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  • Where is Your Consent God Now?

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    There is very public attention given to the need for consent in making a deed right, rather than wrong. It is nearly a litany of the modern era to say — if two consenting adults do it, then I don’t have a problem with it. This is the ham sandwich of the modern diet, and…

  • Online Fakes and Secret Agents

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    An annoyance that’s normal to deal with online is fake people, including those who intend harm. For the most part it’s little more than a passing bother, but some individuals clearly are out to harm you, and are worth staying away from entirely. The main way such people try and get in, whether to a…

  • Men and Women’s Rights in Marriage

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    For people in the West, rights are pretty much the air you breath. Everyone insists on their rights, even if they’re not sure what they are, nor where they really come from. It may seem odd to be proud of our rights in an era when government restrictions control such an incredible amount of life,…

  • Reader’s Poll: Why Did you Start Spanking?

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    Dear Readers, Please let us know why you began spanking in marriage, or why you wish to begin. Leave your replies in the comments. You can view most of the articles on this website organized loosely by topic at the About Page.

  • Taste of the Cane

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    Let me introduce another guest article by Mark, who is writing today about use of the cane in discipline. As with other guest articles, I’ve asked him to write on subjects I do not have hands-on experience with. I have never used the cane for discipline and he has. By all accounts of spanked wives,…

  • YOU

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    There is someone who has been inspiring and encouraging me about the state of marriages. That someone is my dear readers on this site. That’s you. I have been regularly pleased to hear positive changes coming to marriage, as well as men and women who become open-minded and even passionate about applying headship to their…

  • How Silent is a Woman’s Silence

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    Many wives working on being submissive, and unlearning past bad habits, are venturing into new territory. Being obedient to a man, other than her boss at work, is often something unfamiliar to her, and she’s even learned previously to reject the idea. She has made the courageous decision to head into new land, but isn’t…

  • Managing Your Discipline Session

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    Spanking is not the only thing that needs to be firm when guiding your wife. Spanking is the first thing people think of, and it is the act that mostly makes up the punishment, but a husband’s guidance, both during a punishment and in daily instruction, needs to be both firm and clear. A weak…

  • Traditional Marriage and Wife Spanking in India

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    This is a testimony from one of our female Indian readers about upbringing and marriage in traditional Indian, and Hindu families. Her husband has also helped me a great deal in understanding how marriage and family works there. This experience does not reflect every family in India, where in certain places western values have taken…

  • Continuing Discipline when Children are in the Home

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    Most couples enjoy the early period of their marriage, when they have all their time to themselves, and go out whenever they wish. All time is alone time with your beloved. All activities center on you two. As it applies to discipline, that solitude means that you can take care of a correction very quickly.…

  • A Beginner’s Guide

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    I want to make things as easy as possible for visitors to this discipline guide to get the best help possible. We do have many visitors who are new to wife spanking, or who just are curious and want to learn, and I often wonder if it’s hard for them to find the articles which…

  • Trust

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    Besides faith, trust is perhaps most core to a traditional marriage. To practice headship, submission, and the discipline that comes along with it requires trust in God and in your spouse. Both man and wife have an easy ability to do wrong, to cause harm, to intentionally slight the other, and even to dynamite the…

  • Spanking is Not a Lifestyle

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    It is easy for the new married couple to take time to adapt to having discipline in their marriage. In fact, to apply it to your life, for a husband to lead and correct his wife, and for a wife to follow him fully and with her whole heart, takes understanding and is aided by…

  • A Wife and the New World of Spanking

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    This is a personal testimony from one of our readers about getting her first spanking from her husband. I believe it provides a useful picture of how spanking can begin in marriage. I took the kids where they were going, and got a text from my husband that he was already home. I called and…

  • Feel Like a Natural Woman (Part 2)

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    While I’ve written about how natural and fulfilling it is for a woman to be led by her man, and to be spanked, I want to address the goodness of her nature on another level — the physical. The same natural desire to submit, and keen ability to do so, is connected to her being;…

  • Fear in Spanking

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    The aspect of fear is present to some degree in any discipline system. Facing a spanking can be a trial, both because of the coming pain, and because of the ego being taken a step down. It’s one reason disciplined wives try to avoid a spanking, and one reason it is a deterrent. A hard…

  • Learn from Experienced Spanking Husbands

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    When I was new and growing as a spanking husband, I found I gained much from interaction with other husbands who disciplined their wives. No amount of bad material that is out there prevents us from finding some good advice, and it didn’t prevent me. I hope many of our readers, especially the men, are…

  • What a Woman Should Affirm During Discipline

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    I’ve written several times specifically on the need for a husband to lecture his wife, and the importance of her hearing his words of guidance and correction. The importance of verbal communication cannot be overstated. It should be clear and firm, and touch on the main points she needs to learn. On her part, while…

  • I Think I Need a Spanking, Sir

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    Do you ever admit your guilt? Would you ever say you need a punishment? It is a scary prospect to some to actually come and say you deserve a spanking. Spankings are undesirable, and hard to go through. Guilt is not easy to admit. However, being able to openly admit wrongs, even going so far…

  • A Response to MGTOW Fears

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    The phrase MGTOW (men going their own way) is quite the buzz word these days. Like a lot of buzzwords, it describes a real phenomenon, and then subsequently forms a real phenomenon, encouraging people by its simplicity and clear identity to define themselves this way, even if their beliefs, thoughts, and causes are a bit…

  • Making it Past Early Resistance

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    I’ve made it no secret in this discipline guide that much of the motivation for marital discipline comes from the ladies themselves, who desire to be disciplined. It is no stretch to say that most who suggest the wife’s submission, or firm correction, are the wives themselves. Yet despite this encouraging fact, women will find…

  • A Proper Thrashing

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    There comes a time when a wife needs to face not only a spanking, but what is sometimes called a hide tanning, barn burner, or a proper thrashing. In most spanking homes, a woman knows she can face one if she acts up enough. She knows it is different territory as well. No wife wants…

  • Is It Wrong if I Enjoy Spanking?

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    Men and women involved in wife spanking sometimes get the idea that it’s wrong for them to enjoy spanking at all. If there were any level of enjoyment, it is no longer discipline, the logic suggests. They likewise might think that finding some satisfaction in this intimate act of chastisement means they are doing it…

  • A Note on the Warm-Up Spanking

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    While the idea had never occurred to me in many years of spanking, the tool of the warm-up spanking is used by some husbands to ease a corrected wife into her spanking, or more specifically to help her bear the harder end of the ordeal. I can’t speak from experience, but a lighter spanking, either…

  • Does Spanking Empower a Wife?

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    Oh how are you empowered my darling, let me count the ways. Nearly the buzzword of the century for feminism is the word empowerment. We have a whole culture that is unafraid to brag that they care to empower one of the sexes uniquely. Empowerment gets instilled into the mind of young women as what…

  • A Young Wife Learns to Accept Discipline

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    [This is a guest article by our reader Sophia. She describes an early punishment in her marriage, which despite her interest in being disciplined, is very challenging to her. What stands out for me, and I think readers can gain from, is her humility, and deep appreciation of her husband. Even women who desire to…

  • When to Pause or End Spanking

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    Perhaps one of the hardest decisions to make is deciding if spanking needs to be done away with. It’s a big marriage decision to start it, and just as big a decision to step back from. I obviously think spanking is excellent, and helpful for couples in most instances. However, spanking can also carry unique…

  • A Wife’s First Spanking

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    Even a wife who knows that she will be spanked, and who firmly believes in spanking, will feel some hesitancy the first time she awaits going over her husband’s knee. That’s especially true if she was never spanked before, or perhaps if she was spanked as a child, it was so long ago she still…

  • The Crop: It’s for the Horses

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    Smile! That’s right, we keep it with our other gear, our boots, spurs, and riding caps. You’ve got to have one . . . if you ride. A couple that kept stables, or that even rode horses as a hobby could get away with a brazen statement like that with a smile. If you’re not…

  • Mr. Light Hand

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    Some people refer to marital discipline with the term — taken in hand — which is an expression I like, because it connotes the leadership as well as protection a wife has in being in her husband’s hands. That hand of protection, and correction, doesn’t always need to be hard though. While I believe that…

  • Spanking Poll: Who do you know who spanks?

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    This is our fourth spanking poll for readers. Please join in. Men and women can both answer this question the same. Choose any answer that applies to you, and feel free to explain in the comments. What friends do you have who spank? A) I know some people online B) I met some people online…

  • Kneeling in Marriage

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    Kneeling is used in many marriages with discipline to communicate what is close to the core of marriage. It is often used in correction as well, and to sexually train a wife. While westerners balk at kneeling before an authority, often for cultural reasons, kneeling has been a form of reverence for thousands of years,…

  • How Spanking Makes Men Better Leaders

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    We often hear about how spanking can build a woman’s submission, or better her in other ways. I write regularly about that topic myself. I believe we hear a little less about how spanking his wife helps a husband in his role. This element deserves more than passing mention, and is of great significance in…

  • Bad Habits Spanking Puts in the Past

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    I could not begin to tell you all of the improvement I have heard from couples in how spanking changed a wife’s behavior. From small to major problems have been put solidly in the past. They might make an occasional reappearance, but their habit, and the mindset that it’s okay to do, have been taken…

  • Too Good to be Spanked

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    Many couples bring spanking into their marriage to deal with bad behavior, and seriously rotten attitude when it occurs. Many find it useful as overall training in submission as well, building and maintaining a wife’s soft attitude. The subject often comes up, however, of wives who are naturally submissive and have a heart to serve…

  • The Use of Restraints

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    The field of wife spanking comes with some common rituals that occur in the large majority of households. When it comes time for a punishment, it is typical for the wife to place herself over her husband’s lap (after undressing of course), or to bend herself over the bed, or a sofa. She remains in…

  • Humbling a Rebellious Woman

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    Spanking functions well to correct a wife who slips out of her submission, or who chooses to do something harmful. It is a simple guide for her in accomplishing her goal. Spanking becomes more challenging, and discipline needs to be done more thoughtfully when training a rebellious woman to live in peace. Most of the…

  • The Swat Heard Round the World.

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    One of the most interesting parts of running this discipline website is to see all the places it reaches across the world. As a man who wants discipline to benefit many more marriages, and to help couples in learning to practice it, I am greatly enthused that it gets a decent readership across the globe,…

  • When Can a Woman Say No to Her Husband?

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    I write a great deal in my essays here about a woman’s obedience, and the good that correction can do for her. I give plenty of detailed instructions and advice on marital spanking. That does not mean there is never a call for a wife to object to a command, or to refuse. Not at…

  • What a Woman Needs After She is Spanked

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    I’ve discussed the period of restoration that comes after a spanking before, but I’d like to give an overview of what women need during this sensitive ending to the session. What benefits a woman to receive after the hard time of a spanking is over, but the overall correction is not? She longs to be…

  • The Answer to Fears

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    A lot of women going into being a spanked wife still have worries, even if they have decided this is right and good for them. While everyone has fears, and we learn to overcome them, we don’t want them interfering with submission, or making a wife miserable. Fears can’t be an insurmountable obstacle. What’s most…

  • What Can a Man Do?

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    I want to answer some of the common questions that men have when they are faced with the possibility of learning to discipline their wives. This might come up because their wives ask them for a spanking, or it might come up because he learned about spanking online and is considering its use. While many…

  • Readers Poll: How Does Being Spanked Affect You

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    Welcome to our third Reader’s Poll. It is addressed to the ladies, but husbands can answer about how their wife responds. If you have not practiced spanking in marriage, you are still free to add your thoughts below. Ladies: How does being spanked affect your behavior? I am careful to behave well in the coming…

  • Use of the Warning

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    The effects of spanking and the effects of your overall leadership as a husband go hand in hand. This is perhaps nowhere more clear than in finding that warnings do immediate good to change her behavior. They don’t involve having to spank her, but only letting her know she will be spanked if her misdeeds…

  • Consent in a Spanking Marriage

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    The subject of consent comes up immediately for nearly anyone if the subject is disciplining wives. We understand intuitively from our sense of fairness that consent in some form must be given. A spanking is something that most people do not desire. In the moment, they may in fact absolutely not want to experience it.…

  • Your Place for Singles

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    I was motivated to write this simply as an invitation to our readers, present and future, to advertise for a spouse if they are single. I’ve had a number of readers ask me about finding a mate, and several specifically asked about finding one here at Spank Your Wife. While singles may put their contacts…

  • The Spanking Pastor

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    You sometimes hear stories in the world of wife spanking about the spanking pastor. This is the one who actually teaches couples to use spanking in their marriage to discipline the wife, and who also possibly spanks his own dear wife. Like other stories, I am usually skeptical of the reality of the story. I…

  • DD Practices I Do Not Use [PART 2]

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    Part 1 of this topic covers: Counting Strokes, Journaling, Pleasure Denial and Control, Back Door Training, and Safe Words The Cane: While it’s not the most common instrument, more than a few husbands discipline their wives with a cane. For some it is an instrument kept only for the worst of offenses. The rest of…

  • Keeping Her Bare

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    Nearly anyone experienced in training a wife will tell you the great asset of keeping her bare. That means keeping her bare for training, not just for making love, or for a spanking. Being undressed is an excellent way for her to learn submission to you, and understand deeply how fully she belongs to you.…

  • Feel Like a Natural Woman

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    A brief word to the women who desire discipline in their marriage: You are a normal woman and your desire is normal. A woman who wants to experience her man’s strength, including in discipline, is a natural woman. It’s good you want to get spanked. You may be surrounded by friends and peers who think…

  • The Mighty Consistency

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    Perhaps the advice you will hear the most in learning to discipline your wife is the need to be consistent. The dedication that you show by making sure to punish when it is deserved, and not put it off too long, is the backbone of your discipline. You do not go halfway with your leadership…

  • Loving the Variety

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    The lovely playing field of Wife Spanking cannot easily be defined. I have my own personal borders for my discipline manual here, but in practice it can include even more practices than I describe, use, or show appreciation for. The wide array of methods in wife spanking is something to be aware of if you…

  • The Verbal Correction

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    I can never emphasize enough the importance of the husband guiding his wife with words. This goes for giving clear instructions, encouragement, and praise. It also includes providing some amount of correction verbally. He should know he has this tool to use when keeping the home in order. That’s why I recommend using formal verbal…

  • Steps in Turning a Marriage Around

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    One of the biggest encouragements in teaching discipline is hearing the stories of marriages that turned around because of spanking. I did not go through that myself, having led my marriage in discipline from the start, but I have had good back and forths with men or women who have had their home life go…

  • Ode to My Readers

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    When I started this website and spanking manual, I did not expect a great number of readers. I thought it would get some attention since spanking is a spicy subject to many people, and because there are plenty of men and women seriously interested in marital discipline. However, I have been overjoyed to see the…

  • Why They Hate You.

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    The couple that practices discipline knows that mainstream society in this culture hates them. That hatred doesn’t speak for every individual, but it speaks for the leaning of the society, and the bulk of its people. The man who leads his home and disciplines his wife is viewed as an evil abuser and worthy of…

  • I Hate that Thing: The Loop!

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    There is a silent, unassuming tool in the wardrobe of the spanking husband. It’s not as threatening (by appearance) as the paddle, or personal as the belt, and even a poor builder could construct one at home. It whips without making noise, and delivers much more fire to her bottom than appearances would suggest. It…

  • Readers Poll: When do you Spank

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    I hope you enjoy this little poll about spanking. Men and women can both answer, and even if you do not currently spank in marriage or get spanked, you can still share your thoughts below. When do you spank your wife: Ladies, feel free to answer about when you get spanked.

  • Do You Have a Written Contract?

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    It is almost commonplace in depictions of discipline relationships to depict an arrangement with a formal, written contract, one between the master and his servant. It may lay out the rules, the nature of the relationship, and the things which warrant punishment. The contract may even get into the nature of the punishment itself. These…

  • Mouth Soaping Instructions

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    This is another guest article by Mark, a husband who leads his home and spanks his wife. Since the topic is a form of punishment I have never had to use — soaping out the mouth — it is best that another experienced husband write it. I hope you enjoy his perspective and advice. As…

  • Men Afraid to Give a Spanking that Hurts

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    One of the difficulties many men face in beginning to discipline their wives is their own fear of giving a spanking that hurts. Just as they often have discomfort in stepping into a clear authority role, they also have discomfort with the idea of “hurting” their wives, even for their own good. IF this is…

  • Realizing Your Authority

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    One of the difficulties men have in taking on headship over their wives, and also in disciplining them, is in realizing the true authority they have. This may also be a challenge for men who understand they have headship, and believe in it intellectually or spiritually, but have seen headship softened to the extent they…

  • Does Work Outside the Home Make Submission More Difficult?

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    In an era and culture in which most married females work full-time apart from the home, it seems almost exotic or strange to speak on the importance of her place at home, caring for the children, serving her husband, and doing the work of the home. Some claim it is not financially possible to do…

  • Helping a Wife See Her Responsibility

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    Part of your work as a leader in applying discipline is to help your wife see her responsibility for her wrongs. When she knows her responsibility, and ceases making excuses, is when she will benefit most from your correction, be it a verbal, or spanking correction. You need to communicate not just what she did…

  • Getting Started: Three Early Rules

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    I like to help those who are new to discipline in marriage, and encourage others to try it. One of the first questions a man may have in beginning to discipline his wife, is where to start with rules for the home. What rules should he make? It is easy to get into a trap…

  • Spanking Polls for Readers

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    Here is a poll for men and for women. Since I can’t get the polls at WordPress to work, I’ve just written them out, and you can answer them in the comments below if you wish. Feel free to explain. For women:What do you think of spanking? A) I kind of like the idea, but…

  • There is No Such Thing as a Dom

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    Man has a natural desire and need of leadership above him. It is built into his soul. We are meant both the lead, and to be led, in different ways and to different levels of completion. This is why it’s far from rare for people to seek out personal spanking relationships outside of their natural…

  • Discipline and Confession of Sin

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    Since discipline is one way in which a husband may manage his wife’s bad behavior, it can not be wholly separated from the spiritual life. Nothing in the home can be. Discipline — whether spanking or non-physical — is heavily practical in nature, since it corrects bad attitudes and behavior, and keeps them from harming…

  • Discipline Turns Around a Marriage

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    This is a guest article by Mark, who brought spanking into his marriage after it had started, and during a time of difficulty. Since having difficulty, and introducing discipline some time into a marriage, are both common situations, this is a topic I thought would greatly benefit the readers here, and anyone else who might…

  • Practical Submission

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    Even for a woman who desires to be submissive for her husband, living that submission and responding with it daily, can be a challenge. It becomes much more of a challenge for women who have soaked heavily in the current culture, and learned a lifestyle of complete autonomy, and ideas of womanhood that are more…

  • The Hairbrush

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    The hairbrush is among the least conspicuous instruments in wife spanking, and many wives who are spanked this way look askance at the sight of the brush lying out in their room. They hope that it’s presence does not signify anything to come. It may or it may not. If it’s not in front of…

  • Submission of the Bride

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    What is submission in marriage? What is the submission of a woman to her man? There are those who will complicate what this means, and those who will water it down. Others overly qualify it. It is best to speak plainly and clearly on this subject, and I will, just as I do elsewhere. Submission…

  • Oral Training for Your Wife

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    One of the greatest signs of a harmonious marriage, and a beautifully submitted wife is that they share their bodies freely with one another. A wife does not hold back herself physically, and a husband knows he can enjoy his wife when he desires. In contrast, one of the signs of a marriage with conflict,…

  • Preparing to Give a Spanking

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    Don’t go into giving a spanking as a spontaneous affair. On nearly every occasion a man should have a clear idea of how he will perform the discipline of his wife when he needs to spank her. It may be possible that a man could take care of discipline well spontaneously, if he finds she…

  • Experiencing Real Remorse

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    It’s not always easy to feel truly remorseful for a wrong. Sometimes we still wish privately we had gotten away with it, or we simply want to get a punishment over and done with. There is no deep connection with our soul or deep change. Our heart is still semi-hard. Yet that is what every…

  • Spankings Happen Here Part 2: On the Road Again

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    I wrote an article at the start of this discipline manual on the rooms that spankings usually take place. It’s not a major matter when it comes to discipline, but it’s interesting to see what people choose, and why they prefer one room for discipline rather than another. The bedroom is most common. Others may…

  • High Gear and Intensive Training

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    Much of what a husband does in leading his beloved wife amounts to training her. He shapes her to have a right attitude, leads her growth in virtue. Corrects her with gentle words, and with punishments. He aims to make her blossom as a submissive wife and woman of God. As one of the men…

  • Tenderbutts and Domestic Discipline

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    There is a phenomenon in domestic discipline I’ve wanted to write about for a long time now. I call that phenomenon: the Tenderbutts. If you haven’t met them yet you will. No, it’s not wives with very sensitive bottoms. It’s not even people who love a more sensitive brand of wife spanking. It is those…

  • The Enforcer: Keeping an Instrument of Fear

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    Marital discipline is meant to keep a wife in line, and a spanking should be undesirable, and a thing to be feared. Often this is the case. Other times a woman does not want to get the message, and the attraction of disobedience, or personal pleasure convince her to do wrong is worth it, and…

  • It was Worth the Wait

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    One common denominator around most spankings is that there is a wait involved. The wait may be out of necessity, as it is inconvenient or impossible to give the spanking at the moment. The wait may also be intentional, so as to give the wife more time to think about her situation, and to regret…

  • Discipline and Forgiveness

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    Discipline and forgiveness are treated like mortal enemies by some. Confused Christians view them as mutually exclusive even in the Bible, and often in their personal lives too. Yet nothing could be further from the truth. Perhaps the biggest question the Christian has with discipline is this — if I am taught to forgive by…

  • Discipline Practices I Do NOT Use, and Ones I Discourage

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    Husbands who have been leading in discipline for even a short while learn that you are making decisions from early on in building your discipline system, and in how you spank. You learn from trial and error, from imagination, from hearing from other couples and their unique practices. Over time you develop your accepted standards,…

  • The Paddle

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    The paddle has an already established reputation as a tool of punishment in schools, and brings to mind immediately crime and punishment, and the authority figure who will wield it.  The paddle is also a common instrument in marital spanking, and one of the ones you’d least like to meet. There are husbands who use…

  • I’m Counting on You!

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    It’s almost a stereotype in spanking to imagine the person being spanked counting out the strokes, one at a time. Perhaps repeating — I will not [fill in the blank] ever again, sir. This fits in with the notion that every crime receives a certain number of strokes, the unfortunate receiver would find out the…

  • Do You Still Beat Your Wife?

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    I have never beaten my wife, therefore I cannot logically continue to beat her. You can not continue to do what you have never done. I do however spank her when she needs it.

  • Jesus Says Spanking is Bad, M’Kay (Part 2 of 2)

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    Spanking wives among Christians of a past era, was not very rare, and not always hidden. There was a time when not every believer thought they needed to nurture a Mister Rogers image all the time. They understood that Christ’s meekness came with strength. They understood that their roles, whether as husbands and fathers, or…

  • Spanking is Bad, M’Kay (Part 1 of 2)

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    Most people who practice wife spanking aren’t overly swayed by the opinions of the culture. Otherwise, they wouldn’t be doing it in the first place. However, the opinions of the culture do demand the practice is usually private, and often the culture demonizes those who discipline their wives. For that reason, I want to take…

  • What Makes an Effective Spanking

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    If you are leading your home in discipline, or if you are the one receiving discipline, it is natural to ask if spankings are accomplishing what they’re meant to accomplish. The husband is giving them for a desired purpose. How do you know if a spanking is effective? You might ask that about an individual…

  • The Belt

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    The belt as an instrument of discipline holds a special place in the hearts of many who use it, and even those who receive it. Punishment with a belt carries a unique aura that even those who don’t prefer this instrument will admit exists. Some husbands find it their preferred method of discipline, and find…

  • Leading Her with Words

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    I emphasize throughout this manual that spanking your wife is only a tool in leading her. It is not what leading is all about. To make spanking the main way of guiding your wife would be imbalanced and leave her wanting. The daily, regular way of leading, and correcting is with words. Words reach her…

  • That Search Term Guy

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    I’m not the only one fascinated by seeing the search terms that landed readers on my website. My first impression though is just how accurate the large majority of them are, often exactly specifying subjects I’ve posted on, or details I include in the posts. It probably helps that I specify details with tags too.…

  • Calling Him Sir

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    Having a wife speak to her husband with a term of honor during discipline is nearly universal in wife spanking. I will have my wife use “sir,” but you will find it is a personalized choice, and other husbands have their wives use other terms. The use of honorific language, terms that clearly state his…

  • When She Wants to Get Punished

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    A phenomenon many men are familiar with is the wife that does something just so she can get into trouble and be spanked. Usually, it’s something minor, but enough to get her husband’s attention and some time over his knee. This is usually referred to in domestic discipline as bratting, but just think of it…

  • On Standing Her in the Corner

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    When I began spanking in marriage, I did not have much use for the tradition of giving a punished wife time in the corner when she is spanked. I appreciated the need for her to think about her deeds, and to await punishment simply by having her wait for her punishment, usually kneeling before the…

  • Reinforcing Love During Discipline

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    Authority and submission are what are naturally reinforced during a spanking session, and many husbands have rituals that help to firmly establish them in the mind — the wife’s kneeling posture. Her calling him sir, or a similar term of authority. Her needing to be bare. I’ve written on various ways that sessions commonly emphasize…

  • Should I Tell Someone We Spank?

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    It is natural to want to talk about discipline with others, to share encouragement and support, and also to share difficulties, and to seek needed help. This is especially true of the woman, who is dealing with the harder end of the practice, and may want encouragement in learning submission, or in dealing with punishments.…

  • Wife Spanking vs. BDSM

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    When discussing wife spanking in its various forms, someone always asks whether this is the same kind of thing as BDSM, which most people recognize as the whips n’ chains thing. How is this differentiated from the well-known persona of the leather world, or dungeons, or people who sign slave contracts? To tell you the…

  • Reinforcing Authority During Discipline

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    Most husbands make sure that a discipline session reinforces their authority, and their wife’s submission in more ways that just the lecture and spanking. Each husband may have his own practices, or rituals, but nearly all make sure that reinforcement besides the spanking is there. The way he speaks to her, the way she needs…

  • What Damage to Expect

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    For those starting out on their discipline journey, there is some hesitation, or fear about the physical damage it might cause. Neither husband nor wife want a spanking to result in serious injury, and they also will be seeing the bright, and sometimes colorful results of spankings very soon. It would be wrong not to…

  • Is Spanking Only for Surly Women?

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    It’s keen to notice that even those who are accepting of wife spanking tend to think it’s useful only for surly women, or for those who otherwise love it. A man considering spanking for his marriage may think the same way — if she’s got bad attitude I will use it, if not, forget it.…