeding ticket, and with children…
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Marital Discipline, Family, and the Home in India
This is another guest article from a lady Indian reader. It is a description of marriage and discipline in traditional Hindu culture in India, as well as details of her own personal home life. It speaks a great deal about what home life is like, both as a child growing up and in marriage. While…
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When the Response to Discipline is Anger
The period immediately after a spanking is important, especially in that it will set the tone for later on. Usually, a wife’s response is in becoming peaceful, and in being quick to show her submissiveness. Some couples grow closer for a time after a spanking. However, even a wife who knows she needs to be…
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Description of a Discipline with Resistance
One thing you must know is that at times you will give spankings for things which are a judgment call. What amounts to bad attitude, or disrespect is not always so clearly defined, so men will be the ones to clarify the matter, and punish when necessary. I don’t worry too much about judgment call…
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Can the Unbeliever Learn about Discipline from the Christian?
I know there are some people who feel radically uncomfortable about going on a Christian spanking site, because they don’t agree with some Christian beliefs, or find them very odd. They still read articles. They continue to come. However, there can be a disconnect on certain subjects. A few may reject learning from these sites…
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What is Spank Your Wife?
I’ve been surprised and very gracious at the number of visitors I’ve had at Spank Your Wife, including those who sincerely want to learn, and improve their marriages. I’ve also been greatly blessed to correspond at length with some of you. For first-time visitors though, it still may be unclear the overall purpose of the…
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Is Spanking Abuse?
Is spanking your wife abuse, and if not, at what point does it become abuse? The idea that spanking an adult female in marriage is abuse is virtually assumed by a large segment of society. Others accept that if done consensually it is not abuse, but certainly are worried it may be used in a…
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Do You Have Time to Give Discipline?
One of several challenges of having discipline in your marriage is making sure that you have the time. This could be planning the time to give a spanking, or another form of correction. The time it takes to give a spanking is not great, usually, so do not think the average marriage will be too busy…
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Keeping Wife and Home Free of Negative Influences
The influences of the world are heavily against male headship and against godly living. These influences need to be kept out of the home in general, and specifically away from your wife. Worldly influences usually will make her submission more difficult for her, but also take her away from virtue and holiness. The very purity…
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She Did a Very Very Bad Bad Thing
Is there a special way to deal with the worst of infractions? How should a husband respond to a wife’s truly terrible behavior? It makes couples wonder, even if they both hope they never need to face such a situation, or are confident that they never will. Does a husband need to reinvent punishment? Does…
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Attitude: An Offense Without a Rule
Most spankings in marital discipline are for clear offenses, or at times for training, if training is necessary. Perhaps the clearest are for direct disobedience, or for breaking a household rule. There are, however, some bad behaviors that really can’t be qualified clearly, but need correction anyway. One of the most common is simply having…
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Overcoming Obstacles to Sexual Submission
The marriage bed is one area where fewer women have trouble submitting. It’s more likely that women desire to yield to their husband’s strength here than anywhere else. The woman’s yielding in the marriage bed should merely picture her yielding to her husband in their marriage each day, but do so more deeply and personally.…
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Reader’s Poll: Effective Spankings and More
To all of our readers, men and women, here are two questions for you: 1: Describe a spanking that was very effective in changing your wife’s behavior, or in being changed if you are the wife. 2: What is the most serious infraction you have spanked for, or been spanked for? You can find most…
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A Submissive Wife’s Testimony and Advice
This testimony comes from a letter sent to me by a reader, who has agreed with her husband to let me post it. I believe her testimony is valuable to other couples, in how it shows that she is learning submission, and becoming more feminine, with the help of her husband’s leadership and discipline. Her…
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Managing Your Wife: Emotional Outbursts
This is part of a series called Managing Your Wife. You can read the first articles on Finances right here. I am writing in response to the concerns of one of our readers, who wanted some insight on a wife’s emotional outbursts, and how a husband can deal with them. Said outbursts were her own, but considering they were…
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Managing Your Wife: Finances
This is the first part in a series on managing the wife. It will focus on setting standards for the home, and leading her in marriage life, with further discussion on when discipline may be needed. Some of these topics I’ve gone over before, others will be new. One domain in which a husband will…
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What Got You Started?
These are some things I hear from men and women who want discipline in their home, or who have already started it. I hear many of the same factors at work in starting discipline: My wife has been disrespectful to me our whole marriage, and she won’t do what I say. Maybe spanking will help…
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Spanking and Pregnancy
The subject has come up many times about the safety of spanking while a wife is pregnant, both in the comments and in my e-mail exchanges with readers. It deserves its own article, and separate discussion. In nearly all marriages childbirth will occur, and it should. Sometimes, the closeness which comes along with spanking, leads…
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How Not to be Too Soft
Men who lead their homes and discipline their wives tend to have two potential pitfalls before them. One is being overly legalistic and harsh, and the other is lacking oversight, and being soft with punishment. I have included a few articles warning against the former, and would like to focus on avoiding the latter pitfall.…
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Discipline Description from India
This is a description of a discipline session early in the marriage of an Indian couple I have enjoyed getting to know. I previously posted their article about how discipline works in their culture and religion. Among traditional Hindus wife spanking is extremely common and even expected, and even many less traditional ones still respect…
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Punished on Her Back
The average use punishment seems to include positions which face a wife down, and place her bottom up, making an easy presentation of it to her husband. She goes over his lap, or bends over. She is facing away, or downward. Only her back and the soft target of her bottom are before his eyes.…
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Wives Letting Go
Women go through a process of letting go when they learn to submit to their man, and be corrected. Taking that position of submission is harder for women who have been raised in modern western values, or who have been allowed by their parents to live selfish, egoistic lives. However, it can be challenging to…
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Readers Poll: Spanking Effects and Instruments
Ladies: How does being spanked affect your behavior? A) I am careful to behave in the coming days B) I am careful to behave will for the long term C) I feel at rest with my husband, and obey him easily D) I want to be close to my husband, emotionally and physically E) It…
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Online Fakes and Secret Agents
An annoyance that’s normal to deal with online is fake people, including those who intend harm. For the most part it’s little more than a passing bother, but some individuals clearly are out to harm you, and are worth staying away from entirely. The main way such people try and get in, whether to a…
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Silence of the Madames
In an aim to keep silent during a spanking, couples are willing to go to some lengths. We have looked at silent instruments before. Those include the loopy, the curtain rod, and of course the formidable cane. However, the lady being spanked may be making noise from the other end, leading many couples to try…
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Bad Behavior in Public
Husbands who have been leading their wives for a while generally know well how to handle any bad behavior by her in the home. They have an array of weapons, from instruction, to warning, to immediate discipline if the moment warrants it. For many couples this has become routine, and much is known and expected.…
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Wives Learn Respectful Speech
One of the first challenges to the wife learning to be submissive towards her husband is learning respectful speech. Her respect for her husband needs to be clear in her words, as well as the loving and gentle tone in which she communicates. Overcome stumbling with the tongue, and you will likely overcome stumbling in…
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Men and Women’s Rights in Marriage
For people in the West, rights are pretty much the air you breath. Everyone insists on their rights, even if they’re not sure what they are, nor where they really come from. It may seem odd to be proud of our rights in an era when government restrictions control such an incredible amount of life,…
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Common Difficulties in Starting Spanking
Couples who introduce authority and discipline to their marriage, whether at the start, or years after getting married, are likely to run into many of the same hurdles in getting started, as well as in seeing the rewards. Good fruit will nearly always come from headship and discipline in the long run, but there will…
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Reader’s Poll: Why Did you Start Spanking?
Dear Readers, Please let us know why you began spanking in marriage, or why you wish to begin. Leave your replies in the comments. You can view most of the articles on this website organized loosely by topic at the About Page.
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Taste of the Cane
Let me introduce another guest article by Mark, who is writing today about use of the cane in discipline. As with other guest articles, I’ve asked him to write on subjects I do not have hands-on experience with. I have never used the cane for discipline and he has. By all accounts of spanked wives,…
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YOU
There is someone who has been inspiring and encouraging me about the state of marriages. That someone is my dear readers on this site. That’s you. I have been regularly pleased to hear positive changes coming to marriage, as well as men and women who become open-minded and even passionate about applying headship to their…
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There’s That Maintenance Thing
I regularly hear from readers, and likewise from married men and women about maintenance spanking, with opinions both for and against. I’ve put out an article uniquely on this topic before, and I want to address a few related points. Maintenance rubs a lot of people the wrong way, but is also a common practice,…
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Managing Your Discipline Session
Spanking is not the only thing that needs to be firm when guiding your wife. Spanking is the first thing people think of, and it is the act that mostly makes up the punishment, but a husband’s guidance, both during a punishment and in daily instruction, needs to be both firm and clear. A weak…
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Continuing Discipline when Children are in the Home
Most couples enjoy the early period of their marriage, when they have all their time to themselves, and go out whenever they wish. All time is alone time with your beloved. All activities center on you two. As it applies to discipline, that solitude means that you can take care of a correction very quickly.…
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Does Spanking Interfere with our Laughter and Fun?
Taking the shift from modern western values to traditional ones, which respect the spanking of wives, will require adjusting much in your lifestyle, your attitudes, and your language. There are things from the past which will carry over well. There are practices which will naturally have to end, or simply become more subdued. If your…
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Poll: What’s the Most Common Infraction
Welcome to another Reader’s Poll, ladies and gentlemen. This time the question for men is: What behavior do you need to spank your wife for most often? Women can answer: What do you do that gets you spanked the most? Feel free to explain, and add any insight you like. You can find most of…
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Learn from Experienced Spanking Husbands
When I was new and growing as a spanking husband, I found I gained much from interaction with other husbands who disciplined their wives. No amount of bad material that is out there prevents us from finding some good advice, and it didn’t prevent me. I hope many of our readers, especially the men, are…
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Sex as Dominance
For many couples the introduction to a man’s headship and a wife’s submission is not a religious belief, or even a website like this. Their discovery of spanking may not be from a “fetish site” or a popular film. Rather countless men and women realize the reality of the marital interplay of masculine and feminine…
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What a Woman Should Affirm During Discipline
I’ve written several times specifically on the need for a husband to lecture his wife, and the importance of her hearing his words of guidance and correction. The importance of verbal communication cannot be overstated. It should be clear and firm, and touch on the main points she needs to learn. On her part, while…
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A Response to MGTOW Fears
The phrase MGTOW (men going their own way) is quite the buzz word these days. Like a lot of buzzwords, it describes a real phenomenon, and then subsequently forms a real phenomenon, encouraging people by its simplicity and clear identity to define themselves this way, even if their beliefs, thoughts, and causes are a bit…
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Making it Past Early Resistance
I’ve made it no secret in this discipline guide that much of the motivation for marital discipline comes from the ladies themselves, who desire to be disciplined. It is no stretch to say that most who suggest the wife’s submission, or firm correction, are the wives themselves. Yet despite this encouraging fact, women will find…
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That Tender Early Period
As many couples are beginning their journey into marital discipline, they experience with some excitement, as well as trepidation, that early period of learning. For a wife that frequently means more spankings than usual, as she gets used to her husband’s rules and expectations. For a husband, it means some amount of experimentation, of deciding…
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Is It Wrong if I Enjoy Spanking?
Men and women involved in wife spanking sometimes get the idea that it’s wrong for them to enjoy spanking at all. If there were any level of enjoyment, it is no longer discipline, the logic suggests. They likewise might think that finding some satisfaction in this intimate act of chastisement means they are doing it…
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A Note on the Warm-Up Spanking
While the idea had never occurred to me in many years of spanking, the tool of the warm-up spanking is used by some husbands to ease a corrected wife into her spanking, or more specifically to help her bear the harder end of the ordeal. I can’t speak from experience, but a lighter spanking, either…
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A Young Wife Learns to Accept Discipline
[This is a guest article by our reader Sophia. She describes an early punishment in her marriage, which despite her interest in being disciplined, is very challenging to her. What stands out for me, and I think readers can gain from, is her humility, and deep appreciation of her husband. Even women who desire to…
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When to Pause or End Spanking
Perhaps one of the hardest decisions to make is deciding if spanking needs to be done away with. It’s a big marriage decision to start it, and just as big a decision to step back from. I obviously think spanking is excellent, and helpful for couples in most instances. However, spanking can also carry unique…
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A Wife’s First Spanking
Even a wife who knows that she will be spanked, and who firmly believes in spanking, will feel some hesitancy the first time she awaits going over her husband’s knee. That’s especially true if she was never spanked before, or perhaps if she was spanked as a child, it was so long ago she still…
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The Crop: It’s for the Horses
Smile! That’s right, we keep it with our other gear, our boots, spurs, and riding caps. You’ve got to have one . . . if you ride. A couple that kept stables, or that even rode horses as a hobby could get away with a brazen statement like that with a smile. If you’re not…
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Spanking Poll: Who do you know who spanks?
This is our fourth spanking poll for readers. Please join in. Men and women can both answer this question the same. Choose any answer that applies to you, and feel free to explain in the comments. What friends do you have who spank? A) I know some people online B) I met some people online…
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Kneeling in Marriage
Kneeling is used in many marriages with discipline to communicate what is close to the core of marriage. It is often used in correction as well, and to sexually train a wife. While westerners balk at kneeling before an authority, often for cultural reasons, kneeling has been a form of reverence for thousands of years,…
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That Group Thing
I have a healthy respect for the variety that exists in marital discipline. However, I want to warn about one aberrant practice that you find in some spanking homes. This is the use of onlookers during a spanking, or even of having others come in and perform the spanking. I make mention of this in…
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Description of a Discipline for Bad Mouth
My wife and I walked into our quiet apartment after our trip. Coming home from about a week away, we took time to put our bags down, and put away a few of the more important things. We talked on the couch a few minutes on our trip and about the coming day. Then I…
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How Spanking Cleanses a Woman
Much can be said about spanking’s punitive abilities, or its deterrent effect. In fact, those are some of the first things we think of when we think of punishment of any kind, and one of the first things that comes to mind with spanking, along with its intimacy and nudity announcing it as profound marital…
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How Spanking Makes Men Better Leaders
We often hear about how spanking can build a woman’s submission, or better her in other ways. I write regularly about that topic myself. I believe we hear a little less about how spanking his wife helps a husband in his role. This element deserves more than passing mention, and is of great significance in…
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Wives Teaching Wives
I’ve only recently used these pages to invite singles to meet here for marriage with a like-minded partner. I want to use this article as a chance for newer wives to meet with more experienced ones. Discipline is a topic that many are private about, and tell few if any people they practice. For this…
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The Use of Restraints
The field of wife spanking comes with some common rituals that occur in the large majority of households. When it comes time for a punishment, it is typical for the wife to place herself over her husband’s lap (after undressing of course), or to bend herself over the bed, or a sofa. She remains in…
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The Swat Heard Round the World.
One of the most interesting parts of running this discipline website is to see all the places it reaches across the world. As a man who wants discipline to benefit many more marriages, and to help couples in learning to practice it, I am greatly enthused that it gets a decent readership across the globe,…
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What a Woman Needs After She is Spanked
I’ve discussed the period of restoration that comes after a spanking before, but I’d like to give an overview of what women need during this sensitive ending to the session. What benefits a woman to receive after the hard time of a spanking is over, but the overall correction is not? She longs to be…
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The Answer to Fears
A lot of women going into being a spanked wife still have worries, even if they have decided this is right and good for them. While everyone has fears, and we learn to overcome them, we don’t want them interfering with submission, or making a wife miserable. Fears can’t be an insurmountable obstacle. What’s most…
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No . . . Not the Cane!
The cane has been an instrument of civic punishment for millennia, and similarly in schools nearly as long. We can see uses of a literal rod for punishment in ancient Greek and Roman schools, as well as in early China and India. Small, primitive tribes in Africa have been known to use various kinds of…
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What Can a Man Do?
I want to answer some of the common questions that men have when they are faced with the possibility of learning to discipline their wives. This might come up because their wives ask them for a spanking, or it might come up because he learned about spanking online and is considering its use. While many…
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Readers Poll: How Does Being Spanked Affect You
Welcome to our third Reader’s Poll. It is addressed to the ladies, but husbands can answer about how their wife responds. If you have not practiced spanking in marriage, you are still free to add your thoughts below. Ladies: How does being spanked affect your behavior? I am careful to behave well in the coming…
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Use of the Warning
The effects of spanking and the effects of your overall leadership as a husband go hand in hand. This is perhaps nowhere more clear than in finding that warnings do immediate good to change her behavior. They don’t involve having to spank her, but only letting her know she will be spanked if her misdeeds…
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Your Place for Singles
I was motivated to write this simply as an invitation to our readers, present and future, to advertise for a spouse if they are single. I’ve had a number of readers ask me about finding a mate, and several specifically asked about finding one here at Spank Your Wife. While singles may put their contacts…
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DD Practices I Do Not Use [PART 2]
Part 1 of this topic covers: Counting Strokes, Journaling, Pleasure Denial and Control, Back Door Training, and Safe Words The Cane: While it’s not the most common instrument, more than a few husbands discipline their wives with a cane. For some it is an instrument kept only for the worst of offenses. The rest of…
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Keeping Her Bare
Nearly anyone experienced in training a wife will tell you the great asset of keeping her bare. That means keeping her bare for training, not just for making love, or for a spanking. Being undressed is an excellent way for her to learn submission to you, and understand deeply how fully she belongs to you.…
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The Mighty Consistency
Perhaps the advice you will hear the most in learning to discipline your wife is the need to be consistent. The dedication that you show by making sure to punish when it is deserved, and not put it off too long, is the backbone of your discipline. You do not go halfway with your leadership…
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Loving the Variety
The lovely playing field of Wife Spanking cannot easily be defined. I have my own personal borders for my discipline manual here, but in practice it can include even more practices than I describe, use, or show appreciation for. The wide array of methods in wife spanking is something to be aware of if you…
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Steps in Turning a Marriage Around
One of the biggest encouragements in teaching discipline is hearing the stories of marriages that turned around because of spanking. I did not go through that myself, having led my marriage in discipline from the start, but I have had good back and forths with men or women who have had their home life go…